AIBU - daughter's messy room (with pics)

[mrsm43s]

So my daughter is 12, and her room is always messy. It drives me bonkers, and I'm constantly biting my tongue about it!

So, at 12 what is reasonable? I generally just shut the door to her room and walk on past, because the mess bothers me. Consequently the floor is rarely hoovered and the room rarely cleaned. She also loses/damages (her own) possessions as a result of the mess (e.g. losing one glove, facewash spilt on a book, accidentally sits on and snaps ruler etc). When this happens she either goes without, or replaces items with her own money.

She's not allowed food or drink in her room (apart from water bottle) because of the mess.

Her floor is generally clear in the middle, but mess and clutter round the edges of the room and on every surface, bed rarely made, and often has stuff (books, clothes etc) in it. She'll empty the bin or go and get washing when prompted and will strip and change the bed when asked. She'll shuffle round and tidy up a bit if pressed, but honestly not to what I would consider an acceptable standard.

Her room is a good size 13'x11' although the clutter makes it look small. Her brother is in the 6' x 6' box room by luck of birth order. His room is cluttered, but kept tidier than his sister's.

She's a great girl, polite, well behaved, achieving highly at school. She's busy with lots of extra curriculars and puts loads of effort into her school work. Do I let this slide? Is this level of mess acceptable for a 12 year old? I appreciate it could be far worse!

Ahahahahaha!

I daren't post a pic of my teen's room. You would all call SS if you actually saw it (or the health inspector) but I will try to write a mostly honest description.

There are at least two towels on the floor, along with various hoodies and her school uniform. She has a beautiful collection of mugs on her desk - some of these have very interesting things growing in them.

In front of her mirror you will find a small Boots make-up counter. There are never any staff, I suspect they quit due to unsanitary conditions.

Under the pile of books, posters, magazines, devices and various wires and headphones is a sofa. I can't remember what colout this is,

A pile of shoes and trainers decorate the space under the window. More shoes may also be found in amongst the towels and hoodies.

For those who dare venture in, a collection of sketch books, scrumpled up paper, pencils and paints can be found in the center of the room.

If you are brave enough to dig around her belongings, hundreds of teaspoons and forks can be found. These things appear to be of particular value to the teen. As soon as new ones are brought into the house, the teen begins methodically removing them from the kitchen and relocating them to her cave. They appear to match the collection of empty pot noodles and yoghurts she keeps in a carrier bag hanging on her empty drawers.

I wish my teen DD room was that tidy.

Well what I found worked was to only give my children (now all grown up! ) their pocket money if their rooms were tidy. They would get very fed up if their rooms were messy and the money wasn't forthcoming. But I'm inclined to agree with most others on here, that your daughter's room doesn't look that bad, and in other ways she sounds lovely!