To think there is something seriously wrong with me?

[IAmALoser]

I found out today that I've failed my probationary period at work and won't be kept on. I was told it was because although I was good at the job and worked hard I didn't fit in to the team and struggled with the social side of things. Not those exact words obviously but that was the gist of it.

I have been crying and upset all afternoon because I feel like such a fuck up as this is not the first time this has happened to me. I'm only 27 years old but this marks the 4th probation period I've failed in 7 years (I didn't even get my first job until I was 20!) and it is always the same every time - "you work hard but you don't really fit in here."

But I don't understand it! I feel like there's something wrong with me and that there's something wrong with my brain and it doesn't work properly because I have no idea what you have to do in order to fit in with people or make friends.

I've never had any friends ever. I still live at home and have never left home before because I struggle to hold a job down and always struggle to get a full time one. I have never had a relationship. People call me weird because I'm so socially inept and say and do weird things and obsess about people and things. I also get distracted a lot and need to fidget and move around a lot - so clapping my hands, fidgeting with my hair.

I am such a fuck up but I have no clue how to fit in or be normal. I feel like I will never change or get anywhere in life and that people still see me as an annoying immature kid

I think you have just been unlucky in the jobs you have had, some places are like that, some are full of bitchy people, people can be horrible if you don't fit into their boring click

Not remotely helpful. Or professional. Or probably accurate.

You might have ADHD. I have it and had a similar experience of feeling there was something wrong with me, a reason for my impulsive behaviour and never being able to finish things I'd started because of always getting distracted. Getting obsessive about things can be a thing called Hyperfocus. I had huge problems interacting with others and until I got diagnosed at age 30 thought I always would. There are quizzes online that assess for ADHD. Have a look and see if it fits 😊there is hope, take it from someone who went through it and has a much better life for finding out what was wrong!

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Hang in there. You are not a loser. I am sorry your job hasn't worked out, but please don't be down on yourself so much. I am sure you have lots of lovely qualities that are not being appreciated. It might be that that work environment didn't suit you, but there will be somewhere that will.

I know this as it happened to me when I was younger, hang in there xx

People who do have diagnosed personality disorders can still do any job they want.

FFS! ASD is NOT a PERSONALITY DISORDER! It is NOT a mental illness!

I have worked with a wide variety of people and everyone is different

However, I have found that some people are less tolerant of some people that are a little bit more different than the norm.This is sadly a fact of life

I think that you have not been "matched" with the right employer. I think with the right employer, you would be a great employee

If you have problems socially have you looked at jobs like; delivery driving, gardening, animal care ? Suggest widen your job search

Have you tried volunteering, this would be good to add onto your CV and would help to build up your confidence and help to improve your social interaction

You have alot to offer