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To ask how you expect to be treated on your birthday?

103 replies

Mrsknackered · 03/02/2017 19:31

Tomorrow is my birthday and wondered how your birthdays are in your house!..please let somebody in this house remember

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Whathaveilost · 03/02/2017 20:28

I have come to expect to be treated like the most important person ever!

I have a meal out with DH and the boys and their girlfriends and I have a meal our with my friends ( about 12 of us)
Lots of presents and treats.
I usually take the day off work and go to spa in the day time with DS's gf.

I'm 52 now and have always adored my birthday?

Whathaveilost · 03/02/2017 20:29

I didn't mean to put aquestion mark at the end of my sentence!

user1485706893 · 03/02/2017 20:30

I might get a lie in and maybe a card if dh remembers. He has anxiety and depression issues though so I let it go. First mothers day he stayed in bed all day though, that got to me more!

RainyDayBear · 03/02/2017 20:31

Cards, presents, cake, dinner out wine Grin

58NotBothered · 03/02/2017 20:33

Happy Birthday!
I like cards and flowers. Being taken out for a decadent lunch. Famous composers ringing me up and singing and playing happy birthday down the telephone, but that is about it. Presents definitely optional.

PotatoWaffleCob · 03/02/2017 20:36

Happy Birthday tissue and Happy Birthday for tomorrow OP

For my birthday I like to not cook dinner and to have an MnS choc birthday cake. That's about it. Oh and the traditional call from my DM who will retell my birth story, fawn lots and tell me I'm still her baby Smile

LauraPalmersBodybag · 03/02/2017 20:43

Firmly in the second camp over here! We have a family tradition of a birthday breakfast - wrapping paper rolled over the table, flowers, some nice food and sweets scattered over the table. Maybe the odd balloon or two... definitely presents, they don't need to be expensive, but thoughtful is important. Then a nice day or evening spent, maybe a nice lunch out if not at work. Before I had a baby, I would always be at the pub in the evening. This year they'll be less drinking but plenty of celebration. This applies to everyone btw, not just me. My DH and DD both get special days.

(Footnote: I grew up in a house with very little celebration. I actively make up for this now I'm a grown up)

LauraPalmersBodybag · 03/02/2017 20:45

Ps....

🎈🎈🎈HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP 🎈🎈🎈

CakeWineFlowers

PeggyMitchell123 · 03/02/2017 20:47

I love my birthday and a fuss! Birthdays are not just for children here. Dh books the day off work, gives me gifts from him and ds and we usually go out for the day and for dinner of my choice. We do the same for his birthday. This year we are on holiday for his 30th. Got lots of little surprises planned for him.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 03/02/2017 20:51

Last couple of years we have been on holiday on my birthday, so I get to choose what we do that day. Last year we had a BBQ on the beach and then went to the pub after while DS stayed in the caravan watching telly (he didn't feel well enough to go out).

WhooooAmI24601 · 03/02/2017 20:59

We make a fuss of Birthdays in our house. It's not for everyone but for us we just love celebrations and having folk over. For adult and child birthdays we have cake, a tea party, cards, gifts and family/friends over. DH is brilliant at gifts and hasn't ever forgotten/needed reminding. He's always been very attentive with stuff like that (but doesn't ever see the kids spitty mange all over the bathroom sink and wipe it off, so swings and roundabouts).

I think it's become habit because I grew up in foster care and never had a birthday party so always felt it was important to give our DCs better memories. It's DH's 40th this year but he hates parties so I've booked for us to go to Paris with friends. We do big stuff for 'big' birthdays and more 'normal' stuff for the rest.

CockacidalManiac · 03/02/2017 21:04

I'm not too far off fifty, and I still like a bit of a fuss on my birthday. I always make a fuss of other people, because that's how I like to be treated.
Life's too short not to have nice birthdays.

BestZebbie · 03/02/2017 21:07

Small gifts (book, socks etc) and cards from DH, parents and MIL - hopefully also from DS when he is a bit older. A cake, but possibly made myself. Some sort of minor 'event' on a nearby weekend delegated as a birthday treat, but it might be eg: a family day out to a toddler attraction that we would probably have done anyway or a trip to a local cafe for coffee/cake by this stage, not a holiday or a party.

roseteapot101 · 03/02/2017 21:10

happy birthday

On my birthday i usually get one present from my guy ,we have a nice meal and watch a movie.

iamapixiebutnotaniceone · 03/02/2017 21:16

A happy birthday and a hug of the children, maybe a takeaway for tea. If we have a bit of spare cash maybe a family day out. I would be upset if nobody remembered!

milliemolliemou · 03/02/2017 21:17

Happy Birthday OP. Haven't celebrated birthdays or anniversaries since I was a teenager apart from DC's since I tend to forget/ignore dates for me, DH and whomever. Tend to forget my own and am not great being overwhelmed with presents and cards. But you have a great time.

kel1234 · 03/02/2017 21:18

Same as any other day. My husband likes to make a fuss but I don't expect it

Talith · 03/02/2017 21:19

A card written (under duress prob) from kids plus a present or two. Being excused from normal responsibilities as far as possible. Last bday me and husband went for a nandos and movie a day later as we both had to work on the day.

Talith · 03/02/2017 21:21

I expect nothing from friends and family so any card or gift is a bonus and appreciated. Not the party type 😀

haveacupoftea · 03/02/2017 21:23

Happy birthday, a present and bottle of fizz from DP and a takeaway and i'm happy Smile

Will get a few birthday wishes on Facebook and Whatsapp and a present from my Grandparents and Aunts and Uncles too.

Sweets101 · 03/02/2017 21:26

I expect to be treated the same way I treat them on their birthday

Fibbertigibbet · 03/02/2017 21:27

I expect a bit of a fuss, a card and a little something to open. We usually go for a meal out, too.

Drmum123 · 03/02/2017 21:31

Its my birthday today and i have had a lovely day! In an ideal world i would have the day in bed watching netflix alone! However as have 7 year old, 5 year old, 2 year old and ebf 11 week old......that is never going to happen! As husband had to be in work early we all got up at half six and came downstairs. DH and kids had decorated downstairs with loads of balloons and banners. The kids had all made me really sweet cards and had a little stack of presents to give me ( my favourite sweets, make up, my favourite bubble bath etc ....not expensive but thoughtful). DH had bought me a new phone which was a total surprise as mine had broken and we had decided i could use an old one until mat leave finished, and we dont usually do big gifts to each other! Then unfortunately dh had to go to work (so he could be back early)! I did school run, then went to a lovely baby group where we ate cake. My fantastic MIL also came to group as a surprise, and held baby so i could play with toddler. Then sister came round and we went for lunch- she had got me a case for new phone. Then had family learning thing in school, which was quite fun....although five year old insisted on telling everyone it was my birthday and how old i am. Then went out to dinner with DH, kids, MIL and sister. Then went to parents and had presents there! Then came home with kids and had cake and movie night!

Its not like the world needs to stop and revolve around you or people need to spend lots on you, but it is nice to feel a bit special and spoilt on your birthday....it only happens once a year!

Mrsglitterfairy · 03/02/2017 21:37

I love my birthday. I'm 31 this year but still love it like a child. Mine is this coming Tuesday and I can't wait. I will get presents off DH and DCs in the morning. Then I will go out for breakfast with my friends as work always give you the day off for your birthday. The rest of the day will be spent doing what I wish then DH and I will be going out for a meal at the night. And on Wednesday my mum & I have a spa day booked. Oh and I went out with my friends last week. I get presents off my friends, work colleagues, a couple of cakes.
Happy birthday to you OP Flowers

ginswinger · 03/02/2017 21:49

Sadly my Dad passed away on my birthday so I take myself off and have a really nice gin in a really nice place and think about him for a bit. I like to be a bit alone for birthdays now, they are a time to remember him.

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