WWYD? Spotting someone on MN.

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I spotted someone I know on MN tonight. I would never have guessed it was them. They posted a while back about an issue and I read the thread at the time none the wiser. I'm now torn whether to mention it or pretend I never saw it?

Has this happened to anyone else?

I think I'd want a pm, so I could then decide whether I wanted to NC or not. As it is, she might continue posting under that name stuff she really wouldn't want you to know, and then if she ever did find out you knew it would be awful for her.

ShaniaTwang it was a bit stressful at the time as ex-h decided to submit his "evidence" only moments before a court hearing which gave me no time to deal with it. As it happens, the Judge didn't mention it at all and I think he looked a complete prick. He IS a complete prick and remains thus. From POV I just thought how "nice" it must have been for him and OW to read about what utter pieces of shit they were (and still are) and what people thought of them generally...as every word posted was actual provable fact. Oh dear.

I recognise someone on here, but we're not close friends. She's a friend of a friend and we're friends on FB. I haven't told her I recognise her as I don't think she'd care. She's a regular/longstanding poster anyway so don't think she'd name change. I'd rather not know if someone recognised me I think, but I name change from time to time anyway.

And yep, I'm checking my inbox now.
I think I've posted enough identifying things that someone has probably recognised me, although it depends how many people I know in RL happen to be on MN.
If there's anything I don't want people in RL to know I NC so it's not associated with my main name.

I would want to know, I would want the chance to name change and possibly have posts removed where necessary. I come here to be anonymous and would like to keep it that way.

I've recognised a few people, from real life and other forums. I've not said a word, apart from on one occasion, the person denied knowing me but I still know it was them.

Is it me? It's me, isn't it??

Dammit!

A close friend of mine one posted about me, and some scars I have, I'm quite distinctive (read odd) looking and she has a wonderful, very distinctive writing style, so I'm sure I was her.

If she's still on here, Z, wassup? :D

I couldn't care less who knows me and who doesn't but to be honest, I have very few people in real life that I like much anyway so that leaves me quite safe on ere to spout what I like . I wouldn't say anything op.

Of course there's a possibility you might not be right. A friend who knows I am on MN thought she'd worked out my MN name and was wrong.

Don't think I was able to properly convince her of that though! There were a few similarities between me and the other poster.

Thanks all. Like the throwaway username idea. I am 100% it's her.

Changed my mind I would want to know.

I'm spotter a family friend once. I knew fine well I wouldn't just forgot the username, so I gave them the heads up and they nc'd.

I think I'd want to know so I could NC.

I think it's a cruel trick to pull outing people. If you post in an anonymous forum you want to be ananomoys.

Someone pmd me asking if I was a person I know well. I had posted about a very serious personal incident and I think it was a journalist.

If she wanted you you to know her issues she would have told you in RL.

mrsform how awful for you!

There are tens of millions of people in the country,Some are bound to be going through the same thing at the same time.I think it is easy to jump to conclusions about who someone might be!

I name change every few weeks for this reason.

Oo that's a tricky situation. How close are you?

Ooooh my god every single one of us are now clenching our bum cheeks in anticipation of receiving a PM from OP

I honestly think the rule to abide by with posting on MN or anywhere really is that unless you're prepared to be outed, don't do it or name change regularly. It really doesn't bother me at all. I have nothing to hide, nobody to hide from, what I post is about my RL or will be about a subject I can assist with or give advice on. I honestly don't care if anybody knows it's me. For very many others, it's a critical situation and I think if you find yourself in an awkward position in that regard, contact the poster directly and tell them. During my divorce situation I had very many PM's from people who clearly knew who I was and what the situation was about but still they chose a veil of anonymity and it's all a bit pathetic really. Choose your audience carefully depending on your circumstances is my advice.

No we aren't particularly close at all, we have a shared interested. The thing she went through is very similar to something I went though (she doesn't know about this - as me anyway) and it's quite rare/taboo & I often felt I was the only person in the world going through it. Yes it is a million per cent her, there are no doubts.

I would consider it,and did consider it, as a form of bullying as in 'I know who you are in RL' wierd stalker almost blackmail thing to do.

don't mention it! I would be mortified if someone noticed me on here. I think it's like just don't mention it.

It's not about having nothing to hide it's about choosing to share with anonymous posters and not people in your RL. If you think you spot someone do the decent thing and shut the fuck up.

oh god now I'm off to name change. I'd want to know btw. Horrible situation to be in - sorry for you, WhatYouAre!