To expect my 1 month old to sleep on his own now?!

[Crispmonster1]

One month old DS, will not sleep
Unless he is on me! I have put him down several times a night, awake, nearly asleep, fast asleep, with my clothing, with DH clothing and he will NOT stay asleep.
What am I doing wrong? He will sleep in it during the day for a couple of hours.
Help!?

[Amummyatlast]

We took shifts holding DD through the night until she was about 6-7 weeks old. Then we got a sleeping bag and she started sleeping in side sleeper for short bursts. It does get better!

[knittingwithnettles]

by 8 to 10 weeks I had established a sleep routine at bedtime, although not a "proper" nap routine (ie the kind that enables you to get a sleep in the afternoon) This included bath, feed, lullaby with music box, and settling him in darkened room in Moses basket cot. It did work, surprisingly. but only when he had had lots of food. And he didn't sleep through the night, but it did get him used to self settling. We never deviated from a 7.30 bedtime thereafter, that is the drawback, some parents enjoy the flexibility of a baby that will sleep in your arms wherever and whenever you are, we had a baby that needed a travel cot to sleep if we were out anywhere and would not sleep in the evening in a buggy or pram. But this was only at 8-10 weeks, he didn't settle at bedtime before that.

[Trifleorbust]

We are starting to get into a routine with our 7 week old DD. Cluster feeds in the evening, gets quite a bit of wind, then we try to settle from around 7-8pm, feeding but aiming for her to nap in her Moses basket until 10ish. Then she will have a last feed and hopefully be asleep for 10.30. She wakes around 3 for a feed and change and then again at around 6. Sometimes she will sleep again until around 9, depending on her mood!

[dottycat123]

Co slept with mine, anyone else experienced feeding on your side and waking up with one boob like a deflated balloon and the other bursting ! Rightly or wrongly I never worried about rolling onto them. We used to call ds2 ' the tree rat' as for months he would have to be on dh or me, he hated going to anyone else. It stopped about 12 months.

[AppleMagic]

Not much help sugges

[AppleMagic]

..ting a Moses basket when the OP has said her baby will only sleep on her.

[MyBreadIsEggy]

Fourth trimester your baby doesn't realise he's a separate person to you yet.
I have co-slept with both of my babies because they are both little Velcro limpets!
It will come in time. My DS is 14 weeks now and will fall asleep in the sling downstairs in the evenings and then I can transfer him from there to the next-2-me crib when I go to bed. He stays in there until his first feed and then comes in with me.

[Only1scoop]

A Moses could be a helpful suggestion.

If I'd only let dd sleep on me instead of introducing basket, then I'd have been in the same boat as Op probably.

[AppleMagic]

But the OP has tried repeatedly to put him down, it says so in the OP.

[LuluJakey1]

DS (now 2) slept by himself from the start and slept through the night from 4 weeks.I was so smug. Am expecting DD in April and think am likely to get exactly the opposite for being smug 😀

[waterrat]

Swaddle worked for us. ...tricks rhem into feeling your arms are there !

[DebbieDownersGiveItARest]

Yes Fourth trimester - I co slept with mine in co sleeper cot ( not the one that caused the death ) but look it up, made sense to me.

DD slept on us for a good three months as well. ( as well as in cot at night)Esp at this time of year when its cold.

[DebbieDownersGiveItARest]

another trick was the v pillow, I found dd lying flat was too much for her - she liked being propped up in the v pillow

[MaudPie]

I feel your pain, DD1 was exactly the same and I felt pretty desperate with sleep deprivation because I was convinced that I would accidentally kill her if we co slept. I was also astonished to find how common it is as I hadn't heard of it (baby waking a lot - yes. Baby screaming whenever put down, even if asleep - no). I thought that a combination of a cocoonababy, introducing dummies and cranial osteopathy solved the problem, but with hindsight she probably just grew out of it.

[hiimmumma]

My 4mo still only sleeps on me or on DH during the day.
At night I can get him to sleep in a sleepyhead in a next to me by gently lowering him in once he is sound asleep in me after a feed, and even then sometimes it takes a few attempts.
In the past month it has become easier and he stays asleep in there for longer (4hours a time now).
Sorry to say but if yours is like mine it may be like this for a while.
I've decided to embrace it and enjoy the cuddles whilst I can!

[maddening]

At one point with ds I went to bed 7 till midnight and dh sat and held ds asleep then we swapped (as dh was at work the next day).

With ds the only thing that helped was swaddling (in a swaddle sleep pod thing)and eventually we co-slept

[SaucyDough]

I used this time as an opportunity to nap.

[CoffeeAndCakeEssentials]

Have you tried swaddling? DS1 was very similar, had to be held all day and would only sleep on us. A nurse suggested swaddling and it worked like magic! He just wanted to be cuddled up tight :-) good luck and enjoy your new bundle

[Robstersgirl]

My eldest DS was 3 when this stopped. I recommend coffee and Touché Eclat.

[Chops2016]

Oh you remind me so much of myself when I had my DS

All babies are different but this was my experience; I tried to breastfeed and DS would not settle anywhere other than next to me in bed (and even then I had to not move at all as by sound or movement would wake him). We co-slept for about 8 weeks. DS was then ill (underweight, losing weight, liver trouble) and hospitalised for a few days, during which we started moving over to formula feeding. DS then started sleeping in a moses basket by the bed- after a couple of nights of screaming he started settling in there ok. We moved him into his nursery at about 4 months and he transitioned fine. At 6 months he now sleeps through from about 8 pm-7 am and I probably have to pop in to give him his dummy 2-3 times a night.

His sleeping vastly improved after moving on to formula- he was sleeping for about 5-6 hours at a time from about 12 weeks.

At 1 month you have only just begun your journey. Its a dark place when you're struggling and sleep deprived but it will get better! I promise! Hugs x

[Crispmonster1]

Sorry I forgot to say in post that he won't stay asleep in Moses basket. We do have one! Thanks for all input. It's reassuring to know it's this common. I have 2 other children and was able to put them down with little bother. So this one is surprising!

[dingdongthewitchisdead1]

If I needed a rest I would put my dressing gown or a nightie underneath them while they slept. Also if you are ebf, they will be that bit more attached with the food factor! A little formula never hurt anyone! And it will help save your sanity. Sounds like you are doing a great job xx

[BlackeyedSusan]

ahhh, those were the days... the baby sick trickling round your neck.