Have totally got my judgy pants on, but here goes! My cousin and his wife have gone off on a 16 day holiday to Sri Lanka, leaving their three year old and ten year old with her mum. It''s for his 40th bday.
Now, part of me would love two weeks without my DD's. But I know, in reality, I would miss them like mad after a couple of days. I've had three days away before and was so glad to get back to them in the end (but if five days in New York were on offer I think I'd take it!)
I'm judging for;
1/ two weeks is a lot for a 3yo to be away from his parents
2/ It's a big ask of a nan to look after two kids for over two weeks. She's fit and healthy, but is it not taking her generosity a bit too far?
I'm not jealous, BTW, although that may be how it sounds. Honestly I'm not.
So, MN jury, what do you reckon?
AIBU?
leaving kids behind to go on a two week holiday
glasgowsfinest · 30/01/2017 21:59
I don't think YABU, maybe it depends what type of community you live in. Whether everyone knows everyone's business. But when DS was a toddler and I was pregnant with DD I had to go off for a week at a time with work, only a car drive back but people were judgey not only that I abandoned my DC but did so whilst pregnant.
Even now if I'm required to go somewhere for a few days as a one off with a contract people have their views, that's only a few days. So those saying oh how can you judge, in communities across the world that happens. Gold star to those who don't.
We always holiday as a family as in both our minds we think, what if something God forbid happened to us or DC's. You'd feel pretty guilty you weren't there.
Yes as a child I spent most of my time with grandparents, plus friends and relatives. But I was born in an era when the family unit was closer together. We all lived within a 5 minute walk of each other. We preferred one set of GP's to the other. One was strict, one spoilt us rotten.
Now we rarely go out at all without DC's as to this glorious phrase, you enjoyed, you look after. Yet both children went beyond planned parenting, we needed intervention to get them. Just to offset my Gran's lovely phrase I did not enjoy any part of the IVF process.
On that note I don't think any of our family would babysit for that time. Although I suspect DM does it for her step kids. But we won't go there. 
It depends how old Gran is too, how capable she is. It wouldn't be an issue capability wise for DM or DD, but they have their own lives which 2 DGK's would interfere with.
In my day I was babysitting quite young, now you wouldn't have a babysitter who wasn't CRB checked with first aid training etc. Unless it was a family member, but again most are 35+ like us.
I think my DP's went away for weekends, but only in the UK. Sri Lanka is ages away, I can't imagine emergency flights being that cheap. But I guess some of us over worry about things, others can let go and relax. Plus you can be a Grandmother in your early 30's now, which makes a difference.
OP don't feel bad that by your standards it's off. There's been some including myself who disagree on varying levels.
^What's with the judge and jury shit?
^
Worra 
Although, to be fair, without the judge and jury shit, MN would be a barren place indeed.
I can't stand the term 'judgy pants' so I can't stop myself judging you for that (I've really tried not to!)
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