To ask how you expect to be treated on your birthday?

[Mrsknackered]

Tomorrow is my birthday and wondered how your birthdays are in your house!..please let somebody in this house remember

What do you do for your DH's birthday?

Bit of a fuss here, nice cards and gifts. Small get together with food. I like birthdays and plan for them.

ThisMorningWentBadly my goodness, that could so be my DP.
I would love a card also, absolutely love a fucking card but 'cards are a waste of tree'

Ohfourfox happy birthday! 🍰 I hope you are able to enjoy it despite the parental visit...

Same as any other day, I had no involvement with the earth orbiting the sun so dont feel the credit is mine

I take the day off work and milk it, tea in bed etc, takeaway dinner. We always go to the cinema for a treat for all of us in the afternoon. My birthday is 23rd December so DC never in school and everybody ready for some pre-xmas fun!

Somehow this year he left for work stupidly early but came home too a card and picture by the boys, a him cooked meal and two presents to open.
The next evening his sister babysat for us and I took him out for the evening, and invited his friends.
Year before that I was working away but had left presents and a card for him and ordered them a surprise take away.
I take things like birthdays seriously though because I think everyone deserves to be made to feel special sometimes. I don't want a huge fuss, just some appreciation and some thought.

I want to be made a fuss of. I always make a massive effort for other people's birthdays, I like the whole breakfast in bed followed by cards and presents. Then I want a family day out (that I'll organise) where everyone is cheerful. If it's a work day, instead of a day out I'll settle for dinner.

You too Mrs

The parental visit will be fine, I just get sad at this time of year and but have to put a front on (grandma's funeral was on 5 February a few years ago)

Try to do something for you, even if it's having a long hot bath and a glass of wine. Anything that you enjoy - your dh can just take responsibility whilst you relax a bit. Or go for coffee with a friend, or the old MN favourite- a spa day!

Minimum: presents, cards, nice dinner at home.

Same for all other family on their birthdays.

I find it very weird to give your mum a gift on your birthday. That may say something about my relationship with my mum!!

Dh and I make a big deal of our birthday. We take the day off and usually make plans for the day for the birthday person. It's really lovely being spoilt. I don't think there's an age where it should stop. Even as children our parents made it special for each other and got the kids involved so we grew up also making a big deal of our dps birthdays.

My birthday is in summer, so I always book the day off work and go out for the day with my family - then we have a meal out in the evening. My mum still makes me a birthday cake, even though I'm in my 40s, which I absolutely love!

Cards, present and nice dinner out. We don't do anything for adults at Christmas so I do like to make a fuss on my birthday

I expect a card from dd and dh, maybe a little gift (but I usually buy myself something nice and tell dh not to bother). He usually makes a cake and we either go out for dinner or have a really nice home cooked one. And I usually go out for some drinks with a few friends. Love it!

Cards from the children (done in advance, not on the morning). Card or present from DH. A slice of cake at some point in the day. A cup of tea in bed. I usually get the tea. Sometimes cake (sourced by me during the day). Rarely cards or presents. It was the subject of a big row recently 😡

A happy birthday and hugs from DC's. I'm happy.

I know friends who spend a small fortune on family birthdays (DC's, spouses) I'm talking hundreds of pounds a time enough to equal my Xmas expenditure
It's always made me but each to their own. Everyone deserves a happy birthday do they not?

Happy Birthday for tomorrow Mrsknackered 🎂

Of course a birthday lunch, and afternoon coffee with cake is always, always welcome 😊

I think it depends how you were brought up.

My dh doesn't want cards or presides and would be happy with a text. He was from a very large family.

I am from a different style upbringing and whilst I'm not bothered about gifts etc I'd expect my tea out - even if it was McDonalds/Wagamama's/Nando's- I don't cook tea on my birthday.

It was my birthday yesterday! DP asked if I wanted my present in the morning, I get up at 5.30 so declined. He did get up and make my coffee for my commute whilst I was getting ready which was nice. I got a card and flowers from my colleagues, met a friend for coffee in the afternoon (although ended up talking about work). Finished work early and met DP in the city for a very nice dinner, opened gifts at dinner. Was lovely. My girlfriends are taking me out next Friday night, which I guess will be dinner and a show. Was very lovely!

Happy birthday for tomorrow

On my birthday I expect to be treated like a queen not that it ever happens.

I think with birthdays people fall into 'just another day camp' and 'royalty for the day camp'
(I'm in camp two obviously) I think it can cause problems when camp one people are married / partners with camp two people.
Camp two people go all out for camp ones birthdays, because to them they are special and don't get the same in return which causes resentment.

This used to happen with me and dh I remember on his 30th birthday I threw him a surprise party that he really loved with all his old / new friends, I took him to a posh hotel and bought him a limited edition vinyl (pink floyd best artists ever) and an expensive watch. He raved about how much he loved his birthday.

For my 30th I've got to admit I was expecting something as grand, he invited my family and a few friends up for a party the week before, he'd left it so late only a few people could make it, then forgot about the party and we had a really awkward moment when people arrived gifts in hand for a party and I was chilling on the sofa in my pjs watching Greys anatomy after a shitty boring day.
I ended up having to run and get dressed and buy a take away for everyone which was not what anyone was expecting when they all turned up smart.
It was a pretty awkward evening to be honest.

Since then I don't fuss his birthdays so much and if I want to do something nice on mine I organise it myself. That said though I think he felt so bad after my 30th he's always tried to do something special since then.

For the last few years we've always gone to the same restaurant with my DH, sister and DP and my two oldest friends. None of the women see each other the rest of the year but we all get on and have a real laugh. I get presents and cards too, which is lovely.

The DC make a huge fuss & love it, DH is a bit meh but just goes with it.
Usually do lunch with DH (if it's a weekday & DC at school) then tea out as a family & cake.
Big ones I like to go away for.

Today is my birthday! I received a few lovely presents from DP and DD. And vomited on three times by DD as she's got a chest infection but I enjoyed the extra cuddly mood she was in so balanced itself out

I expect cards and presents from DP and DC
At some point we will either go out for a meal or they will cook me something special
DP and I usually go away for a weekend around that time too - I usually organise it and will share costs - but it's still a nice part of the celebration

I expect a card and at least a token gift from DH and DC. I get cards from family and ILs but rarely friends as I never really publicise my birthday or have it on Facebook. Ive got past the age of needing to do something on the day so not fussed about meal out/wine etc

I'd say I would expect 1 card from DH or him via the DC.

My DH would make the dinner that night and make something he knows I like. We would probably share bottle of wine.

I'd expect a couple of close friends might remember to text on the day and 1-2 others might get me a card or gift.

My DM & DF would send a book from amazon and maybe a card also.

All my brothers would forget.

One of my in-laws would whatsapp me (in a large group) "Happy Birthday!" and about 8 would do the same (but probably didn't know it was my birthday until the first one messaged).

My MIL will always write a card from her and FIL and get a nice appropriate present (usually earrings) and make a point of seeing us to give me them (in a nice way).

I might arrange to go for a coffee/lunch sometime that week (when I normally wouldnt) with the excuse "its for my birthday" with a friend or with DH. I wouldn't expect DH to arrange this and tbh would prefer to arrange what I want to do.

I would insist me, DC and DH, all go to a particular special ice-cream shop and buy an ice-cream.

If cake wasn't in the house I would make or buy cake. Not really for candles or singing, just for eating! My DC now think this is virtually a birthday law.

I'd probably mention late in the day to my work colleagues and bring out something like some biscuits or cake to celebrate/keep us going.

When I started writing this, I was thinking "I never get a birthday party or fancy meal or expensive present". Having written it down I am totally shocked how much fuss I have. Hadn't really thought about it and feel very lucky.