Dd (10) is driving me mad. Everything she needs to do - from getting dressed, eating breakfast, lunch, tea, putting on shoes and coat, doing homework, to getting to bet I have to ask her repetitively. I start off asking patiently but she will normally not do whatever it is until I have got cross and shouted at her. We cannot carry on like this. I feel constantly wound up by her and feel like I have to tell her off all the time. Ds (12) is no saint but normally does things either straight away or after being told a couple of times which I can cope with. Makes me feel bad as it is normally dd being told off.