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To not really find this very funny? (Facebook related)

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SuperTrumper · 11/01/2017 17:58

Have name changed for this.

I have an acquaintance, a guy on FB, who today was tagged in a few photos uploaded by his partner.

The photos were of their DD's dolls all in sexual positions scattered around her doll house. Doggy style, reverse cowgirl (god knows how I know that), a guy doll receiving oral sex and a "helping hand", and a girl doll receiving oral sex from a soft toy dog. All of the female dolls were naked in said positions.

The dad had apparently done it when tidying up his DDs toys and judging from the Facebook post his partner found it hilarious, as did a lot of her friends who commented on the photos.

She wrote that her DD hadn't asked her what the dolls were doing but "laughed and pointed them out" to her mum. The DD is about 5 or 6.

I don't really find it funny at all and it would horrify me if my DD woke up and saw her dolls in that way, I know their minds are innocent but at that age they (should) know where their private parts are and hence where a doll's private parts are, and I would imagine seeing one of their dolls stark naked legs apart with a dog in between them would be a bit confusing??

Or am I just being a prude and overreacting ?

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ColdTeaAgain · 12/01/2017 01:11

Creepy and showing a lack of boundaries. I think I'd be worried for her having parents who think that's funny.

I dunno, it somehow seems like a sort of violation. Her dolls are her things, not for her father to use as props just to get Facebook likes. He must be an absolute dickhead.

MontePulciana · 12/01/2017 07:48

The more I think about this the more I think it should be brought to light. It's just not fair on the poor little girl. Please say something OP. There could be other stuff going on and this is his way of making him feel better.

PromisesPromises · 12/01/2017 08:51

Glad to hear it would be taken further if the dc did it at school. Can't be too careful.

I do have a very dark, immature sense of humour but grim showing things like that to children. We are meant to protect them from sexualised behaviour.

Jackiebrambles · 12/01/2017 08:57

I'm another that is getting more upset about this! What a horrible man.

I'd definitely unfriend.

Araminta99 · 12/01/2017 08:57

Pathetic!

Amandahugandkisses · 12/01/2017 09:02

Really awful.
They are her toys and he's leaving them for her to find them in explicit sexual positions? Posting on FB?
It's like some kind of grooming.

MargaretCavendish · 12/01/2017 09:05

Is he 14?! If not, I feel a bit sorry for his partner. Grown men who are this sniggery about sex are not likely to be good at it...

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 12/01/2017 09:52

Children learn from visual stimulation. Totally inappropriate.

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SuperTrumper · 12/01/2017 10:26

I've reported it on Facebook; at least that way if it's removed by Facebook then it might help them realise that it's not at all appropriate

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WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 12/01/2017 10:49

It won't be unfortunately. Fb don't give a fuck.

MontePulciana · 12/01/2017 10:54

They may be notified that a report has come through though. If this thread made the Daily Fail it might give the man a kick up the arse to stop being a disgusting person. It's just utter filth.

Zarachristmas · 12/01/2017 10:57

I don't think it's funny.

It's really childish humour and also slightly inappropriate for the child to see it.

KayTee87 · 12/01/2017 11:07

Not ok that the daughter saw them so yanbu

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SuperTrumper · 12/01/2017 11:09

WheretheFuck - generally I would agree that facebook's response to reported material is a bit hit and miss, however I think they are strict on pornographic type stuff

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SomewhatIdiosyncratic · 12/01/2017 11:20

Adult humour for an adult audience, not a problem. That's down to personal humour level.

Exposing the child to it is a problem. It would be identified as a safeguarding concern if the child went on to replicate it.

Children do have natural filters "look that cow's trying to have a piggy back", but that shouldn't be exploited for cheap laughs (or likes).

Gottagetmoving · 12/01/2017 11:28

It is immature and pathetic. Something an adolescent boy made find hilarious. To be honest, it's a bit sick.

Blueskyrain · 12/01/2017 12:04

I'm in the minority here, but I found it funny. They shouldn't be deliberately left for the kids to see though, once they get to a particular age.

I might have been guilty of rearranging a few cuddly toys in shops, friends houses etc myself in the past. Rearranging spice pots to say rude words, using display computers to write mischeif (not porn I might add). Its immature mischeif yes, but I personally find it funny.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 12/01/2017 12:13

Unfortunately I've seen first hand some of the fucked up shit that Facebook ignites. Oh, they're fast to remove a breastfeeding nipple, but beheadings, animal cruelty, and sexual fetishisation- not so much.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 12/01/2017 12:14

*ignores, sorry

Clandestino · 12/01/2017 12:18

Children have some very strong powers of observation. At the end, this is how they learn about things around them.
I'd like to be in the room when the child starts rearranging the dollies during a playdate or in the creche and says, Daddy does the same with mine and him and Mum think it's so funny.

Gottagetmoving · 12/01/2017 12:28

A father doing that for his daughter to find is really nasty. Creepy bastard

Absolutely.
It is also fucking weird to think it is funny to post on facebook. They are a kid's toys FFS!

bummymummy77 · 12/01/2017 12:40

Just asked dh about it and firstly he said "bullshit I don't believe anyone did that" and when I said - 'but what if they actually did' he said "that's sick. I'd be looking at seeing a shrink if I were them. Why would a dad do that?"

Ohyesiam · 12/01/2017 12:45

All fine till I saw that the child saw them.

It reminds me of when I had kids and we watched captain pugwash and I realised two of the key characters were called MasterBates and Seamen Stains. It's creepy, and unboundried , and like many things that have come to light since the 70s, it's saying " I can do anything I want here , because I'm protected by the child's innocence ".
Of course the dd in this is not don't any direct harm, but it's an odd and i think unhealty attitude.

Jaysis · 12/01/2017 12:57

Funny up until they involved the child in the 'joke'

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SuperTrumper · 12/01/2017 13:02

Bummymummy - I completely understand why your DH would question it as it's not a normal thing to do! Here is a screenshot of some of the pictures (there's more)

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