Hi guys, fully prepared to be flamed here.
Been with DP for 5 years, I have 2 teenagers from my previous marriage.
He has 2 younger dc, sees them weekly and financially supports them. We're mostly happy, both work full time. Both have stressful jobs. Barely have sex, it's been months.
Really concerned about the amount dp drinks, even though in all fairness it doesn't seem to have too much impact.
He drinks approx 8 cans of strong lager every night, sometimes more.....
I go to bed at 10ish and he often falls asleep on sofa and comes to bed at 5/6am depending on whether he's at work the next day. If he's at work at 7am then he'll still drink the same amount but come to bed earlier, gets up and drives which worries me massively as I know he'll be over the limit. He barely goes out, when he does its football related and he can be out all day drinking, from morning to late at night. But this is rare. He works nights, comes in at 7am and drinks before going to bed.
If we have a day off together at the weekend, he'll suggest going somewhere with dc but it'll be pub related under the disguise of a family meal.
I don't really drink, my dm is an alcoholic as was my dgm, so I made a very conscious decision to not drink.
I worry about his health, hate that we barely do anything as a couple or a family. He must spend loads, I work my arse off and have to do overtime every month so we can have nice things. He pays the rent and pays towards the bills, the rest of his cash gets pissed up the wall.
Have tried talking to him, he denies there's an issue, he takes the dogs for a walk and puts a couple of cans in his coat pocket so he can drink whilst he walks the dogs.
Not sure I want to go on like this! I do love him but I don't want to live with a drinker, put up with this for years as a kid.....