To wish people were more positive about my baby's name? <kind of serious>

[Truntscump]

DH & I loved the name Luca for a girl throughout my pregnancy. I know it's generally used as a boy's name especially in Italy but her middle name is Rose and I love that it means 'light'.

Anyway, my dear mum very sadly died last summer of Leukaemia and my (usually lovely) Granny (aged 96 and grieving) first said that Luca reminds her of the phrase 'dirty Luca' then a week later she asked if it was too late to change the name beaches it reminds her of Leukaemia.

I was so upset, my baby (3 weeks old) really suits her name and I love that it's a bit different but now I can't stop thinking about the link to Leukaemia :(

The only Luca I know is a little boy, with an Eastern European mother.

I still think it's a pretty name, but given that it IS a boy's name, you are almost bound to get such comments.

Did it not occur to you that this would be the case?

If you met Italian parents living in the U.K. who had decided to call their baby girl Alan, because they liked it regardless, would you not think it a bit odd?
Maybe not...

I know a man whose name is the feminine spelling of a name -- think Gabriel/Gabrielle. His mum just didn't realise when she registered him. He's found it embarrassing his whole life.

I knew a boy named Sue and he turned out all right.

It's a lovely name for a boy and in the UK sounds nice for a girl. Just accept thst it's a boy's name though and that some folk will think you just didn't know the names background.!

"Ignore dgm. Grief can be strange."

Did you really type that? Might you like to rethink it?

Honestly I don't think it's fair on your dd to give her what's clearly a boys name, she's going to be explaining herself to surprised new acquaintances for her entire life
I wouldn't want that for any of mine

How is it possible not to know that the suffix "son" means "son of"?
It's basic comprehension.

Maybe, maybe not. They might think it little different from other 'son' suffix names which don't have any similar meaning. Who knows. Enough people use it so as not to care, given, as I've already mentioned the vast popularity of Maddison/Madison for girls and, alas, not boys You digress from the OP with this example, however.

Eek. I think it's a lovely sounding name, though I've always thought of it as a boy's name.
I'm also a bit at the people saying ignore your grandmother, a very elderly woman who's just lost a child.

Also, as a previous poster pointed out: Look, a rose! (Luca Rose). Though that's actually rather nice.

If you like the name, keep it.
In my onion, I think you'll be responding to people's inquisitions over the name wherever you go as she grows up, ie people spelling it wrong and questioning the spelling etc, and where the name Luca comes from etc, as it is so unusual that people many not think Luca can be right.
I also know of a boy called Luca and have no idea if it is spelled Luca or Lucca. So i think when people see this name they may pre-judge and think she is a boy!

Sorry for you loss OP. I think Luca Rose is lovely. Go with it. I don't think it matters it's a boys name. If it bothers your daughter as she grows up she can always ask to be called just Rose.

Any name ending "son" for example means "son of".

Alison

sonsmum it's not unusual, Luca is top 50...for boys.

I'm laughing at autocorrect 'in my onion' though

Oscar used to be a 'girls' name.

No it didn't.

If you met Italian parents living in the U.K. who had decided to call their baby girl Alan, because they liked it regardless, would you not think it a bit odd?

That would clinch it for me as a reason not to use it for a girl.

Surnames ending in son mean 'son of' eg Johnson, Robertson, Peterson, Stevenson etc. I don't think it applies to first names.
OP, I would go with Lucia but use Luca as a nickname if you want which gives DD the choice. I would be annoyed at having a name that meant people would assume I was male which they mostly will.

*Alex is a boys name
Sam is a boys name
Jamie is a boys name
Frankie is a boys name

Really?
Alex is short for Alexandra;
Sam for Samantha; Frankie for Francesca.

Please tell me no one actually uses them as real names.*

Yes, hence my comment in that same oust that plenty of girls don't have shortened variants. These are just their names. It's not really very difficult to grasp is it? But if you need a bit more help....

Lyn
Marion
Hilary
Beverly......

All perfectly acceptable boys names.

Good point, the 'son ofs' are usually, or originally, surnames.

Lyn
Marion
Hilary
Beverly......
All perfectly acceptable boys names.

Have I read that wrong. Hilary et al rarely used for boys nowadays. Acceptable? Not so much

Any name ending "son" for example means "son of". Which makes it very strange to call a girl Maddison.

Is it strange to call a girl Alison? Because I seem to be falling over female Alisons both at work and socially. I don't think there is anything obviously masculine about Luca - it could have become a popular girls name after the popularity of Luke ( a bit like Andrea after Andrew) but it didn't. Instead it has become very popular for boys - the only thing that really makes a name a boys or a girls name is usage.

You may be right about the song, I've just realised I've never looked into it, it's only my listening of it that came to that conclusion.

[Goes off to find lyrics]

I always thought Luca sounded like a totally girl name, too.

But it's so common now, it will be thought of as a boy name. If OP just spelled it Lucha, wouldn't that get rid of it seeming same as the boy's name. Not sure OP is using pronunciation with CH sound, I think she wants hard K sound like the (usually) boy's name because she didn't know it's supposed to have a CH sound?

^Lyn
Marion
Hilary
Beverly......
All perfectly acceptable boys names.^

They were never really 'boys names' as such, just unusual names given to a small number of boys before becoming very popular girls names.

Lijkk, it is not supposed to have a CH sound - the poster upthread who said that was wrong.