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AIBU?

To wish people were more positive about my baby's name? <kind of serious>

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Truntscump · 27/01/2017 17:12

DH & I loved the name Luca for a girl throughout my pregnancy. I know it's generally used as a boy's name especially in Italy but her middle name is Rose and I love that it means 'light'.

Anyway, my dear mum very sadly died last summer of Leukaemia and my (usually lovely) Granny (aged 96 and grieving) first said that Luca reminds her of the phrase 'dirty Luca' then a week later she asked if it was too late to change the name beaches it reminds her of Leukaemia.

I was so upset, my baby (3 weeks old) really suits her name and I love that it's a bit different but now I can't stop thinking about the link to Leukaemia :(

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Truntscump · 27/01/2017 17:12

*because not beaches!

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ArseyTussle · 27/01/2017 17:15

Who or what is dirty Luca?

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itsawonderfulworld · 27/01/2017 17:15

Would you consider changing it to Lucia (Italian for Lucy) - it means "light" and St Lucia is the patron saint of light.

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Chinnygirl · 27/01/2017 17:16

Don't listen to granny. Luca sounds lovely. It fits with all thepopular names out there while being different. I think it's a female version of Lucas?

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Yukbuck · 27/01/2017 17:16

I'm sorry to hear about your DM. Must have been a horrible time for you all.
As soon as you said she'd died from Leukaemia though I thought the name also reminded me of it though I'm afraid. I think if it was a few years down the line then it wouldn't have the link so much but it only happened last summer so still very fresh.
However, it's your baby, so you should call her what you like. Congratulations on your baby

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dontcallmelen · 27/01/2017 17:17

Arsey dirty/filthy Luca used to be slang for money not sure if it still is though or has other connotations.

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SonyaGluck · 27/01/2017 17:17

Who or what is dirty Luca?

Filthy lucre?

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MaximumVolume · 27/01/2017 17:18

@ArseyTussle I suspect OPs granny means dirty (filthy) lucre.

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Cherryskypie · 27/01/2017 17:18

It's a lovely boy's name.

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babymouse · 27/01/2017 17:18

Filthy lucre, maybe?

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ArseyTussle · 27/01/2017 17:18

Ah, got you now.

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dontcallmelen · 27/01/2017 17:19

Doh😳 lucre Max has the proper spelling

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blueskyinmarch · 27/01/2017 17:19

The phrase is filthy lucre meaning dirty money. Luca is a lovely name.

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tinymeteor · 27/01/2017 17:19

Yanbu, it's lovely and more importantly it's her name now. Done. Everyone can keep their objections to themselves.

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itsawonderfulworld · 27/01/2017 17:21

I think it's a female version of Lucas?

No, Lucas, Luca and Luke are regional variations of the same name (Germanic, Italian, English). The female version would be Lucy/Lucia.

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babymouse · 27/01/2017 17:21

Oops double (quadruple) post?

She'll get over it. If you are set on the name than use it unapologetically.

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Trifleorbust · 27/01/2017 17:21

'filthy lucre' is from the Bible and is pronounced 'luca'.

Either way, you can name your baby whatever you like and as she already has her name, you should simply ignore any comments.

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PacificDogwod · 27/01/2017 17:22

Filthy lucre

And the 'leuk' bit in 'leukaemia' means 'white' as it is a cancer of the white blood cells, so while the meaning is similar (white/light), the spelling isn't.

I think you need to put granny's remarks out of your mind.

Change your DD's name is you want, not because of what anybody else says.

Congrats on your new DD! Thanks

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Willialwaysbelookeddownon · 27/01/2017 17:22

I love Luca for a girl. If you love it, keep it.
No one else in the world will make the Leukaemia connection.
Lucas however I hate because I think of mucus and locusts!

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twobarnsmammisonthebus · 27/01/2017 17:22

I would ignore your grandmother on the dirty lucre comment, but if YOU (not her) feel that the sound link to leukaemia would upset you, then you could consider changing it. I think it's tenuous, and rather mean of your grandmother to mention it. However as someone who had also lost a parent to cancer, I know that emotions run very high, which might explain your grandmother's comments (but not excuse them), and also that you have to do what you can to get through. If for you that means changing the name so it doesn't become a trigger for sadness when you hear it, do it with your head held high. If it means keeping the name and being proud of it and its lovely connotations, then do that with your head held high. FlowersFlowersFlowers for you and your no doubt adorable baby Luca.

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Marilynsbigsister · 27/01/2017 17:22

No. Sorry a. It sounds like a boys name because IT IS A BOYS NAME !

Just because it's forrin doesn't make it a Uni sex name. It's like having a girl baby in Italy and calling her Robert... (because you like the name !)

As for similarities to Leukaemia.. I don't think you could of picked something more similar name-wise if you tried. No wonder granny is upset.

Lucia... lovely !!

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twobarnsmammisonthebus · 27/01/2017 17:23

(Lovely connotations i.e meaning light) x

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FrancisCrawford · 27/01/2017 17:23

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PacificDogwod · 27/01/2017 17:24

I have never heard anybody pointing out a perceived similarity to 'leukaemia' when 'Luca' is used as a boy's name though Hmm

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Summerwood1 · 27/01/2017 17:24

I know lots of children called Luca but they are all boys.

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