So I am foolishly thinking about DC3. Someone stop me please. One thing that I feel is holding me back from trying for a hat trick (there are so many good reasons) is gender weirdness. Not how I feel, but how other people feel and their weirdness, I guess.
I have DS1 and 2, they are the best kids I can imagine. I love having boys, to the point that I think I might want to shoot the first (or 100th) person who did the 'oh poor you, three boys!' if I had another boy. I seriously know people who talk about women with 3 boys in hushed, horrified solemn tones, as if this is literally the most tragic thing to ever befall someone. Also as if the women themselves have been irresponsible, fecund and thoughtless in bringing a family of 3 brothers into being. I'm not exaggerating this one little bit. It's ridiculous.
On the same note I am not sure I would be able to handle having a DD for exactly the same reason. I could not bear to expose my two adorable DS to the crapola people would spout about 'oooh you must be so relieved!' 'A girl, thank goodness!' as if the kids I already have are not the biggest blessing there is. As if any kids regardless of gender are not basically the best gift in the world.
I'm sure there will be plenty of replies of 'don't let them bother you/why do you care what other people think/have the family you want', but frankly, they would piss me off. They did when DS2 was born ('oh poor you' - erm, no, lucky me, you dickhead).
I guess my AIBU is, in the context of there being a number of pros and cons to having a 3rd DC, AIBU to let other peoples gender weirdness count as a reason not to do it? Surely IABU. Just tell me how much.