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AIBU to ask DH to book his family on premium economy

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 16:06

My DH went on holiday with a friend last year and his friend booked premium economy seats for what is about approx an 8hr flight. DH and his friend will doing the same trip earlier this year and will be booking the premium economy seats We as a family are due to go on holiday to the same place and I have asked will he book us all including my 2DC on premium economy seats as my tall teenage son particularly finds it uncomfortable in economy my DH has said he will for me and the DC but he will book an economy class for himself I am disappointed that he will travel with his friend in premium but not us is he being unreasonable or am I ? I have a good mind to just say ok I will go with that.

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 16:43

Thank you ladies I now feel calmer and I am not quite sure yet what I am going to do but from an earlier expression one of you used and I now will retain in my personal dictionary there sure is an element of "dick swinging " going on here as well FlowersFlowers

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MrsPeelyWally · 25/01/2017 16:46

You're not being unreasonable OP. Once someone in the family upgrades on a holiday flight everyone does. I'd also be saying that from now on you'll be booking PE when you go away with friends.

Over the years we've gone from flying economy to now always going business or first depending on the length of the flight. There is no way it's something only one member of the family would do or have done.

Perhaps the whole holiday away with his pal needs to be re-evaluated given the can of worms it's opened.

kilmuir · 25/01/2017 16:50

I am confused why you are upset? What am I missing?
Premium economy is hardly luxury but extra leg room would be good for long legged people

Boulshired · 25/01/2017 16:59

On the occasional times I have been away with friends I have treated myself to upgrades that I would not be able to justify on a family holiday because of the accumulated cost. I would not have a problem if he wants to fly economy to save money.

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 17:03

Thank you ladies and yes we can afford PE but he can be mean and yes even with himself sometimes !!HmmThis is all about the principle of it

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PovertyPain · 25/01/2017 17:09

He's talking bollocks, OP. I guarantee he'll book premium with his friend, using the excuse that his friend didn't want to sit in economy. He's just being a miserable sod and wants his second class family to sit in economy. Sounds like a right git.

ExplodedCloud · 25/01/2017 17:10

It could backfire on him if he decides his point has been made and that he'll now upgrade to PE and there's no space. Don't be persuaded into swapping!

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 17:13

Did anyone read the article in one of the Sunday papers on economic oppression in relationships Maybe that is still fresh in my mind !!

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 17:17

Sorry cock up there ,what I was going to say did any one read the article in the Sunday papers on economic oppression that happens in some relationships maybe that is still fresh in my mind !!

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FannyWisdom · 25/01/2017 17:18

Is it a small plane with 3-3-3 seating in premium economy?
Let the kids sit up front and you sit with him at the back?

LALALALALAND · 25/01/2017 17:20

I am confused why you are upset? What am I missing?Premium economy is hardly luxury but extra leg room would be good for long legged people

Depends on the airline, on Virgin it is a totally different offer.

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 17:22

Seats not booked yet it will be to the Caribbean

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CouldntMakeThisShitUp · 25/01/2017 17:22

he's behaving like a passive aggressive twat.

he's trying to make you feel bad/guilty so in future you won't even bother to ask about PE seating - because it means he won't sit with you. 'Saving money' is a pathetic excuse - especially given he can afford an extra holiday each year just for him.

you say he works hard and therefore you don't begrudge him his lads holidays.
what about you? you work hard raising your kids, running the household etc - why don't you feel deserve a holiday just for yourself. You said you're a flight away from your friends, so what? Book yourself a PE flight and go spend time with your friends - just like he does.

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 17:24

It's not about luxury, leg room is important but it's the principle that he upgrades when flying with a friend but not with his family

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CockacidalManiac · 25/01/2017 17:27

I'm 6 foot 3, but I'd prefer to travel in economy and spend the money on chips and ice cream once I'm there.

BastardBloodAndSand · 25/01/2017 17:29

I think everyone's being a little over dramatic tbh. I often pay a little extra for things if I go away with friends, ie first price train tickets etc. This is because i'm only paying for me so the cost isn't massive. I wouldn't dream of travelling first class with dp and the dcs tho, the cost would be prohibitive as that's an extra 3 adults upgrading.

I can see his point tbh but I'd just agree with what he says and travel PE with your dcs. I don't think there's any manipulation there, it's the sort of thing I'd suggest.

AyeAmarok · 25/01/2017 17:30

Maybe he doesn't want to sit with you and your DC?

He doesn't sound nice.

harshbuttrue1980 · 25/01/2017 17:37

I don't see the problem. Paying for expensive tickets for 4 people is far more costly than for one person. And he's offering to let you sit in the good seat while he takes the cheap one. If you don't work, maybe you don't understand how much things cost. If your kids are teenagers, then if you want a more luxurious lifestyle, maybe you could work and bring some money in?

sparechange · 25/01/2017 17:41

I can't really understand why you need to sit together. Surely you will spend the entire flight with headphones on or asleep?

Plus the cabin formation in PE means that you're not all going to be able to sit together anyway - I think most have 2-3-2 in Premium, so at least you should be able to sit with your DCs?

juneau · 25/01/2017 17:44

I think you should offer to all fly economy, if its a squeeze financially. There are rows with more legroom in economy, so how about trying to get one of those instead?

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 17:54

I am talking principles read the post carefully yes I don't work but I practice economy at home and I damn well support my DH so he can work the hours that he does but if some of you want to go off on a tangent find another thread regarding work to vent your spleen on I have done my share of career and caring ok enough said

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 18:00

I should say sorry mumsnetters butmy remarks were directed at harshbuttrue1980 post

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bawabod · 25/01/2017 18:13

Thank you all for your comments I have got to go now but I will review our chat and decide how I go here on Smile

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kilmuir · 25/01/2017 18:25

Mountain and molehill spring to mind

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 25/01/2017 18:26

Well, there is quite a price difference between paying for one PE seat (when he travels with a friend) and paying for four isn't there?

What reason is he using for not booking everyone in to PE? You say you can easily afford it, so to claim it's a cost issue is a bit odd.

Not to be rude, but do you have full access to your household finances? By which I mean, do you get to see bank statements or look at the online banking? Maybe there isn't quite as much in the pot as you think there is?

If you're absolutely sure that it's a just a case of DH being a cock and not to do with cost, then yes - absolutely - let him book the three of you into PE & himself in to economy. His choice to be the martyr if he wants to be!