To be envious of DH and our daughters?

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It’s just not fair. DH and our daughters look so much younger than they are. It comes from DH’s side of the family. Everyone from his side of the family look significantly younger than they are. DH is 52, but he actually looks like he’s 38. People find it absolutely incomprehensible when he tells them his real age. They demand to see his birth certificate or passport because they simply don’t believe it.

Our daughters (twins) are 33, but they look like they are 18-19. DH can’t even grow a beard – he’s from Kenya, and he says that all the males in his family can’t grow beards. DH has never shaved a day in his life. His chin is so soft and smooth. It comes from his mother, who is 76, but looks 20 years her junior. Apparently DH’s grandmother possessed the same youthful genes.

And it’s not just the youthful faces – DH and our daughters have an extremely efficient metabolism. They just don’t gain weight, no matter how much they eat. Our eldest daughter gave birth to an unbelievably beautiful baby boy last year, but she is still so slim. No baby weight whatsoever.

The ironic thing is that when DH was in his 20 and 30s, his youthful face made him look like a teenager and he hated it. He actually had some insecurity issues because of it. But now he’s older so he’s very content and smug about it. Same with our daughters – they always used to get annoyed about getting asked for ID when buying alcohol or going to watch an 18+ film at the cinema. But now that they are also older, they love looking significantly younger.

And then here I am at 55, and looking every bit my age in both the face and body :(

It’s just not fair.

Are there others here who are blessed to have the “not ageing gene?”

I could be worse. I looked significantly younger when I was young and it was a pain in the backside professionally.

now I have children with additional needs/disability i look significantly older. did not even get to benefit from it once I hit my late 30's

I'm 30 in a few months and often get mistaken for being in my late teens or early twenties but I don't think it's because I actually look young - I'm very short and have oily skin and spots, I think people just take in those details and think of me as young, if my skin was ok I would pass for about 25 probably.

I have aged better than my dh from a lines and wrinkles point of view - he is olive skinned and I am fair skinned, so olive skin doesn't always mean better ageing! He doesn't look after it though (never moisturises or wears sunscreen), whereas I do and have since a young age. Also his grey hairs show up more in his black hair than they do in my blonde hair! We are both fairly youthful though, I suppose - dh is 40 this year and no one can really believe it, probably because he is a big kid. I was still asked for ID and regularly told I looked too young to have 3dc until around a year ago - maybe it's catching up with me after all!

I'm 23 and I got ID'd in Claires getting my nose pierced not long ago. I suppose it is a kids shop...

I'm 31 next month and regularly get id'd in bars. Ironic considering my partner and myself were running our own pub last year! Had to always make sure I had ID on me to purchase stock. I started a business degree last year through a partner college, class full of 18/19 year olds no-one believed me till I showed ID.

I'm 31 and apparently look about 25... I still get asked for ID regaularly, including in the local supermarket where I've been shopping regularly for nearly 4 years!! When I was 18 I was constantly being refused drinks at pubs where my underage friends would get served because I looked so young. It feels like less of a curse these days though...

I am 22, and look about 12. I was asked by Jehovah's witnesses the other day if mummy or daddy was in. They were a bit scandalised when I said yes, I am.

I got id'd buying calpol. The angry teething baby was in the buggy with me at the time.

I was ID'd for kitchen knives when kitting out my flat. I'd forgotten my ID and had to eat with forks and spoons that day.

I'm 34 and often get mistaken for being younger than what I am and it does get annoying being asked for id often especially when you don't have a driving licence or passport so no id.
My sisters also look younger as well so in our case I do think it must be genetics especially as I am not one for looking after my skin as I don't really bother with beauty regimes.
My eldest sis is 42 and still gets id in shops now and again.

Irish skin is the worst. I look about 400. I am getting a blepharoplasty as soon as I can afford it, my eyesbags are horrendous

Spring - 'not looking after your skin' is probably one of the reasons its good!

People have always commented on my skin being good. I've got eczema so can't use most cosmetics. My beauty regime basically consists of using as little water to wash my face as possible, then using an eczema lotion to moisturise it (otherwise my skin just flakes off).

My family have the not ageing gene til you hit 42, then it all catches up with you at once
Worst of both worlds IMO. I used to have a pair of National Health specs in my bag because with them I could get on the bus half price up until I was 22.

Same as Rixera- I was asked by Jehovah's witnesses if my parents were in. I was 36.

When DH turned 40 a couple of years ago one of our (male) neighbours said to me 'oh, toyboy eh?' with a leery wink. OK he's only 18 months or so older than me, but still. I obviously look significantly older than I am! Fucker.

i used to look a lot younger than my age but since i had DS sleepless nights have taken their toll !

My family are from a small village in Tuscany and they age incredibly well - not so much in looks but in health. I know many members of the family and people in the village in their 90's.... my nan is 92 and her sister is 102 ! My dad and his twin are 69 but their blood tests , etc all point to people in their 40's.

They lead an outdoor lifestyle and eat only fresh food made from scratch. I visited this december and my nan was up on her feet cooking for 7 !

People are often shocked when i tell them I am 42 but I think that is more to do with attitude because I am not a very serious person and i have a silly sense of humour

I looked loads younger than I was until I was mid thirties - I even re-qualified at 29 and was on a post-grad course with loads of 21 year olds who couldn't believe I wasn't the same age as them! Then the shenanigans of the past 20 years and the sleep deprivation of my kids early years caught up with me all at once and I look haggard as fuck, I'm 44 but look older.

People used to be disbelieving when I told them my age 'no way, you look 10 years younger' etc, I always thought they were just being nice. Now people just nod (I imagine whilst privately thinking how unkind the years have been!). I would love some youthful glow back!

Had a guy round today to quote for some building work. Looked about my age (early thirties). Revealed he had a 21 yr old son - my face went very as I tried to work out how old that meant he HAD to be (37 if he had him at 16?) then revealed he'd been on the job 20 years. Ok I figured, started straight from school. No he's been supervising for 20 years. I nearly screamed at him WTF HOW OLD ARE YOU YOU SOCERER but restrained myself. Early 50s apparently. Early 50s!!! And he looked the same age as me..... white guy if that's relevant.

I'm still pissed about it now tbh. Don't come into my house and parade your youthful face when I'm knackered. Probably will go with him though.

Yes, without wishing to sound boastful, I know that I do look around ten years younger than I am. I am very fair skinned ( but have always had oily skin) and blonde. I am 51.

I recently had a rather horrible experience at work. A new senior manager was talking to a group of us and she mentioned a band (The Clash) who I said I loved. She said well you can barely be old enough to remember them, and I said I got London Calling for Christmas when I was 14. She looked at me icily and stalked off. A friend later told me she was asking why I was "taking the piss and trying to be funny, pretending I was much older than I obviously was."

I can't really do anything about it and hope someone will have told her that I really am that age. I just think she will hate me forever now though

I hope DD and DS will inherit my genes as XH definitely looks his age.

Goodness, OP, I am a 33 year old twin with a dad who is (nearly) 53! None of us look our age, but nor does my mum. When I was a child I remember the librarian asking her if she was old enough for an adult library card - she was 24. As teenagers we were often asked if the three of us were sisters. We once met a Californian woman who was astonished to discover that Mum was our mum, and she said she thought it was due to living in Scotland - no sun damage! Dad looks, if anything, younger than his 45 year old wife, and only started getting a little grey hair in the last year or so. Mum now has greys (dyes it) but still looks young. Dad has a lot of crows' feet, but I don't think people notice them very much. Mum hasn't many wrinkles.

DSis and I are frequently IDed in pubs/supermarkets buying drink, and we both find that being young-looking, small (5'2") and naturally softly-spoken means people underestimate us at work. This can be good or bad (I've blindsided a few people who weren't expecting it) but it does mean you get patronised a lot and overlooked. I recently moved job and it turned out after a few months that everyone thought I was about 23.

People used to be surprised I was as old as I was, usually putting me between 5 and 8 years younger. Then I had a baby and a mix of baby weight and sleepless nights must have aged me, as no one is surprised at my age now!

My Mum is 75 and looks about 57/58. I'm nearing 53 and was told by my nieces boyfriend at Christmas that he thought I was 38 after my age came up in conversation ~ he was like this . I have recently got a few lines, but no wrinkles, my jaw line is a little slacker than it was and I have to dye my hair. My late Dad looked much younger than his age until he was ill with cancer. Even then he looked at least 10 years younger than his 77 years. Mum is white, Dad was Indian. Two lots of great skin genes, so I am pleased about that.

I think this is one of those 'photo or it didn't happen' threads 💁

I'm 34 but get id'd for alcohol etc all the time. When I meet new people they always think I'm 22-23. My bf is 49 and also looks young luckily!!

I got my mum's lovely youth-genes. I was last asked to prove I was over 21, when I was 36. They wouldn't even accept my passport as proof. Catching up with me now though.

My sister is 43 but looks about 28...not fair!