Sober daytime sex in 1 hour. Help

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Guy I've been seeing for a while. I think today's the day. But it's afternoon and I'm sober. Can I actually do this? Arghhh

I'm inclined to say if you have to be pissed to shag him. Perhaps he's not the one for you.

God, it sounds so forced... Surely a little spontaneity goes a long way?

I can understand your nerves op and if you don't want to do it then don't but if you do just go for it, The nerves will dissappear after a few moments.

I pushed through my nerves and went for it once with a rare fwb situ, my legs were shaking even when I made the first move but once it got going it was all completely natural.

The first time I did anything sexual with my DP I was sober and I was terrified while on the way to his house (I suppose I just didn't want to balls up something potentially good!) but, as cliché as I know this sounds, when I got there it just felt right and my nerves melted away. It may work out so much better than you think. Good luck!

in fact sober sex is rather grim!

not if you're doing it right.

Sober sex is 100 times better than sloppy drunk sex.

Lie back and think of England.

I'd be more concerned about the daylight candles or low lighting are a must for me to get in the mood. I can't bear daylight sex

Euphemia- things stop working properly haha very politely put

Afternoon sober sex is far better than night time drunken sex IMO

God, it sounds so forced... Surely a little spontaneity goes a long way?

When you're a single parent with limited child free time you don't have the luxury of spontenaity necessarily

I think it's best to keep a clear head, than you know you'll be making the moves not the alcohol. It's ok to be nervous, I'd even mention it, why not, he's probably nervous the same as you.

Close blinds/curtains so its not full on daylight.

what the actual fuck is this thread. some of you need to be single if sex is a duty/chore/something you can only do when half cut. :(

In my defence I don't drink or have sex so I'm sorted

And you know you can be single AND have sex....

I think daytime sex is something that comes later...when you both know each other intimately. Just my opinion.

passes a sucked egg to Livia

Agree that it's fine to be nervous and to say so. Agree that it would be fine to say you're a bit nervous and perhaps you could both have a little drink if it helps you relax. However, a little drink isn't the same as being pissed and I'd avoid that.
If this is something that you are hoping will be a longer term relationship, see the whole thing as positive if nerve wracking. Managing to have sex without being drunk is what grown ups in proper relationships do. Yes, they might do it whilst drunk too, but if all sex can only happen whilst drunk, it just sounds a bit.......teenage to me and hardly the basis of a relationship that will go somewhere.......although yes, yes, I know that lots on MN met their DH of 25 years and had a drunken one night stand.

Op, all of this is in your control. You do t have to have sex. You do t have to have afternoon sex, but can find other stuff to do for a few hours if you wan to first. You can have a drink if you want to. You can talk about it with him, or not if you don't want to. It's up to you.

Hope your afternoon and evening are Fab, whatever you end up doing!

Lie back and think of England.

Pink... I think we'll paint the ceiling pink.

The daylight would be thing making me wibble rather than the sober. All depends on how body conscious you are. Pull the curtains to avoid any glaring sunlight/dreary January afternoon light!

Lube.

I only like sober sex if it's with a long term boyfriend. Flings and fuck buddies are much better when drunk

I think OP is just nervous , not having doubts. Maybe you could warm up a bit before he arrives iyswim
Have fun!