Should work offer to pay for sitter?

[TheFear]

I work in a client facing role, clients visit our offices for meetings/ workshops perhaps once a quarter on average.
Generally I am expected to bring them out for a meal or a few drinks, mid week. Not every night, maybe once, next week there are 2 events, I am not expected to attend both but certainly should attend 1 of them.

DH feels that work should offer to pay for a sitter and should not assume that he will look after the kids while I am out "enjoying myself".

We both know what is expected of me in my role, part of it is looking after the client outside office hours to some extent.
I like my client and we usually have fun on our nights out so I'm wondering is this what is bugging DH, or does he genuinely have a point? So is he BU or am I, to assume that he will support my work commitments?

I would also take a guess that it would not qualify as a "business expense" instead it would be classed as a "benefit in kind" therefore you would end up paying income tax on the cost of the nanny or babysitter.

Yes, it would be a BIK.

Your DH sounds like a tit.

So I guess in summary, he's being a wanker. I thought so. I think it's more to do with his work situation not being so great, plus him being a wanker despite knowing exactly what my role entails. Appreciate the overwhelmingly negative feedback towards his point of view!

DH feels that work should offer to pay for a sitter and should not assume that he will look after the kids while I am out "enjoying myself".

What part of parenting is your husband struggling to grasp the concept of, if he thinks that is how it works?

Why would work pay for a sitter when there is a perfectly able parent in the house?

Why would a perfectly able parent assume that they wouldn't have to parent just because their OH is working outside of office hours?

Why is he classing it as "out enjoying yourself" instead of realising that you may be doing it over dinner in a restaurant instead of over a desk in an office, but you're still working, and still on the clock. Does he expect work to pay for a babysitter in normal 9-5 office hours? If not, why would this be any different?

Sorry to hear that his work situation isn't great. That's obviously where the attitude is coming from. He needs to work on that, rather than turning on you.

If it was common practice, I imagine there would be fewer parents being employed!

Yes wouldn't it be bloody great if we could all get our childcare expenses paid on top of our salaries? Everyone would have 4 kids :)

Ha, ha, ha!!!! Your DH is completely bonkers!!

So if he had to network in the evenings he'd expect his work to pay for a babysitter?!

I take it he doesn't do much for the kids the rest of the time then if bothering wit them 4 times a year is such an inconvenience!