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to ask if you've unfriended people because of politics?

190 replies

IceGreenTea · 28/01/2017 19:03

For example, you have friends who strongly support a leader you cannot stand?

Do you think, if they think what he's doing is ok, then they're not the kind of people you think they are.

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LucklessMonster · 28/01/2017 20:59

Cut an uncle and his wife out of my life after seeing their racist posts on Facebook. That was no loss.

Of my closest friends, two share the majority of my political views and one has very different views. I just avoid discussing politics with the latter unless I think we can discuss without it getting personal.

KarmaNoMore · 28/01/2017 21:00

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PidgeyfinderGeneral · 28/01/2017 21:04

TBH, I usually avoid political discussion on FB because it will never end well.

I have one friend who was a Leaver and posted incredibly smug and annoying stuff about Brexit. He's just started doing it again but everything he's posting is so full of wrong that I'm having to sit on my hands. I 'don't hide him but he's a longtime friend married to another longtime friend so I am stuck with him.

ChristmasFluff · 28/01/2017 21:09

I think it is an absolute necessity to unfriend people on FB and in real life if their political opinions reveal that you are incompatible at the most basic level.

I am very left wing. So much so that I voted to leave the EU despite the New Labourites making out that the left wing should vote remain. I have Tory friends, I have friends who voted Remain. I do not unfriend people who have different political views to me. I do unfriend racists, homophobes, misogynists etc. If you support Trump, you are condoning all these things, so yes, I unfriend Trumpsters. We are incompatible at the most basic level. It's not to do with politics, it's to do with having entirely different moral frameworks.

hahahaIdontgetit · 28/01/2017 21:16

I mention twice when people apparently accidentally post Britain first posts. The third time I delete, because at that point they either agree or are too stupid to check.

LouKout · 28/01/2017 21:18

Yes. Lots.

MuteButtonisOn · 28/01/2017 21:18

This is interesting. It seems to suggest the left wingers are the most militant and intolerant

No shit sherlock.
Try being a leftie Leaver. waves to Christmas Fluff

IceGreenTea · 28/01/2017 21:23

I think it is an absolute necessity to unfriend people on FB and in real life if their political opinions reveal that you are incompatible at the most basic level.

This is what I've been thinking of too.

I have a friend who told me everyone from this certain faith should die. I was shocked and absolutely disgusted.

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MothersRuinart · 28/01/2017 21:24

I haven't unfriended anyone due to political views. And I have friends from all political sides with very strong views, often I don't agree with any of them. The only ones I have unfriended were the ones who were bragging about hurting others (directly or undirectly) and the ones with constant unnecessary drama and always feeling sorry for themselves.

JustAnotherPoster00 · 28/01/2017 21:28

all Conservative voters were selfish arseholes who smelled of shit

No clue about the odour bit but I see the nub of their argument and dont wholly disagree

Anothermoomin · 28/01/2017 21:32

Just because you vote differently to me I can ignore.

Vocally supporting a leader who is in favour of torture, I am struggling with that. Torture? Really?

bibbitybobbityyhat · 28/01/2017 21:34

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PidgeyfinderGeneral · 28/01/2017 21:36

I don't care that people vote differently or have different opinions as long as they can express them in an articulate fashion and don't resort to risible memes about immigrants or benefit claimants.

IceGreenTea · 28/01/2017 21:37

Have you got friends in ISIS op? or what other absolutist extremist group? Even that ct Trump doesn't declare that a follower of a particular religion should die.

He's a Caucasian Catholic with a very prestigious professional job. How would I suspect he has this belief when I became friends with him?

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GinIsIn · 28/01/2017 21:38

Yes - I unfriended several Brexiters. They claimed they weren't racist yet posted really awful, ignorant rubbish about immigration. Hmm

PotteryLottery · 28/01/2017 21:48

Yes I've in friended 2 people as don't want that Britain First shite in my home.

AddToBasket · 28/01/2017 21:49

There's a line and it usually isn't about left or right politics. For me it is all about violence of opinion or belief that the other side is stupid.

When people say that anyone who votes for Y must be X and therefore awful/worthy of derision I tend to mentally score them out.

Lot of that about Indy Ref voters on both sides. Really violent emotional outpouring and genuinely held belief of moral superiority on both sides. Same with Brexit.

I like to think my friends are swing voters. Or at least they don't think Tory=Selfish/Left=ImmatureStudent and aren't going to reduce the whole debate.

JellyWitch · 28/01/2017 21:50

I was unfriended by someone because I once liked a pro-gay marriage article.

I have unfollowed a few people post Trump's election and unfriended only 2. Amazingly my friends list survived the Brexit vote but I can't stop speaking to my parents.

SpongebobRoundPants · 28/01/2017 21:52

No but I work with someone who broke up with her boyfriend after finding out he voted Brexit. They'd been together for 3 years.

NavyandWhite · 28/01/2017 21:54

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Camomila · 28/01/2017 21:57

I take it on a case by case basis. My DM kept liking 'milf' quotes until I told her what a 'milf' was...with some people I think it's just a case of internet naïveté rather than malice e.g. people posting pictures of poppies/support our soldiers that are actually by Britain first etc.

GoosevonMoose · 28/01/2017 21:58

One friend was a casualty of Brexit but it wasn't just because we had different views, his were racist. That I won't tolerate in my feed nor will I choose the cowardly "unfollow". I've unfriended almost every single trump supporter because I can't see how you could be a decent human and support him. It's not as if he's even bloody qualified.

cherryblossomcarpet · 28/01/2017 21:59

I haven't unfriended anyone, but I have been really shocked by the blanket dismissal of people who voted differently by some friends. We live in a democracy. No one's vote is any better than anyone else's and we have to stand by the result whether we like it or not. The whole I am right and you are racist scum if you disagree with me is really offensive.

OlennasWimple · 28/01/2017 22:00

I have unfriended (in the FB sense) people who repeatedly post racist crap. I don't want to see that stuff in my FB feed, and I don't want to be friends with people who think that it's OK to say that stuff.

On a couple of occasions I've pointed out that "shared" posts originate from groups like the BNP, as it isn't always immediately apparent from the content. If they still persisted in sharing those things they would definitely be unfriended, but if it seems out of character for the friend I'll tell them about the posts first rather than jsut assuming that they are BNP supporters.

BestIsWest · 28/01/2017 22:04

Yes.

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