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To give visiting child hotdogs for tea?

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EssieTregowan · 07/02/2017 09:05

With baked beans, so that counts as healthy, right? Wink

Just an idle ponder really as I know this particular 4yo's mum doesn't mind at all. But when ds2 starts widening his friendship group are the other mums going to judge if the fare on offer is quick stuff like pasta pesto, or nuggets, or plastic sausages?

Tuesdays are really the only day we can have his friends round, but it's also the day the shopping comes and it doesn't come until 4.30 so dinner is very often the quickest option .

Would you judge? Or would it not even cross your mind?

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Mrsemcgregor · 07/02/2017 09:21

It wouldn't bother me. My DB however would loose his mind if I fed his DD hotdogs. He is massively anxious about choking (he choked as a child) and hotdogs are a choking hazard. I guess other people would feel the same as my brother.

Lovelybangers · 07/02/2017 09:22

I'd prefer to feed the DC the baked beans on toast. Hot dog sausages and all processed meat products are grim imo.

dementedpixie · 07/02/2017 09:22

Only one of mine likes beans and ds only likes pasta with no sauce on it!

dementedpixie · 07/02/2017 09:24

Not all hotdogs are equal though. The ones the op has mentioned don't have mechanically separated meat and have more pork than most pork sausages. I think it's snobbery tbh

minipie · 07/02/2017 09:24

I'm all for healthy eating but this is one meal, I couldn't get too bothered.

I might be a bit Hmm if you fed my child a bag of Haribo and cup of Coke as their tea but as long as you've given them something that vaguely covers the food groups I'm fine with that.

minipie · 07/02/2017 09:25

I may be influenced by the fact that I secretly love Herta Frankfurters Blush

ShatnersBassoon · 07/02/2017 09:25

I don't think the higher % of 'pork' necessarily means they're a quality item in the case of frankfurters. I'd rather eat rusk and other non-meat fillers than mystery pureed pig parts.

I wouldn't be bothered if someone gave them to my kids though. They're not as fussy as me so would happily demolish them.

Whathaveilost · 07/02/2017 09:26

I would probably shug it off but secretly wonder why you wouldeven hzve these things in the house.
There are better quick processed foods.

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 07/02/2017 09:27

Wouldn't worry me other than the fact my DCs don't actually like them so wouldn't eat them. It's one meal, people don't like it then they don't have to send them to yours again.

fleuricle · 07/02/2017 09:28

Mine wont eat 'plastic' food so I wouldn't serve 'hotdogs'.
It is the only cheap and nasty food I'd prefer them not to have.

We have 'hotdogs' made with 95% pork chipolatas. They are lovely.

For a visiting child I will usually ask but it tends to be pizza / pasta/ chipolatas / beans.

OnHold · 07/02/2017 09:29

Wouldn't bother me and I'd just take the piss out of any precious mummy type who judged.

MyWineTime · 07/02/2017 09:29

I wouldn't offer to host someone's kid again if the parent commented on the food.
^^ yes this!
It's one meal. I really couldn't get worked up over it.

5moreminutes · 07/02/2017 09:29

arethereany two people on this thread have posted that one of their children won't eat pasta Wink My DC3 gags at the texture though we do keep trying him with it...

The comments on this thread just show that there is absolutely nothing that is absolutely a fail safe, so just offer something your kids like! If you are very kind have a second option and ask when the child arrives whether they like x (do you like hotdogs little Freddie? No? Well we'll do you a cheese sandwich instead shall we?) But really the tea isn't actually the point of going to tea, and as long as you don't leave the child really hungry and sad any parent who complains is far too high maintenance to bother with (allergies excepted obviously, but anyone with a grain of sense will talk to you in advance if they have allergies or are a strict veggie/ have religious restrictions or whatever).

RiversrunWoodville · 07/02/2017 09:29

My dd1 is the only child I've ever met in her circle who won't eat pizza in any shape or form but aside from that she'd love you (can I come frankenfurters were my childhood bf greatest pleasure she has recently moved back to the area I must get some for usour dcs )

Theimpossiblegirl · 07/02/2017 09:30

It wouldn't bother me, but DD would prefer some cucumber and carrot sticks to beans (less mess too).

rumblingDMexploitingbstds · 07/02/2017 09:30

Oh the horror - where's the hummus for goodness sake? OP it doesn't even sound like you knit your own bread! Shock

I may have to ring 101.

NapQueen · 07/02/2017 09:32

Going to a friends for tea and going to a party are my "couldn't give a shit" examples for nutrition. Other parents can serve any food to my dc they want, seriously. No judgement.

I offer a wide and varied diet so one crap meal a week really ain't that bad.

Vinorosso74 · 07/02/2017 09:32

My DD would be very happy as she loves hot dogs. I would be happy you'd given her dinner.
When you have other kids over it is harder and not always the best time to offer the healthiest dinner ever. I often do pizza with raw veggies or if it's lunchtime a kind of picnic lunch seems ok.

gleegeek · 07/02/2017 09:32

No I wouldn't judge at all. Even if the child comes from a 100% organic free range lentil eating home, one less than wholesome meal surely isn't worth worrying about? If the child is happy to eat it, great.
The converse is my dd was always being invited to her nearly vegan friend's house for tea. She ended up begging me to pick her up before tea as the food was unrecognisable to her and she found it stressful...
I think a happy medium is probably best!

ohtheholidays · 07/02/2017 09:33

The only thing I wouldn't be keen on them eating and I know they'd try and be polite and eat some but they'd struggle would be any real cheap sausages/burgers/nuggets (if it's got a good percentage of meat then no problem)bar that they'd eat pretty much anything.

MixedGrill · 07/02/2017 09:34

Herta frankfurters occasionally are fine.

OK, they are 'cured' so not good for everyday, just as bacon isn't.

But protein is protein and the contents of German sausages are probably the same as what is known as 'nose to tail' eating at St John and various hipster restaurants.

Sparklingbrook · 07/02/2017 09:34

This thread is hilarious. Grin

Just serve the hotdogs.

ThatsWotSheSaid · 07/02/2017 09:37

My DD who is 6 goes to a friends house where they give her hotdogs and other things she is not allowed at home because she has sensitivities to additives and can get hyper and then crash afterwards. But I'm too afraid of being 'that parent' to say anything.
Id serve something more healthy but easy like soup and bread or cheese on toast. Pasta pesto sounds good too.

MrsderPunkt · 07/02/2017 09:38

I don't get the hotdog hysteria. If I boil bones/chicken carcass and scrape off the bits of meat for stock or other recipes it's a good thing. Put some in a sausage and it becomes food of the devil.

DontTouchTheMoustache · 07/02/2017 09:38

I wouldn't mind. My one year old currently feeds all.his dinner to the dog regardless of what I make for him so I've taken to only bothering to give him fish fingers or nuggets etc as he doesn't bloody eat it anyway.

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