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To think this is fairly normal?

103 replies

hurrysummerhurry · 13/01/2017 21:17

My DD aged 6 plays with dolls a lot. She also watches you tube videos of other kids playing with dolls. Not excessively.. maybe 2 hours in a week.
Anyway some of these videos are stories of how the dolls are kidnapped by a baddie then rescued. Usually by a prince.

My DD has become obsessed with kidnapping, capturing, tying up dolls etc. It features in most of her play.

Others have commented that it is strange, and it makes them feel uncomfortable. I think it's fairly normal. What are your thoughts?

OP posts:
Cucucachoo · 13/01/2017 22:58

@fliss
OP isn't genuine. You have to see this trolling for what it is
Delete the imposter comments. Don't give them anymore fodder for articles

Sweets101 · 13/01/2017 22:59

At least in the video it was Frozen inspired and she was rescued by her sister as opposed to some random she's just met and now must marry.

DD (3) loves the Elsa & Spiderman ones. I do wonder why people do it but she enjoys it. They're her 2 favourite people.

Original poster
hurrysummerhurry · 13/01/2017 23:02

Fliss I am genuine.. I name
Changed for this post but I'm sure you have the ability to look at my previous posts / comments.

I just figured out what trip trapping / bridge dweller means... not familiar with these terms as I don't spend a lot of time online... working full time and looking after 2 kids whilst DH works 60 hour weeks doesn't leave me with a lot of spare time!!!

Cucu and earl you have annoyed me enough tonight.. will leave this post for now. Hopefully mnhq will accept my request to have this deleted!

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/01/2017 23:04

Oh ffs! You wanted to know if it was normal?! Of course it isn't if it's along the lines of the sodding video you posted! That's perverted adults playing with dolls and making inappropriate situations with them. I mean, come on! It's blindingly obvious it's not bloody right. It shouldn't take a bunch of random people on the internet to make you see that.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 13/01/2017 23:09

I don't think op is a troll.

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 23:13

The OP came here and was like:

Hey, I thought this was normal, but some people disagree. AIBU?

Yes! You unconcerned troll!

Why was the OP supposed to be concerned if she was still thinking this was most likely normal? Confused

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/01/2017 23:16

Surely someone with a hint of common sense should no that those kinds of videos and the subsequent behaviour are not right?

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 23:23

so, I felt like the video was weird but clicked through quickly. I was more concerned by the next video suggested, the one with the loads of blood.

However, most fairytales, like the ones I mentioned in a previous post are a bit gruesome. And children tend to enact. So, I certainly feel like the enactment isn't weird.

Sweets101 · 13/01/2017 23:28

I can't see it Paul
It's odd an adult would spend their time doing that, I wonder if they have a side line, but it's actually no different in content to a whole host of childhood stories.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/01/2017 23:31

But your comment on fairy tales is a bit irrelevant unless people are telling their children the original Grimms' versions? No one does at that age. This isn't the same tbh. The OP has allowed her daughter to watch adult themed videos, purely because they had dolls. That's not the same as a fairy tale really.

Sweets101 · 13/01/2017 23:35

It's no more adult themed than snow white, sleeping Beauty, rapunzel, Cinderella all of which pass on much worse messages then that little bit of, to a 6 yr old, imaginative play. It was just made by an adult. Like all Disney films are.

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 23:37

No one does at that age?

Why not? My parents did tell them to me at that age and younger. And to my siblings. DD is currently 5 months but I'm already telling her fairytales when bringing her to bed.

Especially the one of red riding hood killing the beast :)! (It's an old red riding hood version)

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 23:37

Brining her to bed means basically whenever she won't sleep but I want her to, tbh.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/01/2017 23:39

Sweets except the YouTube videos auto play the next video... The op wasn't even watching what her daughter was watching, the initial content was very questionable in my mind (I'm not buying into this being a modern way of fairy tales or that crap) but even if people thought it was fine it follows on to massively inappropriate videos. How many has the child actually watched without her mum cottoning on? So yes, I think a tiny bit of common sense makes it easy to see that an adult acting out kidnapping scenes with children's dolls and posting them to YouTube (with a description that obviously appeals to young children) is not appropriate viewing.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/01/2017 23:40

The original, more violent versions I meant Clary.

Thegiantofillinois · 13/01/2017 23:41

Well I feel like a shit parent now. Dcs are in the 4-7 range can't tie shoelaces, let alone tie toys up.

Sweets101 · 13/01/2017 23:42

The original? Because the Disney version of a beautiful, all giving, can sing to animals; maiden struck down by a jealous ugly old woman witch until such time as an anonymous man takes her for his own saves her, and all the time she is good and kind and serving to all that own her; films are so much more innocent? Quaint? Than that 5 min piece of crap on youtube? At least it doesn't have millions of pounds worth of advertising to hammer the concept home.

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 23:43

Yes, I know Anka.

The originals. Death, murder, jealousy, bloodshed, fire, decapitation, cannibalism, revenge etc...

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 23:44

Of course the originals. We loved those!

ilovesooty · 13/01/2017 23:44

I wonder what reason the OP will give for requesting deletion?

Sweets101 · 13/01/2017 23:45

Paul OP had already said it isn't one her DD was watching just one she added so people would know what she meant.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/01/2017 23:48

To be fair, at least the Disney versions are nicely animated and aimed at children. An adult filming tying up a children's toy in a video obviously not for children is a bit more crude really, no?

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 23:51

As if Disney movies aren't sometimes much more suggestive than this, and they're also made by adults.

It's a bit weird and I'd be cautious especially because there seem to be some videos like this that are gory (according to the other videos suggested on YouTube when I watched the one posted by the OP). But that's it.

And I still think that enactement is not weird.

Sweets101 · 13/01/2017 23:55

How is it obviously not for children? It isn't sexual if that's what you mean, not unless you looked really really hard, and are an adult. Same can be said for Disney. Little Mermaid song "darling it's better, down where it's wetter" look hard enough...
And no I don't think aiming themes such as subjugation of women by using pretty animation, expensive advertising and printing it on t shirts is any better tbh.

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 23:58

The hunchback of Notre Dame, Esmeralda's dance?

Much more sexualised and not child appropriate than the video the OP posted.

Also made by adults for children.