To wish people were more positive about my baby's name? <kind of serious>

[Truntscump]

DH & I loved the name Luca for a girl throughout my pregnancy. I know it's generally used as a boy's name especially in Italy but her middle name is Rose and I love that it means 'light'.

Anyway, my dear mum very sadly died last summer of Leukaemia and my (usually lovely) Granny (aged 96 and grieving) first said that Luca reminds her of the phrase 'dirty Luca' then a week later she asked if it was too late to change the name beaches it reminds her of Leukaemia.

I was so upset, my baby (3 weeks old) really suits her name and I love that it's a bit different but now I can't stop thinking about the link to Leukaemia :(

Kelly wasn't used with any great popularity for boys anyway

Not come across a single male Kelly.

"Filthy lucre" is not particularly obscure although I don't connect the phrase with the name Luca.

Not come across a single male Kelly.

That's right you probably wouldn't, it was scarcely used. Though as we're all aware v. popular for girls as a first name.

Luca Rose is a beautiful name.
People can say weird / hurtful things about anything. My DGM hated the name Matthew!

enjoy your baby and sorry for your loss x

Stick with the name OP, I think it's beautiful.

There are names out there like Hero, Rocket, Star and fuck knows what else that are completely non gender specific.

If anything you've started a trend of more to come girls called Luca.

Regardless of the fact that Luca 'could' be considered a boys name by 'some', ignore them it's a generational thing as far as I'm concerned. I work with a lot of different countries/organisations and I don't give a fuck what their name is/means or what the origins are. They are who thy are, end of.

Is it just me who finds people's complete dismissal of the grieving mother here deeply offensive?

There are names out there like Hero, Rocket, Star and fuck knows what else that are completely non gender specific.

Unlike Luca then whch is not And I doubt the OP will start any trends. There are more names registered with spelling mistakes than there are girls named Luca, and the latter fell last year.

She was also advised to tell the grieving mother to put up and shut up, or some other similar charming sentiment.

It's traditionally a boy's mane bit if you like it keep it! She will stand out from the crowd! I met a baby called Stala - never heard of that but her parents loved it!

Kelly is a boys name. Google kelly Jones.

Luca is a boys name. But I like it and it's YOUR baby.

Granny is mean

"Granny is mean"

Granny has lost her daughter. Fuck me, some people are ghastly.

*Maybe not to you. But that doesn't mean they aren't names boys/men have.

No, not to me. I prefer dealing with fact than opinion. I was looking statistically. They simply aren't used for boys nowadays. And I've already said that!*

Really? Because I could swear in your post you said 'Acceptable? Not so much.' Acceptance isn't a fact. It's an opinion.

It's Bolek not Boelek.

There's no Luca in Polish. Probably the woman sitting knows is called Łucja (Polish version of Lucia) and thought she anglicised her name to Luca.

Luca is a great name. Stick with it. I'm sure in a few years you will meet other baby girls called Luca. Then would you be filled with regret if you had changed your daughters name. Remember your Grandmother is grieving at the moment and it's grief talking in response to your daughter's name. She doesn't mean it.

If it's any help at all, Lycka and Lykke are Swedish and Danish girls' names respectively which mean happiness. First syllable pronounced more or less as a mixture of 'look' and 'lick'.

I think its fine to use the name, but you do have to accept that some people may find it strange (and she may (possibly ) get picked on. My name is Hazel (bloody bane of my life, don't use that name now). Hazel nut all the time!

Because society values "boy" stuff more than "girl" stuff. And, incidentally, once people start using a particular name for girls, people stop using it for girls. Fact.

BertrandRussell have I understood that correctly, you're saying that a name for girls will fall out of fashion as soon as it becomes popular? Whereas this isn't true for boys' names? Just asking because that's a really interesting fact!

Baby is here. Baby is named. Linking the name to something negative is the sort of thing you think to yourself but don't say to the mom of the baby bearing the name. She is hurting and that is understandable. But hopefully granny can eventually allow baby Luca to stamp out the negative association with leukemia and not the other way around? If you love your baby's name, leave it as is. I only ever knew one female Luca and her name was short for Lucabella (beautiful light). Sorry for your family's loss.

I'm sorry lovely but while Luca is a beautiful name I see it as a boys name and it does have similarities to the disease that killed your mother. I would choose something else x

It is a lovely name for a girl.

Congratulations.

And very sorry for your loss

I love Lucinda, Luca for short -' could keep everyone happy ..?

Just because someone's grieving doesn't mean they get to tell someone to rename their child with guilt trips linking it to 'dirty' and 'leukemia'.

It is what it is, OP, she's got a boy's name with all the baggage and opinion that comes along with that choice, ask any parent of female Ryans, Dylans, Coopers, Tobys and Evans.

If you love it you love it. Don't change for someone else.

I love it, screw gender stereotyping and go with it!

I think the OP is long gone (and probably not to the name registry).

As a (part) Italian, I would assume that in calling a girl Luca, the parents were trying to "go Italian", but getting it wrong I'm really sorry to say that the name comes over a bit naff in this respect. Apologies OP for saying it, but I do think your daughter will come across this reaction, as well as general confusion.