To ask when yours slept through the night?

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And did you sleep train?

First DS is 7 weeks so not expecting better sleep just yet but I've become obsessed with the sleep board which terrines me. Is bad sleep the norm or can you give me hope?

Both sons were 9/10 months old

Ds (now 6) - didn't sleep train. Slept through from 10 months
Dd (now 3 and a bit) - attempted sleep training; didn't like it. still wakes most nights!!

My 14m old has JUST started sleeping through. But she now wakes up at half 5.

Ds at 6 weeks slept for 6 hours 9-3 then at 12 weeks did 12 hours 9-9, he is 21 months old and unless ill still does 9-9

Sorry should add I didn't sleep train or do anything to make him sleep he just did it, I kept panicking about him going so long without milk but he was a big fan of cluster feeding and would feed from 7-9 pretty solidly so I think would just fill himself up and sleep it off

Oh and I've never sleep trained, I actually think it's pretty ridiculous to expect every single baby to be sleeping through by 9 months (or even sooner according to some).
They're still so tiny.

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I have 8mo twins. One sleeps through - did sleep training (CC) with her and it worked within a day!

Haven't been able to train the other one yet as he's not been well - he's in the bedroom with me and wakes every 2hrs or so, and I feed him back to sleep as, quite frankly, I can't be arsed to do anything else at 2am. Looking forward to sleep training him once he's over his issue. Think it may take longer to do with him but a few nights of training is worth the good sleeps!!

23 months, stopped breastfeeding at that point and DC started sleeping for 12 hours immediately, correlation much! Up every 1-3 hours until that point!

3 years old
First time she slept through I woke up at 8am and was terrified of going in her room.

I think often you have to teach them how to sleep through when you're ready to tackle it- mine all did by 10 months to 1 year but had to do a bit of controlled crying to get there. '
Controversial but slept through ever since

Orangebird she was ff, they both was.

My first was a horrendous sleeper at first (up to four hours of soothing before she went to sleep, then waking every hour) until I cracked and used controlled crying at 6.5 months (she loves a routine so this worked in two days). That dealt with the four hours of soothing and I then nightweaned at 7.5 months (using controlled crying), after which she slept 7-7.

My second was a fantastic sleeper (6:30-4 or 5am from day 1) until the four month sleep regression... so we used cry it out (yes, I'm a monster, barbaric etc...). The checks in controlled crying made her worse and I decided an hour of crying was better for her than 4+ hours. I read a lot of scientific studies to get comfortable with it, but at six months she is as happy and well-adjusted as ever. I still feed her in the night but we have had one night of 6:30-6:45!

It's not a popular opinion here, but I think a few nights of sleep training is far better for a baby than a miserable mother who has survived on four broken hours for months on end, can't function and can't cope (now retreating back to my cave for the onslaught).

Dtd1 was 11 weeks (5 weeks corrected) and dtd2 was 14 weeks (8 weeks corrected). They slept from 11:30 after dream feed to when I woke them at 7am for their first feed of the day.

They have always been big sleepers, even now at 4.5 they sleep for 12/13 hours at night.

10 weeks he started sleeping 9pm til at least 6am, then this got longer until he was sleeping 12 hours from around 3-4 months. He's 13 months now and the only "bad" nights with wake ups have been due to illness or molars (other teeth haven't bothered him at night yet). I know plenty of people whose babies sleep well, but I also know of some who don't, I think it's luck unfortunately, but you can do everything you can to instil good routines/habits early, ie putting baby down awake rather than feeding to sleep.

Good luck!

Also never sleep trained but stuck to simple routine of bath/bottle/bed religiously from early on, and also put him down awake early on.

Ds1 10 months (after sleep training)
Ds2 4 years (after numerous different sleep strategies failed)

With my 1st, at around 11 months :/. My 2nd, 2 months in and she was sleeping the whole night, miracle baby. My 3rd, he slept through the night at 4/5 months. Now my 5 month old twins have been sleeping through the night since around 3 1/2 months. They're great.

I am obsessed with sleep.
We were quite into routine at night. DC1 was in bed at 7 from an early age. Woke her for dreamfeed at 11. She slept from 7-7 with the dream feed from 7 weeks. We dropped the dream feed at 6 months and she has slept 7-7 ever since (she is 3 now). Fully aware that I sound a bit smug but it can be done, depending on how prepared you are to follow a routine. I loosely followed Gina Ford but I never let my little one CIO or anything like that, am way too soft.

DD1 no night feeds, never gets up unless really unwell, always slept 12 hours at night with one 2-3 hour afternoon nap from about 9 months. Cut out her naps just before her 3rd birthday. She's nearly 6 now.
DD2 slept for a good 6-7 hours at night then started waking hourly, then changed and slept 12 hours, then started waking about 2am for 2 hours of singing time then slept through for 11 hours then started getting up at 4:30am for a half hour of singing time and now goes between 11/12 hours sleep at night or waking for her singing time. Sometimes she'll nap, sometimes not. Exactly the same routine as her big sister and she's just over a year old now.
You do survive it even though some days you think you can't. Invest in a decent coffee machine and try to not obsess if you can as it won't change a thing!

DD (kinda) slept through from six weeks, but she is FF which gives us an advantage, and is only 15 weeks old now so it could all turn to shit tomorrow.

By 'kinda' slept through I mean; mainly she sleeps from 9pm to 7am, however wakes up between 3 and 4am for a feed one or twice a week.

DD slept through 8pm-7am at 8 weeks. DS slept through from 7pm- 7am at 11 weeks. Started bath, bed routine about two weeks with both of them and did sleep training with DD when she was about 9 months old and started night waking.

I don't actually know or care when they started sleeping through the night. Possibly they still don't. The point for me was, could I find a way to get enough rest regardless of getting up in the night with children? And at what age could they mostly sort out problems for themselves, e.g. retrieve dropped teddies and take themselves to the loo?

From what I've read, it seems that until the last few hundred years it must have been fairly unusual to expect to sleep through the night. Uninterrupted sleep isn't something humans have evolved to need. It is something to which we have habituated ourselves. Babies and toddlers can't always manage to conform to this recent fad of ours for "sleeping through". If we can't train them not to need us in the night, maybe we need to train ourselves not to need big chunks of sleep. That probably requires us to go to bed earlier ourselves and find a way to get some daytime naps as well.

DS - 9 weeks
DD - 3 yrs 2 weeks

DD was about 10 weeks, DS was 17 months!