To be pissed off that I have a family of grazers who eat nothing but shit.

[YoureNotCockingHungry]

Sorry for the rambly post- trying not to drip feed.

I'm no angel. I eat as much pap as everyone else. I haven't eaten gluten for 20 years having been diagnosed with an intolerance so bread, cakes, biscuits, convenience foods are limited for me.

I have two dc who are easy- they eat whatever I cook and will drink water in between meals. I have one dc who is a nightmare and very fussy- please don't tell me to withhold food from her because she actually will starve herself and had to go to hospital and be put on an IV drip rather that eat food that had moisture in.

The problem is dh he gives in to my fussy dc. He goes out and does a separate shop for them- crisps X36 packets a week, mulripackets of biscuits, salty snacks-and in between 3 square meals he grazes on this stuff constantly- I only noticed this when he started working from home a year ago.

My dc has gone downhill- she's have dental isssues to due poor diet, she's constantly dehydrated and the whinging is unbelievable, she struggles at school and leaves in tears because she's so famished (she leaves 70% of her packed lunch untouched) I'm at the end of my tether. It took me YEARS to get her to the point of eating a healthy balanced diet and now honestly it's all gone to shit.

Sorry to be such a whiney cowbag- just spent two hours cooking to have to put half of it in the bin when I know I'm 45 minutes dh and DC will be gorging on crisps, pepperamis and chocolate.

Dh- If ever he's in charge of the DC NEVER cooks it's always takeout -

For the interests of clarity I could be wrong but I'm not a shit cook. I cook regularly for friends and neighbours .

Oh I feel a bit better now

Bizarre. This is a thread about crisps and junk food why are you banging on about party invites?!I don't know you and expressed the view that not replying to party invites is quite rude. Obviously if someone is prostrate on the floor or something then they can't respond and that's that but would imagine a rather rare scenario. I work with the terminally ill they often text and email me.

side steps the derailment of the thread

Has any of the above been helpful, OP?
Got any plans of action?

Yeah, that makes sense You'renot - I wouldn't save it under those circs either!

When mine don't eat anything, they just leave it - no sauce, no mixing it up - so it's ok to put in the fridge covered and be re-used another day. Yours - no.

I have no other useful input re. your DH - he has a problem, for sure, but he's definitely justifying his own actions by involving your fussy DD in his extremely poor habits too. If I were you, I'd seriously consider talking to your GP about the situation - while s/he can't do anything on your say so, they might be able to offer some advice/ help.

Thanks grey

Gave Dh an ultimatum. Leave and work away again, back me change eating habits whilst in the company of DC or we split.

Incredibly shocked that he chose the latter. I have suggested the food counsellor but he had flat out said no- he has no problem he is just a glutton

I told him if he continues the way his parents have I won't hang around and let him kill himself. A medical is also non negotiable

I neglected to say his dad had a stroke 5 years ago, didn't change his ways (is also diabetic) did nothing in terms of leading a healthier lifestyle and is now confined to a chair and has the mobility of a 90 year old he's in his early 60s and his mother is just as bad.

He offered to bin everything that didn't meet with my approval and I told him we'd be Buying the DC separate boxes and once the supplies were gone they're gone.

We shall see what happens. The ease has unnerved me somewhat!

Perhaps he has sense that you really mean it this time and you are prepared to split rather than put up with the status quote...

I really did mean it.

I imagine my calmness must've really
Spooked him.

So you say "he chose the latter" - does that mean he actually does want to split? He sounds awful

I sympathise OP. My DD is five and eats nothing but junky processed shit. It's completely behavioural. And like yours, she'd rather starve than eat something she claims not to like - even a home made chicken goujon. If it too closely resembles the texture of real chicken, she won't touch it.

It's a massive thing though, you can't raise children like that. Take your time to think things over, it must be a shock. But that doesn't mean splitting is the wrong thing to do. I wouldn't risk my kids health like that. And I couldn't find a man like that attractive, either.

Do you mean he chose the former? Or are you really going to split?

I think the latter means he has to help/back the op up with giving the kids healthier foods, or split. So he's chosen to help, which is the best outcome!

Good luck op

As opposed to the former, which was to go and work away again.

Sorry to be so fuzzy
Zippi's got it.

Day 1
So far so good.

Breadsticks, toast and apples have been consumed post school runs !

Ah so glad he's on board - hope he keeps it up

Good result so far, well done OP.

Bloody well done OP.

I'm not counting my wholesome chickens yet
Although the one I roasted earlier all went just stock bones left!

Dh ate chocolate tonight but waited until kids were in bed then asked if I minded

Thank you for your support.

Good luck OP.

Here's hoping he isn't just trying to lull you into a false sense of security.....

Oh good! So glad he's making a big effort, You'renot - hope he keeps it up! AND he might lose some weight himself as a by-product, which can't be a bad thing.