To be scared I've fucked up at work?

[LilouLilou]

Moving to a new team in a large law firm (I'm a new grad). Had a call with a few members of the team a couple of days ago and the partner said I should pop round to his office to get some starter work from him; I did but he wasn't there. I really should have sent an email out (and stupidly told someone I did but was feeling a bit nervous so I didn't - stupid! I don't know what came over me).

Anyway someone followed up with me today about it and asked if I had met him yet/sent the email. I said again that I'd sent an email (Urgh don't know why)...

Anyway I finally sent one today saying it was great to meet him a few days ago and to let me know when was a good time to catch up. I got a fairly cold response back saying that because he didn't see me on Monday, he had given it to someone else but that he would keep an eye out for other things. I replied instantly saying that would be great.

He makes or breaks people's careers and I'm so scared of meeting him now - plus I'm sure the rest of the team will be aware of what has happened. I feel like I look like I'm not fussed about the work now - which isn't true and I'm kicking myself!!

lapsedorienteerer

Not only can anyone post but what makes you think she's not a mum?

TheBogQueen - it's not ridiculous - its dishonesty in a profession that prides itself on its integrity and judgment. There is a real possibility that the OP will simply not be trusted in future until she clearly demonstrates otherwise.

....perhaps it's time for me to move to "Gransnet'! I may be old enough but actually I have a DS aged 14 !...opps

I have a DS(15) and would be a bit shock if I felt he had to post here (i.e Mumsnet) for advice.

Funnily enough those with 15 yr old DS do.

You are coming accross as quite smug tbh.

I'm sure it's fine. It's not a big deal. She's new and young.

Hope you've got your fire extinguisher handy then lapsedorienteerer

Absolutely no idea why you felt you had to post that on this thread

I finished my degree with the Open University while on maternity leave. So I was a mum and a new grad at the same time - it can happen!

Anyway OP, I agree with ImperialBlether in thinking you could say you found the email in your drafts and thought you had sent it.

lapse you were unfriendly.

I don't know, need for anxiety meds + large law firm doesn't sound like a good fit. They can be highly pressurised environments.

I don't think you can blame this fuck up on meds withdrawal. It was simply poor judgement.

You really have to learn from this that you can never be dishonest again or you will simply be ditched for not cutting the mustard.

Learn from this and move on, using the good advice you have been given here.

Always own your mistakes, even though some might be embarrassing. We all make mistakes. Far better to be honest. Trying to cover up is likely to come back and bite you on the arse.

Tomorrow is another day. You won't make this mistake again.

Definitely go and see him in person. Keep popping by until you catch him. Tell him you were disappointed you'd missed out on the work the first time and explain how keen you are on being given more work. I don't think replying to the email saying 'that would be great' really conveys you are keen for the work/disappointed you'd missed out. The sooner you speak to him face to face the better.

Use this as a learning curve to not put things off - so if you need to phone/see/email someone do it straight away.

Owning up to your mistakes will also earn you a lot of respect.

It's done now so once you've fixed it by speaking to him, put it behind you and don't worry. These things happen. Good luck in your new job.

lapsed Really confused by your post. This is a forum site with no entry requirement (as far as I know!) Yes it originates from Mums and related discussion, but there are many topics talked about here, seems like the OP was just hoping to find some good advice, as far as I know you don't only gain the ability to form an opinion or give advice when you give birth.

OP, you should have stalked his room and corridor until you saw him. You need to be honest and make it clear t was fully your mistake, no more lying about sending emails (and lying it was) as you'll be easily caught out. Apologise and beg for the next big piece of work and impress.

I'm not a mum. I've had plenty of good advice over the years on here and like to think I've given some too on the numerous threads that don't pertain to parenting in any way, shape or form.

There's plenty of people who aren't mums. Even, shit shock horror, some men.

Would the op be answered any differently if she wasn't a mum? I've no idea if she is or not, but also no idea why it would have any bearing on her situation.

But yes op, definitely go see him and use this as a learning curve!

Trifleorbust, once upon a time I think (or perhaps want to believe) that 'Mumsnet', was for parental problems. Clearly I have been proved wrong, mega apologies. I wish the OP all the luck in the world .

laspsed you must be new? Otherwise it cannot have escaped your notice that there are all sorts of people who post on Mumsnet.

Lilou,
Take from someone that reached the dizzy heights of corporate world and survives. Present tense.
If you wanna go ahead think of a dog and his bone. He doesn't let it out of his sight.
That should be you. He wasn't there. Go back and again and again. Be proactive. Go see people. Ask them if you can help them, again and again. First rule of the grad: get noticed. And an easy way to do that is to be helpful. No one for Minutes in meetings? You volunteer. (I don't know law, I'm from a different environment but in my industry (oil&Gas) Minutes of meetings are pretty much compulsory and I appreciate nothing more than someone who volunteers while I need to talk. You learn as well. Ask if you can attend meetings to learn. Ask questions but don't be silly or distracting. You might think it's annoying but as higher management now, I appreciate the go getter, the prepared the decisive (but not dickish) person. Also, get involved in the outside things, do you have community dealings, safety, women's and minorities groups. It would pay dividends on your organisational and networking skills and you'd get to be seen as a doer and driven person. Things might come your way once you establish yourself but you gotta do the legwork first. Go!

I have a DS(15) and would be a bit shock if I felt he had to post here (i.e Mumsnet) for advice.

He's over on the Stately Homes thread, Lapse. Said to say hi!

OP, I've been there. I did something similar and had to hide in the toilets banging my head against the cubicle door, wondering wtf was wrong with me.

But seriously, no one will remember this in a week or so.

Don't let it make your anxiety worse. Do your job well and all will be well.

I'm a mum of three and can't remember the last time I posted on a thread about children. I certainly wouldn't hang around here if that's all it was, I'd have fucked off long ago.

I get that sending an email can be terrifying, OP! FWIW I have missed out on some amazing opportunities at work by being too scared to stick my head above the parapet with the "big bosses" and I regret it. Put it behind you now. Grow some balls/ovaries/whatever and make the most of your career.

Oh and lapsedorienteerer I'm not a mum - still posting here though and will continue to do so

Mumsnet isn't just for Mums FFS.

OP Henrysmycat knows what he/she is talking about. Good luck, get yourself out there and noticed!

Sooper the OP said she's a new grad so you figure it out! Why is 'you sound young' a MN cliche these days when someone is inexperienced? So what if she's young!

lapse welcome to the internet.