DH & I loved the name Luca for a girl throughout my pregnancy. I know it's generally used as a boy's name especially in Italy but her middle name is Rose and I love that it means 'light'.
Anyway, my dear mum very sadly died last summer of Leukaemia and my (usually lovely) Granny (aged 96 and grieving) first said that Luca reminds her of the phrase 'dirty Luca' then a week later she asked if it was too late to change the name beaches it reminds her of Leukaemia.
I was so upset, my baby (3 weeks old) really suits her name and I love that it's a bit different but now I can't stop thinking about the link to Leukaemia :(
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Truntscump · 27/01/2017 17:12
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watchingfromtheshadows ·
27/01/2017 19:10
I think it's a lovely name, OP. Would never associate it with Leukaemia, and as for the lucre thing, perhaps she'll grow up to be very rich 
Besides, it's been three weeks - it's her name now.
Incidentally, I think in Biology LUCA is the acronym for the Last Universal Common Ancestor - the mother of all life on Earth!
CheerfulMuddler ·
27/01/2017 19:10
Hugs, OP, that sounds awful.
Your granny sounds a bit like my mum - she's lovely, but when she's unhappy or stressed out, she will latch onto unimportant things and get really hung up about them. She'll tell me she's utterly miserable because my brother hasn't cleared his boxes out of his room or something. It's almost always because she's upset about something else.
Your granny isn't really upset about your baby's name. She's upset because her daughter is dead and isn't here to see your beautiful baby.
Of course her name reminds her of your mum now. EVERYTHING probably reminds her of your mum now. Holding her in her arms probably reminds her of the first time she held your mum. And the first time she held you, and how much she loves you, and how much she wishes your mum was here to hold Luca.
But you know what? Your daughter is more important that the sodding disease that killed your mum. In a couple of months, Luca won't mean leukaemia, it will mean her beautiful granddaughter. And the more you see of her, and the more she sees of Luca, the sooner that will happen.
I wouldn't try to argue with her. I'd just say something like, "Oh, granny. It's so hard, isn't it? I really miss her too." And give her a hug.
flamingc1appers ·
27/01/2017 19:24
In the UK, it seems Luca has become more popular than Lucas. DD has 2 in her class, DS has one and our next door neighbour is a Luca too!
I love the it and nearly called DS1 by that name 14 years ago - until my Dsis said "Luke reminds me of puke" 
. So thete's always someone with an unhelpful comment!
Did you not like Lucia (in Italian pronounced Loo-chia rather than Loo-sia)? Both beautiful names that also mean "light".
BonnesVacances ·
27/01/2017 19:27
Luca is a lovely name. When I was pg I wanted to use the name Luca and asked the people who owned our local Italian restaurant if Luca was a girl's or boy's name. They were 
and 
and said it was a boy's name. I tried to explain it was because of Suzanne Vega's song but they weren't having any of it. We had DD so still no Luca. 
Want2bSupermum ·
27/01/2017 19:55
It is the name your chose for your DD. That is as good as reason as any. You will be the one calling it millions of times over the remaining years of your life.
I am so sorry you lost your mum.
flumpsnlumpsnstuff ·
27/01/2017 19:55
I know a Luca who's a girl she's 19 and very sweet and lovely. Her mums as mad as a box of frogs and named her after an ex who may or may not have been the father she doesn't know ---- but anyway Luca suits her name and I think you should ignore granny
FrancisCrawford ·
27/01/2017 19:57
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