Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

Flip

1 2 3 4 5

Original poster

To think this is fairly normal?

103 replies

hurrysummerhurry · 13/01/2017 21:17

My DD aged 6 plays with dolls a lot. She also watches you tube videos of other kids playing with dolls. Not excessively.. maybe 2 hours in a week.
Anyway some of these videos are stories of how the dolls are kidnapped by a baddie then rescued. Usually by a prince.

My DD has become obsessed with kidnapping, capturing, tying up dolls etc. It features in most of her play.

Others have commented that it is strange, and it makes them feel uncomfortable. I think it's fairly normal. What are your thoughts?

OP posts:

UterusUterusGhali · 13/01/2017 21:51

The videos sound weird but I don't think play involving "mild peril" is unusual.

I hope not anyway. I once found poor Tree Fu Tom in this predicament.

Original poster

hurrysummerhurry · 13/01/2017 21:53

Lol poor tom! I hope he escaped ok!
Yes mild peril might better describe the play she engages in.

OP posts:

Bettyspants · 13/01/2017 21:55

My daughter is 7 and will quite happily tie toys up with her brother to be rescued . They watch 40 minutes of TV a day on average, CBeebies or pop. Although I agree the you tube videos Are not appropriate I don't see the need for the 'worrying play' comments unless this is all she does . Example my daughter dislikes dolls who are the subject of being sellotaped or having wool wrapped around and 'carted off to the dragons cave' but will then put her teddies to bed . Stop the in appropriate videos and see how her play changes.

BakeOffBiscuits · 13/01/2017 21:56

It's the tying up and gaging of themouth with is totally inappropriate for a 6 year old.

In fairy tales, characters are kidnapped but they are usually locked in a tower/room not bound and gagged.

chipsandchilli · 13/01/2017 21:57

3 girls and never seen anything like this or had dolls tied up like that, hair cut maybe, tbh i wouldn't allow my 7yr old to watch stuff like that online, to me it looks like some sort of adult video.

Cucucachoo · 13/01/2017 21:58

Reported this post for suspected trip trapping

atheistmantis · 13/01/2017 21:58

Those videos are so far beyond normal. If a child went and told her teacher that she was watching videos where dolls were tied up and had tape over their mouths there would most certainly be some investigation into what was going on - rightly so.
I really do hope that this is made up by a bridge dweller.

Cucucachoo · 13/01/2017 21:59

Sounds suspiciously like a gathering of information rather than a genuine poster

Bettyspants · 13/01/2017 22:00

Oops I've just seen the actual video and now completely see where the concern has come from ....

Foureyesarebetterthantwo · 13/01/2017 22:00

I used to borrow my brother's Action Man, sometimes they married, sometimes they did other things I certainly didn't get off a video, no idea if this is normal, I seem to have grown up fairly normal, I'm not sure what normal is in relation to playing with dolls, but do stop the videos if they are not for children.

Original poster

hurrysummerhurry · 13/01/2017 22:05

Cucuacho I am genuine! No idea what trip trapping is! Genuinely wanted some opinions on how to manage this and whether it was normal!!!!

OP posts:

LivininaBox · 13/01/2017 22:09

I followed the link and the next suggested video showed Elsa from frozen bound and gagged with blood spattered on the wall behind her.

Original poster

hurrysummerhurry · 13/01/2017 22:10

Like I said before this isn't one she watched I googled to give you an example.. let me find one she has actually watched

OP posts:

Earlgreywithmilk · 13/01/2017 22:12

My first suspicion was that this is a troll and I've not even experienced trolling on mumsnet really (except one that was shut down about an hour ago). Seriously don't think that picture of the doll tied up looks like the work of a six year old...is someone going to report? (I don't know what u do)

BestZebbie · 13/01/2017 22:14

A slightly dissenting voice - I'm sure that when we played kidnap and rescue based games in the school playground aged 5-8 we used to pretty much always use the "tied up on a railway line" type silent movie trope, which definitely involves being tied up (usually with a scarf) and often gagged (depending how many scarves you have between you :-) ). Sometimes two people tied sitting back to back (that takes three-four scarves though), so you can try to undo each other's 'ropes' behind your backs while you wait. Then the goodies come and fight off the baddies/break into the secret lair and untie you, and you all escape. Next break someone else gets captured.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/01/2017 22:15

Reported this post for suspected trip trapping

Cucuacho I am genuine! No idea what trip trapping is!

If you have no idea then why did you know to say you're genuine?

Anyway, completely inappropriate. I'm surprised you even have to ask.

Bettyspants · 13/01/2017 22:15

Earl grey no it's definitely not the tying up my daughter does on her dolls perhaps she's just very skilled ?!!

NeedsAsockamnesty · 13/01/2017 22:17

There are loads of these films on YouTube.

You really do have to keep an eye on it, one of mine was watching the veggie chainsaw massacre the other day on a kids you tube app with crazy parental settings.

Original poster

hurrysummerhurry · 13/01/2017 22:17

Paulanka the dog because cucumber said this...

Sounds suspiciously like a gathering of information rather than a genuine poster

OP posts:

CommunionHelp · 13/01/2017 22:18

This is following hot on the heels of the other 'is this normal' with dolls thread.

I see it's been flagged to MNHQ so we shall wait and see. I"m not sure you need to post more videos though, OP.

Original poster

hurrysummerhurry · 13/01/2017 22:20

Not cucumber.. auto correct. Cucuachoo

OP posts:

Cucucachoo · 13/01/2017 22:20

hurry: DD aged 6 plays with dolls a lot. She also watches you tube videos of other kids playing with dolls. Not excessively.. maybe 2 hours in a week.
Anyway some of these videos are stories of how the dolls are kidnapped by a baddie then rescued. Usually by a prince.
Here is an example:

Why are you not supervising youtube content? How is she getting access so quickly to these videos? At 6yrs old? How does she search it?

My DD has become obsessed with kidnapping, capturing, tying up dolls etc. It features in most of her play.

What have you discussed with her about this? Have you asked her why? Again, where is she finding these videos?

Others have commented that it is strange, and it makes them feel uncomfortable. I think it's fairly normal. What are your thoughts?
Why are you posting then if you think this is normal? ? Are you wanting a article reaction? Who are the "others"

SidAndNancy · 13/01/2017 22:21

Mumsnet does make me laugh..this is so wrong yet a couple of weeks ago a dad playing rob the shop with their kid was perfectly normal

Yes I thought that it was extremely odd but apparently it was hilarious that it ended with the dd smacking her father over the head with her iPad.

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 22:22

I don't think she's weird for doing that. Especially not if these are the videos she watches.

when my neighbour and I played when we were little (she was a year younger than me) I was usually the one that ended up tied up somewhere as some kind of fairy princess abducted and in danger. Amd sometimes in danger of being cannibalised...

Not sure who came up with this idea, btw.

Maybe from fairytales where princesses get rescued from dragons etc?

ClaryIsTheBest · 13/01/2017 22:23

I mean who of us came up with this

It seems fairly obvious where your daughter gets it from.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5