To wish people were more positive about my baby's name? <kind of serious>

[Truntscump]

DH & I loved the name Luca for a girl throughout my pregnancy. I know it's generally used as a boy's name especially in Italy but her middle name is Rose and I love that it means 'light'.

Anyway, my dear mum very sadly died last summer of Leukaemia and my (usually lovely) Granny (aged 96 and grieving) first said that Luca reminds her of the phrase 'dirty Luca' then a week later she asked if it was too late to change the name beaches it reminds her of Leukaemia.

I was so upset, my baby (3 weeks old) really suits her name and I love that it's a bit different but now I can't stop thinking about the link to Leukaemia :(

It's the name of the actor who plays D'Artagnan on The Musketeers and he is gorgeous.

Thanks, I'm grieving too and have been having huge empathy pains for my DGM so haven't responded negatively to her knowing what she's going through. I just wish she'd have kept her thoughts to herself.
I've already registered her name and really loved the sound of Luca Rose until all of this. I grew up with Echo, Zanze, Zebedee and they've all made a great success of their lives so I don't really care about narrow minded people thinking on it as a strictly boys name, she will be brought up in an open minded household and I hope to I still confidence in her that allows her to celebrate her individuality.

It's just hard when someone plants that seed. Loosing my mum when I was 6 months pregnant was hard and when Luca was born (on my mums birthday) I though a name that meant bringer of light would be a lovely spark of life to a sad. Chapter for all of us.

I have a 'boys' name. No one can spell it, no one can pronounce it. It's a crazily rare, strange name but it's mine! I wouldn't change it. Your daughter will stand out, keep the name you love for your little girl

If you love the name and think that you can deal with the link your grandmother made then you can keep it.

I don't quite agree that it only concerns you and your partner. The person most affected will be your DD so think about whether she may mind having a predominantly (some PP say pretty much always) a boys name. Also children are born as part of wider families than just parents and siblings and if you think your grandmother will be in DD life I think it is fair to give some consideration to her feelings (as you said she is generally lovely.)

No! I'm still here!

In most (if not all - I'm not an expert) of South America, no.

Yes, Spanish dialects confuse me. I'm sure you are right.

There are plenty of songs with names in them. I'm not planning to abuse her so calling her Luca as in the middle of the road 80s singer Suzanne Vega's song Luka doesn't bother me/irrelevant these days.

Suzanne Vega's Luka is spelt differently, with a k. I doubt Luca's peers will ever hear the song. I love all the variations of Lucy/Lucia/Luke/Lucas etc. Maybe that's because I'm a Lucy. No doubt she'll be called Luce by all and sundry when she gets older!

I wouldn't change it. I understand your DGM is grieving (we never anticipate losing a child, do we?) but really she should have kept her opinions to herself, especially given that your DD is three weeks old.

Yes, Luca does sound like the first part of leukaemia, but no one in the history of the world has ever referred to Leukaemia as Luca. Surely . So it really shouldn't have any bearing. It may remind you for a little while because if what your DGM said but that will pass.

Personally I like very traditional names, but I don't understand all the grief you're getting for choosing a boys name for a girl. I just think it's an issue. It's certainly not the issue of the thread.

It's a boy's name. Lucia is beautiful.

Luca Rose. I think it's an absolutely beautiful name. I'm sure she will bring light into you life again. She will make everyday fun, lift your heart and your spirits and she will love to hear you tell her about her grandmother I'm sure. Keep her name. It's perfect.

Luca is a lovely girls name, you may get some people who know the pronounciation of that spelling in other languages is similar to lucy, but unfortunately that's a curse lots of people have to live with, including much more traditional and common names.

No negative connotations here, it's a lovely name.

Don't change it OP, it's lovely.

It's the grief talking with your DGM. My DGF complained bitterly about my name when I was born. My DGM had died during my DMs pregnancy and my parents wanted to call me a name they could abbreviate to my DGM's nickname without using my DGM's actual name IYSWIM. My DGF vetoed it so they named me something else in honour of my DF's heritage but then DGF complained I had a 'foreign' name. He was just grieving. In the end it never affected our relationship and he even admitted years later that I'm actually just like DGM.

Contrast to when DSis was born. DM wanted to name her one thing, remaining DGM begged for a different name. DM changed DSis' name and regretted it - Cue 30 years of DM really hating DSis' name!

Don't do it. Stick with what you love, you'll be happier in the long run.

Cheeky

The OP has just lost her mother...talking that way about her grandmother is really crass.....

If it helps OP - I have an unusual name (in England anyway) - totally normal in its country of origin.

I've had to spell/pronounce it all my life - but tbh I wouldn't change it. I really like that it stands out.

You know what your daughter was named for and if you like it then that's the end of the matter.

No-one on this thread has made any associations with leukaemia, even if they have questioned the gender aspect.

I think it's pretty and you should def not change it because of your Gran!

Luca Bella is the name of dd of Jennie Garth (90210) and Peter Facinelli (Twilight).
Can be boy or girl's name.

Cheekyfunkymonkey nice!

I think you can call your baby anything you like. My only input is that you may want to consider whether having a name that is generally accepted to be a boys name will have any effect on your daughter as she gets older. I don't mean will she have some kind of gender confusion! My name is Terry and I was teased quite badly at school for having a boys name. It really upset me and I really dislike my name even now. I have never changed it because I couldn't decide what I would like and I'm too old to bother now but it did cause me a lot of upset as a child/teenager. On the other hand I like the combination of names you have chosen, Rose goes really well with Luca.

Just Googled and it's female in Croatia and Hungary but pronounced Loot - sah.

Tbh call her what you want but some people will just assume you didn't know it was a boy's name. I wouldn't say anything to your face but I'd probably think you were a bit daft.

Your daughter (congratulations by the way) your choice of name...

Might I just suggest you hyphenate the names...LUCA-ROSE

I like it, but my daughter has a boys name. So I'm on your side. Everyone comments on how lovely it is for a girl, I don't know a single female with her name apart from a character from Dawson's creek! Hint.

Luca is a boy's name. Sorry OP, if I heard your daughter's name without seeing her, I would presume you had a son.

chrekyfunkymonkey- that is up there with the most insensitive and unpleasant posts I have ever read on mumsnet.

It's a beautiful name! Congratulations! I'm so sorry for your loss

It's a boys name, I'm sorry as you are going through a tough time right now but I think you should give your dd a girls name. Change your own to a boys name if you like it so much.

I honestly think my parents should have changed their own name rather than saddle me with a ridiculous version of a name.

I love it! Sorry for your loss OP