Sober daytime sex in 1 hour. Help

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Guy I've been seeing for a while. I think today's the day. But it's afternoon and I'm sober. Can I actually do this? Arghhh

It all depends where this sober daytime sex is taking place - in the back seat of his car in a layby? Then decline gracefully.

In a hotel room/his bedroom/your bedroom, then close the curtains, dim the lights, put on Classic FM and get down and dirty. Have some wine afterwards to celebrate

It's a bit clinical. I can't get in the mood when sex is some sort of pencilled-in appointment.

Date/lunch/spend time together that then becomes sex, yeah, great. Nothing to worry about it because it happens naturally.

"I have an hour free. Come over. Wear the good pants."

Ick.

YANBU, OP, I'd struggle to get in the mood too if it was all a bit planned and expected.

hod you were the one who seems to think that people should stay single instead of having reluctant sex. I was just pointing out that it is possible to be single and have drunken sex..

sober sex is rather grim!

This has made me feel a bit sad for the person who said it.

Have a great time, OP

I only ever have sobber sex it's the best kind of sex. But OP if your nervous about it just speak to him and tell him that your nervous. Just take things slow and enjoy it.

Report back OP!

It's normal to be nervous the first time. Excited but nervous. And the first time having sex with someone new isn't usually the best sex ever.

It's just nerves. I'd wait till after a date night and few glasses of wine. Think it could be awkward otherwise but that's me!

Ooh I love nice scheduled sessions. Plenty of time to mentally prepare. No half shaved, granny panted surprises to me.

And daytime is casual. No built up romantic candle lit expectations either, it seems more honest to me- the first time is never perfect anyway so accept you'll take the time you have to figure each other out, there in the daylight :)

I get you OP, it's just nerves-you'll be fine, enjoy

Also, sober sex is most definitely not grim, if it is you're doing something very wrong...

Does he know that we're all waiting on the outcome of this?

OP there are a lot of (half) tipsy and bored people here waiting on you

or is that just me ?

I'm of the same school of thought as Rixera

( mental note, must txt fwb soon )

Is it over yet?

I was the poster who said sober sex was grim - one of the many reasons I don't have sex now I don't drink

Shall I put t'kettle on for us all?

Maybe OP is still queueing in the Offy to avoid sobersex?

Has the deed been done op?

First time me and DH DTD was in the afternoon, sober, at his parents house (they were away!)
10yrs later, 3 kids later - it clearly went ok

Have you dtfd, yet, OP? No pressure.

Tbf drunken sex isn't all that either

I don't drink. Sex is very good.
Why do people on here have sex when drunk? How weird.

at so many people who need to be tipsy to have sex. Is this the reason we have a national binge drinking problem?

OP I wouldn't do it to be honest if the prospect is making you panic. It all sounds very unspontaneous and unerotic.

Because I have 'issues' and can't do it sober

Because I have 'issues' and can't do it sober