Sex, relationship, baby and a wedding. HELP

[Mummyalready1]

Needing some advice.
Sorry it's a long one- please read!!

We are a youngish couple with a 1 year old and engaged to be married next year.
However the past 3-6 months i haven't felt 100% like I want this wedding.
Our relationship isn't as fun and loving as it ever was. We both work too so always tired and busy which doesn't help, but our sex life is awful and I dread what it would be like when we are married! 
He recently spoke to me about his low sex drive and doesn't know what to do or how to change it but the subject is so touchy I don't know what's best to do. It makes me feel so low then too because there doesn't feel like there's any love or emotion there at all!!
Mid wedding planning and I just can't help but think I'm doing the wrong thing but my heart is there??

Please help!!

Yes, agree.. get the thread deleted xx

I'm very suspicious of user1etc. The thread wouldn't have been worth the DM without one particular poster. I see it's been reported.

That's really really shit...daily fail strikes again with its own reporter clearly being the user....ffs

We were suppose to get married last year August, but I called it off because it didn't feel right, we weren't getting on that well, always bickering and honestly felt like we were only together for our ds.

You just gotta find the problem (which is easier said then done)

I feel like we both changed after having our baby, which isn't nesasarily a bad thing, the silly things we liked about each other before our ds were gone, as we felt we should act/be more grown up etc. We both ended up acting adults if that makes sense and not being 100% ourselves.

I also felt completely isolated, being a mum is very different from what I expected, and always felt more involved and to blame for everything involving our son. I also felt like I did everything, and I was just an after thought.

I think the turning point came after we cancelled the wedding. We realised we still really loved each other, but just became complacent and abit too focused on just ds, and were basically neglecting each other.

I would also ask for the thread to be deleted. Daily Mail are the lowest of the low.

Me too spider. Practising my sad face

Pissed off to be aligned with such a disgusting publication though.

The comments on there aren't the nicest either 🙄

FWIW me and DH have been together 10 years, married for 2.5 and have an 18 month old. Before DD we were madly in love and had the time and energy to show each other that, we used to have sex 3/4 times a week. Now we're both so knackered sex is rare and all we want to do is sleep. We've spoken very openly about this and we are still madly in love. But with a young child it's challenging to still do the up keep of our relationship to keep it healthy. We know this is a faze in our lives and one day we'll have swinging from the chandelier again I guess the difference is we've communicated this effectively.

Mummyalready1

Never read the comments under articles, especially the DM. It's populated by horrible misanthropes.

User1485 what decade have you sprung from? Staying with someone simply because they conceived a child with you is utter madness.

OP you need to listen to how you feel, don't be swayed by the wishes or opinions of others. From the little that you've said you don't sound very happy or excited by the prospect of marriage.

Your son will still have a mum and dad even if his mum and dad don't get married, user1485 obviously hasn't stepped into 2017 yet.

To be really honest with you OP a sexless relationship would be a deal breaker for me, I couldn't commit to a man who wasn't able/willing to be intimate/passionate etc but some couples can make things work without sex.

I would advise that you speak to him no matter how awkward it feels because the last thing you want to do is trap yourself in a marriage that makes you miserable, so if you aren't happy then please don't waste time pretending to be, life is far too short.

Good Luck, I really hope everything turns out well for you.