MIL didn't get me a birthday present

[Hairsprayinthesink]

Name change, because of the nature.

MIL didn't get me a birthday present. It shouldn't matter, I know this. Nobody has to buy anyone a birthday present obviously. But I'm still quite hurt. In the 5 years I've been with DH she's never missed a birthday and I've never missed hers or FIL's. My own DM bought DH a quite expensive and thoughtful gift for his birthday recently. I know that shouldn't matter and I'm being extremely grabby and entitled but I can't help but feel slightly overlooked and rejected.

I tried to gently mention it to DH and it became an opportunity for him to have a go at me. This included, she does all sorts for me, she's spent up after Christmas (but has been out for expensive meals at least once a week since), at least she isn't as annoying as my own mum. I didn't think my own mum was that annoying really. But I feel like she's just sending yet another message that she still doesn't like me. There's some back story to it that makes me think she's never liked me.

I don't know what else to say, could do with a couple more opinions. Aibu?

[Inertia]

I do hope you are not going to organise MIL's birthday cards and presents next week ?

[greeeen]

She sounds horrid! I would ignore the lack of present and let your DH deal with her in future, which is what it sounds like you're doing.
I would be livid with DH if he spoke to me like that especially with the backstory you have with MIL.

[Sugarlightly]

MIL gave me a cheque for £75 at Christmas. But honestly would rather have had nothing when I handed her the nice but small box of chocolates I got her!

[cupofteatime]

I didn't get a card, text or phone call off my IL's never mind a present. Then again they sent a present to my 11 week old DD for Christmas and got her name wrong. They are fuckwits and I can't stand them!

[Paddingtonthebear]

It's my birthday too. My inlaws gave me a card and a gift. No card from BIL & SIL this year though. Oh well.

Oh and no card or gift from my own mum, dad or sibling

Happy birthday!

[eddielizzard]

my in laws send me a text if they remember. i get them gifts, cook birthday meal, kids make cakes, candles, the lot. my dh shall be in charge this year hahah

[sweetpea75]

My MIL gave me a pair of tights for Xmas. Size extra large in American Tan and a bottle of Savers bubble bath. I'm a size 8 and we don't have a bath. Really wish she hadn't bothered. OH and kids got £100 and £50 each.
Hard to not feel shit ain't it?

[Hairsprayinthesink]

Happy birthday paddington

I'm not organising their birthdays. Hope they enjoy themselves. I don't care anymore

It is hard not to feel shit, but at the same time it's her problem not mine.

[Highmaintenancefemalestuff]

All my in laws spoil me even though my birthdays a week after christmas. My own dm doesn't bother with my birthday, can't remember the last time she did. 'I'll get you something on payday' I never hold out much hope.

[HouseworkIsASin10]

You're right it's her with the problem. Don't let it worry you.
At least you're off the hook now with sorting their birthday cards/gifts.

Not impressed with your DH's comments but sounds like he went on the defence. Leave his family birthdays up to him.

[Aeroflotgirl]

It woulden't bother me, mabey she is broke, or is upset about the move. I would try and forget it.

[Hairsprayinthesink]

I've just remembered this thread - MIL came to me and gave me money last week saying sorry we forgot your birthday!!

[JamAndBread]

A happy ending!