To give visiting child hotdogs for tea?

[EssieTregowan]

With baked beans, so that counts as healthy, right?

Just an idle ponder really as I know this particular 4yo's mum doesn't mind at all. But when ds2 starts widening his friendship group are the other mums going to judge if the fare on offer is quick stuff like pasta pesto, or nuggets, or plastic sausages?

Tuesdays are really the only day we can have his friends round, but it's also the day the shopping comes and it doesn't come until 4.30 so dinner is very often the quickest option .

Would you judge? Or would it not even cross your mind?

Art, I guess I'm thinking about after school playdates. If we do have kids over on the weekend and we're all eating then they eat what we're eating. For a lunch that's likely to be baguettes or bagel and fillings or or a for a dinner, yes it's more substantial and can be whatever but thinking about it I tend to have teens who eat with us at the weekends, not little ones, and they're generally ok to eat whatever I put on the table be it a roast, lasagne, casserole, soup. At that point if they don't like what I'm making they can have a sandwich or wait till they get home.

My son hates sausages but other than that I quite expect quick convenient food to be served on a playdate.

If I was to serve 'every day evening food' to our boy's friends, most of them wouldn't eat it.

The friends they would bring home are most likely the vegan boy( who is a dream to cook for) or the kids that only eats sandwiches for his tea or 'playdate' food.

We eat a lot of spicy stuff and ethnic food. OH feels he has been diddled if there is no meat/fish/eggs on the plate. Easier for me to stick with the playdate stuff.

Enjoying cooking and eating tasty, varied real food isn't an eating disorder expat.

Personally, I think it's pretty sad that anyone is serving up pasta and Dairylea cos they can't be arsed to cook a proper meal, but hey ho. That's just my opinion.

Dinner is my favourite part of the day.

I don't buy value sausages? I don't eat much meat so when I do I buy the best, it doesn't work out any more expensive or any less healthy eating less meat but better cuts. Sick of the obsession with cheap shit processed meat, battery eggs etc but that's another thread...
My point is: there are those on this thread who would judge a parent who gave a visiting child a hotdog and beans but would not judge a home made toad in the hole. No-one, surely, is going to admit to being so rude that they would question a host on the quality of their sausages:
'Thanks for having him, but can I just check, the sausages they had for tea weren't cheap ones were they? Oh Good Grief!! I must get you to A+E immediately darling...now where is the ipecac?'
....and as the meat in frankfurters or bockwurst isn't necessarily worse than in British style sausages I'm questioning why one would be judgey of one type over the other.

If someone is hosting my child for dinner, I don't care if you give them sugar sandwiches washed down with Mountain Dew. I'm grateful, thank you.

Somehow - the supermarkets and frozen food centres are packed with cheap shit processed meat products so they are being bought and eaten by millions of people. Just because you've not met one doesn't mean they're not out there.

I always stick to a 'safe' tea when the kids friends come over- kids always prefer what they're used to, so my bolognaise will be different to how their parents cook it etc, so I stick to nuggets, pizza, fish fingers etc. It's simple and most kids will eat it, which is my main aim when feeding somebody else's child! It's also a treat day anyway as they're having a friend over, so everything in moderation is fine.

And Expat is right, it is disordered eating. It's called orthorexia.

Twist - Most hotdogs are definitely processed crap. There is a better chance that sausages are not. That's the only difference really.

And I don't defend sausages that much either unless they are good ones.

TeethDrama I didn't say I don't know people who eat processed meat/battery eggs. I just don't know anyone who is obsessed with those things. Weird thing to be obsessed over.

SaucyJack, enjoying cooking good food to please yourself in your own home is not an eating disorder.

But getting all angsty because your child is given something less than optimal on a one-off playdate in somebody else's house seems to be verging on orthorexia.

My favourite part of the week is the Saturday planning meeting where dh and I sit down with a cup of coffee and an array of cookery books to plan the week's cooking. But that absolutely does not mean I feel the need to worry about what other people do, or that I could not dish up a jam sandwich to a small child who needed reassuring.

Somehow- slightly pedantic of you but ok then, change obsessed for "likes them a lot and can't see anything wrong with it."

Talking of visiting children, my late MIL's absolute favourite contribution to family lore on that subject was the small friend of dh's who very politely told her that "that looks lovely, Mrs X, but I am afraid I only eat modern food". 50 years later, MIL was still pondering what modern food might entail.

Angst over one meal might be orthorexia.

Otoh if you accept that one portion of nitrite containing food is considered to be the same risk as smoking one cigarette you might be less sanguine about hotdogs etc.

I would worry my children might develop a taste for crap. What's wrong with eggs, quick, cheap and nutritious.

Bloody hell Esspee, we're talking about hotdogs, not crack.

My kids' friends thought I could only cook spaghetti bolognese as we always happened to be having it when anyone came for tea. Likewise, every time my daughter's boyfriend stays for tea, we seem to have curry!

Twist - Most hotdogs are definitely processed crap. There is a better chance that sausages are not. That's the only difference really.

I disagree. Equal chance they are crap, though likely higher meat content in hot dog.. Pointless to worry and judge one over the other...and it's only one meal! In fact judging a parent who has hosted your child (unless they have put your child in danger) is a bit off altogether.
Ingredients of Hessy's hot dogs (the most popular fresh hotdog in Tescos) (10 for £1):

Pork Meat 78%, Water, Potato Starch, Salt, Flavourings, Stabilizers: E450, E451, Antioxidant: E301, Preservative: E250

Ingredients of Richmond thick pork sausages (the most popular brand at Tesco the moment): (12 for £3)

Pork (42%), Water, Pork Fat (10%), Rusk (Wheat), Starch (Potato, Wheat), Vegetable Protein (Pea, Soya), Less than 2%: Salt, Flavourings, Stabilisers: Diphosphates, Guar Gum, Antioxidants: E300 & E307, Preservative: Sodium Metabisulphite; Colour: Cochineal, Casings made from Beef Collagen

Just because Gillian McKeith said hot dogs were crap doesn't mean they are any more crap than many other convenience foods. To judge someone over their choice of one food over another is a) bonkers and b) rude.

rouge you have some seriously odd attitudes surrounding food.
Didn't you ban your 17 year old from drinking tea and coffee?

Time to unclench I think.

Incidences of cancer is more closely linked to genetics than anything else. I understand why you have your concerns but one sausage will make very little difference over the course of a lifetime.

OP if you are feeding other peoples kids they should be greatful as long as you aren't poisoning them intentionally!

Orange bird I said CRAP, not CRACK.

As long as you cut them up for small children- they are the no1 cause of death by choking in children folllowed by grapes.

Esspee I know what you said. 😂

Man, this thread has made me HUNGRY. I'm going to the shop to buy a tin of beans with mini hot dogs in. And some crap white sliced for dipping.