AIBU ....

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to expect an invite to my stepsons home? Him, his partner, & 2 kids visit us about once a fortnight, I make cups of tea, feed them, & run round after the kids, they spend about 6 hours here. If we ask to visit them they make excuses, like the house is a mess. Stepson even said that he hated visitors a few weeks ago, well so do I! I'm thinking that they just wanna sit round ours, & get waited on ... Am I being unreasonable? Husband thinks that they should come here, but they drive me mad!

Honeypot00 have you accidently posted on the wrong thread?

It's a tough one because there is so much risk of unintended consequences. What I'd do is let them come (if nothing else than to avoid being estranged from grandchildren), do as much or as little cooking as you enjoy but make it clear that hubby is the waiter entertainer cleaner, then after shooting the breeze for an hour, go and do your own thing (gardening maybe). You never know, perhaps the grand kids will grow on you if they get involved too. As for paying for a meal or going out when you weren't planning to, why should you. And if you must go out, ask them who.is paying before hand to bring that issue into discussion. Good luck!

Do you enjoy your grandchildren? Do they have a car journey to get to you and how long is that? Just thinking why they stay so long. Once a fortnight is quite regular and gives you a chance to keep up with the kids. How old are the children? Just get dh to help and then perhaps you can enjoy them more.