Hi,
I'm 33, live alone in City A (flat with mortgage). I work full-time in a demanding job. I'm earn a good salary now but trying to pay off credit card debt (see separate thread!)
My brother's girlfriend (P) who lives in City B (150 miles away) signed up to do a Postgrad course in my city. Between Sep-Dec she was here 2 nights a week. She is back this week and will now be staying Tuesday night-Friday am every week for the next 10 weeks.
She had originally arranged to stay with a friend of her mum for some tiny level of digs money. But that only lasted a few days back in September (the friend said something nasty to her apparently and would stay up being noisy when P was trying to study/sleep.) So at the request of my brother and my parents I went to get her and let her stay with me instead. I hadn't quite anticipated that it would be for the rest of the academic year. Or that it would turn out to be for 3 nights a week from now on.
Now, P is a lovely girl, quiet, not messy, doesn't eat much. BUT I HATE living with someone else. I need my space when I get home from work and I don't like having to basically have guests every week - I've been shopping, cooking, cleaning for her. She helps, of course, but maybe other loners will understand.
Also my parents feel quite sorry for her as she comes from a very hardworking but poor family. They have told me to tell them how much she "costs" me and they will reimburse. So I told her not to worry about money. But now I sort of feel like an idiot.
I'm having a really hard time at work at the moment and struggling for money following Christmas. I'm also on a diet so maybe this is all making me more grumpy than usual but I feel like as soon as she's gone on Friday, I have the weekend then I have to get ready for her coming back again?!
And yes, I am lovely, friendly, helpful, hospitable when she is here. It just takes a lot of out me. I never even invite people for the weekend and I certainly never stay at other people's houses!