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to ask if you've unfriended people because of politics?

190 replies

IceGreenTea · 28/01/2017 19:03

For example, you have friends who strongly support a leader you cannot stand?

Do you think, if they think what he's doing is ok, then they're not the kind of people you think they are.

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WyfOfBathe · 28/01/2017 20:01

I unfollowed a few people before the referendum because of some of the things they posted/shared, but I think I've followed them all again now.

I have unfriended two people for their views, because they tagged me in their posts while they were saying pretty horrible things - one was about how all remain voters are satanists and going to hell (??), the other was about how Trump is going to save us from black people and mixed race marriages - the person posting (a relative) knew that my DH is black.

ollieplimsoles · 28/01/2017 20:05

My neighbour is lovely in person and we spend a lot of time together, but on facebook she is just awful. Shes a Christian and posts the most graphic pro life shit, also loads of evangelical bullshit I can't stand- so I just unfollowed her and hid her posts.

Another friend is a children's book illustrator and author I really admire, I love her work and have her on facebook to keep up with that, but she's a massive lefty and posts some really irritating and often offensive crap.

Some people are really different once they are behind a keyboard.

VioletRoar · 28/01/2017 20:05

Yeah I've hidden and unfriended a few. Luckily I'm yet to come across anyone pro trump.

Summerisdone · 28/01/2017 20:06

I find it quite pathetic that people would unfriend a person over a difference of opinion, especially when it comes to politics because quite honestly we're all just having to pick our preferred party/candidate out of a bad bunch most of the time.
If said friend couldn't accept my opinions and choices however and constantly tried to push their's down my throat, such as telling me how I'm stupid/wrong/ignorant etc. just because I don't agree with them then I would unfriend them, but that's not really down to difference of opinions and more down to the fact they're an arsehole if someone doesn't agree with them

ThoraGruntwhistle · 28/01/2017 20:09

I've unfollowed a couple of people and unfriended one who was being particularly horrible after the referendum. Can't say I miss them.

exLtEveDallas · 28/01/2017 20:16

I had to cull a couple of relatives. One is slightly awkward because he is DHs cousin, was his best friend growing up and was really supportive of us when we got together. But I couldn't stand the Britain First bollocks he was posting. He's a little bit thick, rather than an out and out racist, but it makes no difference to me.

edwinbear · 28/01/2017 20:22

I unfriended a few post Brexit, I voted leave and couldn't stand the vitriol directed at me afterwards.

Nomorechickens · 28/01/2017 20:26

I have been unfriended by an ex colleague / friend who posted nothing for 2 years then started spewing out pro UKIP posts. The rest of us are generally either lefty liberal Remain types or keep our views to ourselves. We all tactfully refrained from commenting on his posts but after a while he must have got fed up of seeing all our pro Europe anti UKIP posts and dropped us.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 28/01/2017 20:27

I don't think it is at all pathetic to want to disassociate yourself with someone because of their politics! I think the way a person votes is enormously important in how I will get along with them.

redexpat · 28/01/2017 20:29

I deleted one guy from my fb because of his britain first shit. I never liked him much anyway.

However I do have a v conservative us friend on fb and I still like her. She doesnt post much protrump, but more anti hilary a d anti abortion.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 28/01/2017 20:31

So far I've never met anyone pro-Trump! I can't imagine what it would be like to have half my FB full of that shite.

Just got news today that a friend (who has a Green Card) can't risk leaving the States and coming to the UK for a visit. Has been advised not to by his solicitor.

ShotsFired · 28/01/2017 20:31

strugglingstepdad Anyone who posts that Britain First crap gets deleted. I won't have that racist crap in my life.

I give my friends the benefit of the doubt first, and explain who/what BF are; and did they realise that was what they shared? Very often people don't look at who originates a post and just share things that are akin to "I'm against kicking kittens". While that does seem rather pointless (who is for it?), so far everyone has been horrified and immediately deleted their post.

I am that close to defriending some US friends over their pro-Trump posts atm though. They are not the people I thought they were. For now they are just muted/unfollowed.

bookbuddy · 28/01/2017 20:31

Yes I've unfriended and unfollowed people upon seeing their political views. It made me see them in a different light unfortunately.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 28/01/2017 20:33

I think friends share similar values even if not similar political opinions. So if someone doesn't share the same basic values I have, then they aren't on my fb. If we have different political opinions that's fine.

Manumission · 28/01/2017 20:36

I've backed away from Ill-mannered hysterics at both ends of the Brexit spectrum of mad. The insults and divisiveness are so unhelpful.

Fortunately I don't do FB anymore. People get a bit mad on social media.

PidgeyfinderGeneral · 28/01/2017 20:37

Yes I have. I've unfriended people for posting Britain First shite and for misogynistic 'banter'.

Fueledwithfairydustandgin · 28/01/2017 20:39

I have one friend that does this. She is someone who I really love and respect. She was very good to me when I was younger and I will always be grateful to her. On Facebook she is driving me round the bloody twist with the Britain first shit she posts incessantly. I have to sit on my hands

counterpoint · 28/01/2017 20:41

I relish the opportunity of a good political 'opponent'! Smile

Honestly, we do not call the shots!

At least discuss for heaven's sake or what's the point of being human?

60sname · 28/01/2017 20:41

I've blocked people (usually pro Palestine) for posting graphic pictures and rabid comments

Glitterkitten24 · 28/01/2017 20:42

Yep- I had a major facebook cull during the Scottish referendum....the vitriol from sane, socially responsible people who I thought I knew well realllllly surprised me! I unfollowed some close family meme tea who I didn't want to delete, I friended some others.

It's not that I can't listen to and appreciate other people's political opinions (although I don't really think facebook is the best soapbox for politics!), the level of bitterness was very unpleasant to see.

ApproachingATunnel · 28/01/2017 20:44

Yes

Polly53 · 28/01/2017 20:50

I unfriended one person due to racist remarks. I am happy to agree to disagree with others and put forward my point of view. I think the only thing that irritates me is when people tell me I can't exercise my freedom of speech, or insult me instead of putting forward a counter argument or different perspective.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 28/01/2017 20:51

What is the opposite of pro-Palestine, I do wonder.

honeysucklejasmine · 28/01/2017 20:53

Yep, I have. When people voted differently to me in the referendum, but couldn't explain why except to mentioned "looking after our own"... off you fuck then. I got unfriended by a few too. That's fine. I view my "Leftie Luvvie" reputation as quite a crucial personality trait. (I am actually fairly centre ground, but the further right mainstream moves, the more left I look.)

I do think it's important to engage with people of opposite views, but equally I don't want to be friends with people who hold them. I will listen, I will respect your rights to believe as you do, but I won't be your friend.

Wishforsnow · 28/01/2017 20:56

I understand unfriending people who spout racist things but didn't the Nazis get people to disassociate themselves with people who had a different view? I think it is better to hear what people with different views are saying. I guess that is why people were shocked with Brexit as the just wouldn't listen or discuss.

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