To think this inheritance split is not fair?

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Ok, firstly I know I should be grateful to be getting anything from my grandparents. And I am. But I'm just wondering what the general consensus is on this...

Grandparents have 2 offspring.

Have set aside £x for grandchildren.

There are five grandchildren.

My father has 4. His sister has 1.

Now rather than the £x being split into 5 equal portions for us all

Half of £x goes to Aunts child.
Half goes to my dad's children to be divided between 4.

So say it's £1000

Cousin gets £500.

We get £125 each.

What do you think of that?

The law that says that it's fairest to divide your estate between your kids equally, whether they have 2 kids or 20.

And now you two are boring the shit out of me with your dull arse tag teaming so I'm going to hide this thread and leave you to slag me off behind my back. Night night! :)

As we say round here, pity for you. I wish your grandparents knew you were moaning on here so they could make sure you got nothing.

Seems pretty fair to me, from a grand parents perspective.

The same amount is going to each family in total. You just dont know how many grandchildren will be in the picture when the will comes into force. It is possible they could amend their will when new grandchildren are born but the possibility of dementia or other issues that affect old age and can last decades means it is not always possible to continually update a will to cover changes.

If the two children think its unfair then surely they can top up the grandchildren's inheritance from their own.

Well if the law says that then perhaps they should have been fair and followed it by leaving it directly to their children as opposed to ignoring it and dividing it unequally and unfairly between their grandchildren.

Fairly sure that bibbity isn't in my tag team - and I have no intention of slagging anyone off behind their back. Night

OP, I'd be hurt if I were you although I assume in their heads they thought it was fair. Either that or they're easily manipulated and your aunt has had a word in their ear...

nothing you can do really, it's still better than a slap in the face.

I think the money should have been split equally between the 5 grandchildren - if it was £20,000 then £4000 each. It's not your fault you have 3 siblings.

I think it's totally fair and in countries where the inheritance is dictated by law that would be the split that would happen.

Think about it this way. Would you consider it fair for them to leave half to each of their children? If they had done that, would you expect your aunt/uncle to leave anything to you, or to leave it to their children.

Effectively, they are leaving half to each of their children. For logistical, tax or whatever reason, they are giving it directly to their children's heirs rather than to their children to then leave to their heirs. But they are maintaining the proportions that would apply if it had gone through their children first.

I agree OP it seems unfair, but like others said it's their choice and you're lucky to have anything. Ignore the idiots that are making you out to be greedy, you were just asking a question. Sorry for your loss x

Quite a flounce there Jiggly. Hope you get over yourself soon.

YABU- Is completely fair. is nothing to do with you personally- is because you are one of 3 obviously! Just as if your cousin would receive less if they had siblings. Surely as a parent you can understand wanting to divide your money equally between your children? IF they had divided unequally between their own children that would be odd/ telling of family issues. What they have done is fair and respectful of their own children's choices

I would have been absolutely furious if my dear Dad had split money evenly between the grandchildren. He spoilt them all rotten when he was alive - some more than others. An equal split between children is the only fair way. From generation to generation. Parents then decide what to with what is now their money.

I think I give up!

It would be nice if you came back, op.

I'd look at it as they are still giving each child half essentially as be grateful they at least split it half half between siblings!

Surely as a parent you can understand wanting to divide your money equally between your children?

Precisely! So on that basis - given the children are not receiving this money- would you not want to pass this 'equal and fair sharing' approach to the people you are leaving it to, i.e. the grandchildren?

Either grandchildren are heirs to your children and they get nothing, your children get equal shares and the grandkids get what the parents wish to pass on, OR, they are individuals who you wish to bequest to and therefore it should be done fairly between the grandkids.

Keeping the split as it would be from the parents is just odd. Sorry but it is. Much much odder than not leaving anything to the grandkids and just leaving to your children. That makes sense.

The will may have been written before there were any GC, so not have been thought about in those terms.

I do believe the person can bequest their money anyway they see fit but personally I would have made an even split.

I had a similar discussion with my Dds, one has 3 DC and one has 1. The one with one DC thought that if her Nieces had £100 each for xmas then her DD should get £300. I thought they should all get the same.

Why is it odd to leave something to your grandchildren in your will?

My grandma left each of her grandchildren £1000 in her will. My cousins are 4 in their family. There's just me and my brother in ours. I would never have considered they should get less because we are just individuals. Each grandchild equally important surely.

Well I would give every grandchild the same amount, the money would be for them as individual people irrespective of who has which parent.

Not a problem I'll ever have though, no grandchildren and my money will all go to my DD, who doesn't need it, she's welcome to do whatever she wants with it.

My "D"S will get nothing.

Imagine if the gps are 70ish, the children are 50ish and the grandchildren are 20ish.

Why is it odd for the grandparents to leave some of their money to the grandchildren - so that the dgc can have it and use it without having to wait for their parents to die which could be another 30 years? And by then there might be nothing left to pass on anyway!

It is not odd, it's not illegal - it is odd not to give each grandchild an equal amount.

Ok different situations but interesting to see how the responses on the other inheritance thread are the complete opposite though the op was obviously hoping for the same as on this one.

We don't know how the bequest was phrased and whether it was x amount to be shared equally amount my son's dc and x amount to be shared equally between my daughter's dc (only 1 admittedly) or whether it was the overall amount for the grandchildren.

Not read all thread but seems fair to me - split between the two dependent families

My great aunt divided up her estate into random units! My brother got written out completely, I got a couple of the units of money, my cousins got far more. No idea, even asked about my brother but it stood and it was the decision she made.

Maybe the cousin is the favourite.

Nobody here know why grandparents have chosen to do this. Nothing to 'get'.

No that's true - but the OP is asking whether it's fair, and if everything else is equal then it's patently not.