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AIBU to ask DH to book his family on premium economy

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 16:06

My DH went on holiday with a friend last year and his friend booked premium economy seats for what is about approx an 8hr flight. DH and his friend will doing the same trip earlier this year and will be booking the premium economy seats We as a family are due to go on holiday to the same place and I have asked will he book us all including my 2DC on premium economy seats as my tall teenage son particularly finds it uncomfortable in economy my DH has said he will for me and the DC but he will book an economy class for himself I am disappointed that he will travel with his friend in premium but not us is he being unreasonable or am I ? I have a good mind to just say ok I will go with that.

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SansComic · 26/01/2017 08:16

Paying for teenagers (adults) to come with you is a luxury the OP and husband can afford. The children more than likely couldn't afford a holiday in the Caribbean by themselves and this is a nice thing to do. Berating the OP for this is a bit strange and perhaps jealous.

I feel sorry for the OP's husband. He has made a sacrifice. Isn't being a dick about it and was more than happy to upgrade his tall DS among others.

How has he been controlling? Was it the way he upgraded his family with his earnings? What a misogynistic cunt!

Speaking of his earnings (and awaiting the drip feed), can you be a SAHP with two late-teenage children or are you a SAHLWLABAHHO*?

*stay at home lady who lunches and bitches about her husband online

OpheliaHamlet · 26/01/2017 08:28

Sorry if I missed it - but where was the holiday to with his friend?

If it was Spain or somewhere then I'm sure affording Premium Economy was quite a bit cheaper than to the Caribbean.

I'm not particularly wealthy, but have on occasion booked Business Class/First as a treat, when flying shorter destination holidays (usually with friends) as it's actually doable and I don't feel I'll end up sacrificing other 'nice things' on the holiday because of it.

Another one who does not understand what your DH has done wrong.

celtiethree · 26/01/2017 08:28

It's not clear that they are his DC OP is always referring to my DC,.

DH is not being controlling he has upgraded as per OP request.

oleoleoleole · 26/01/2017 08:30

He is BU

Reality16 · 26/01/2017 08:45

OP has clarified earlier. The they are two separate holidays. thank you. I did think that in the first place but people replied as if they would be say separately on the same flight!

This wouldn't bother me in the slightest tbh. If I go away without my DH I often travel better (even by train I would take first) but he would too. For us As a family of 6 though it makes sense to go that little bit cheaper.

However I think the issue here is that you want to do something and he is being entirely dismissive and that is not ok

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/01/2017 09:37

Ophelia the OP says in her first post that both trips with the friend and the family holiday were/are to the same place, so all three are long haul but he only objects to paying for PE on the family trip. As I said before, that says to me that he wants the OP to agree to downgrade by laying on a guilt trip.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2017 14:45

As I said before, that says to me that he wants the OP to agree to downgrade by laying on a guilt trip

And to me it says he really isn't bothered about where he sits so isn't going to waste money on something he doesn't need. It's the flight for God's sake, it's not like he's booked himself a separate room at the hotel!

skippy67 · 26/01/2017 17:23

^^ that's what I said...

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/01/2017 17:56

And to me it says he really isn't bothered about where he sits so isn't going to waste money on something he doesn't need.

He didnt need the upgrade with his friend, but he happily paid for that.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2017 19:25

yes, at 200ish pounds. different story when you are paying for 4 adults isn't it!

Llanali · 26/01/2017 19:40

Geez some of you!
If your kids were young and he was worming out of in flight child care he'd be a knob. But they aren't and he isn't!

If we flew minus the kids and hubby asked for PE for his legs, if I could pay I would. I prob wouldn't bother for me, I'm short and I watch films and drunk gin rather than chat or cuddle or whatever anyway!

CouldntMakeThisShitUp · 26/01/2017 23:24

£200 won't break the bank, not when he can afford to spend thousands on pursuing his own annual lads holiday

Maybe OP isn't the type to sit there and read/sleep/listen to music. Maybe she might like to use that time catching up/chattering with her husband?

PyongyangKipperbang · 27/01/2017 00:12

yes, at 200ish pounds. different story when you are paying for 4 adults isn't it!

Well no actually. Because it will still only cost an extra £200 on top of the holiday as the OP and the kids are all going PE, so him going PE as well is only costing one extra upgrade on top of what has already been agreed.

Sybis · 27/01/2017 00:48

He's either trying to save a bit of money or is guilt-tripping, but all we can do is guess.

Either way I don't think he's being necessarily being unreasonable. Presumably when he went on holiday with his friends he was only paying for himself, now he's paying for a family of 4. I think getting in a huff because he's being skimpy with his own ticket seems very entitled.

BuggersMuddle · 27/01/2017 01:06

I don't see a huge issue tbh. Three adults, one near adult - he's not leaving you 'minding the kids'.

I think it's a little bit odd, because if money's tight that a couple of hundred quid is an issue I'd probably expect everyone to fly economy. That said, he's upgraded everyone.

Maybe his mate really wanted company from the get go + a bit of dick swinging, but he thinks you'll all be self-contained (reading, iPads, dozing) and therefore it's less important to him. Obvs you could ask him to join you, but given you're not wrangling small children, he's not bothered and you are an establish family going on a family holiday I guess he's thinking 'what's so important about this 8 hours.

Now, I actually do really prioritise being with my DP on flights where I can (because I prefer sitting next to him than random people I don't know, but your DC are not randoms). BUT when we both got premium seats in separate areas with a very small price to pay, we jumped at it .

Reality16 · 27/01/2017 08:17

buggers it is 2 separate holidays.

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