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Unacceptable behaviour of other parents AIBU

71 replies

Happylotti · 09/01/2017 09:22

I dont usually post on here but i need to get this off my chest!!!!!

My children go to a rather small private school and today i witnessed something that has made me so angry! And i dont care if i get outed with this one!!!!!!!

There are a few drive ways around school which most people avoid......every now and again people dont. I came out to my car and this lady was outside taking pictures of the car parked across her driveway.....she asked both my friend and i if we knew whos car it was. I know the lady by face but never really spoken to her, my friend drove off and as the parent from school came out i said to the lady, 'i think this is her i'll leave you to it' and went to turn my car around. What i witnessed was awful, the lady (who was elderly) tried to talk to her and she got in her car, drove off and almost hit another car.

Aibu to think this is awful behaviour? I told the lady whos driveway it was to contact the head and if she wants i will tell them what i have witnessed and if she wants me to, to grab me one morning!!!!

Have you ever had anything similar?

OP posts:
Letseatgrandma · 09/01/2017 09:24

My children go to a rather small private school

Im not really sure what that has got to do with anything?!

Yes, her behaviour was rude. Some people at state schools are rude, too.

Imchangingmyname · 09/01/2017 09:26

Yes, entitled rude cow. You did the right thing.

BIgBagofJelly · 09/01/2017 09:28

YANBU. I would personally inform the head teacher regardless of whether the woman chooses to. What a horrible lady (the driver obviously not the elderly lady whose driveway was blocked)

RhodaBull · 09/01/2017 09:28

I live next door to a small private school (is it the same one?!) and occasionally people park across my drive. If I catch them I normally just go out and glare. Occasionally I've told someone off. A while ago a man did just as your woman did above; he just got in his car, looked straight ahead and roared off. There will be arses like this everywhere. All the school can do is plead with parents to be considerate and not park over drives.

BertrandRussell · 09/01/2017 09:30

Yep. You just don't expect that sort of behaviour from private school parents, do you? Grin

Imchangingmyname · 09/01/2017 09:30

Im not really sure what that has got to do with anything?!

Why do people pick up on stuff like this? So MN.
OP is simply giving a bit of background to set the story up.

HalfaFishFingerAndTwoPeas · 09/01/2017 09:34

Changing because it's obviously a stealth boastGrin You wouldn't start off a post with ' my children go to a school that is painted red' it's completely irrelevant to the story.

Letseatgrandma · 09/01/2017 09:35

OP is simply giving a bit of background to set the story up.

Yeah right.

BertrandRussell · 09/01/2017 09:37

I don'5 think it's a stealth boast. I think it's suggesting that this is the sort of behaviour she would expect fro state school parents, but private school parents should know better.

A commonly held belief. Along with the belief that that here is no bullying in private schools, and state schools are entirely populated by knuckle dragging chair throwers.

user1478860582 · 09/01/2017 09:41

Why shouldn't she boast? I wish my kids went to private school. I think some of you are guilty of inverted snobbery.

Anyway, back to the point. I think I would report it as friendly neighbour/school relationships is handy for all.

DireTires · 09/01/2017 09:44

I think it's the opposite- most people think that private school mums are an entitled group of people.

Man10 · 09/01/2017 09:45

Im not really sure what that has got to do with anything?!

Yes, it's completely obvious that the privateness of the school is utterly irrelevant to OPs post. So why are you bothering to make an issue out of it?

The smallness of the school was equally irrelevant, why didn't you make a snippy comment that "people in big schools are rude too"?

user1478860582 · 09/01/2017 09:45

Diretires , explain what you mean by entitled? In what sense?

DireTires · 09/01/2017 09:46

I see both private and state parents acting like entitled twits with parking.

user1478860582 · 09/01/2017 09:47

Agree they do, but you specifically mentioned private school mums.

DireTires · 09/01/2017 09:47

user just making the opposite argument to Bertrand! I don't think entitlement is the exclusive purview of any class of people.

gamerchick · 09/01/2017 09:48

Can you speak to the head yourself?

Our school got the traffic wardens in at school drop off and pick up. It was the most entertaining thing I'd seen in ages. Sorted it out though.

user1478860582 · 09/01/2017 09:51

It's ok Diretires I'm just playing devils advocate this morning!!! Sorry!

Although, I do think the sniping at private school parents strange. They pay the same tax as everyone else but don't use all the facilities those taxes pay for, thereby freeing up resources for others.

Man10 · 09/01/2017 09:51

Perhaps the OP will clarify that I'm wrong, and that she meant us to infer something from "private."

Even having re-read the post, I see no difference between "small" and "private", to me they are just unnecessary (but perfectly reasonable) adjectives of equal weight.

Maybe this is some sort of test. How you interpret her choice of words says more about you than about the OP.

Namechangearoo · 09/01/2017 09:51

"Multiple exclamation marks are a sure sign of a diseased mind." - Terry Pratchett.

Anyhow, back to the point: you know full well you're not being unreasonable - of course her behaviour was unacceptable. No one is going to tell you otherwise. Not sure what the point of your post was, other than a rant/ not so stealth post about your child's education?

Namechangearoo · 09/01/2017 09:53

Unless you were looking for advice, maybe? Obviously just bring it up with the school.

NathanBarleyrocks · 09/01/2017 09:56

There are a few drive ways around school which most people avoid Erm, surely drivers should avoid ALL driveways, not just the ones that are owned by people that kick off at the idiots breaking the law by parking across their driveways.

nannybeach · 09/01/2017 09:57

Have had this problem, with people parking across my drive ,garage. technically, you arent allowed to park over a "dropped" curb. I had someone park across my garage, couldnt get my car out to go to work no other way to get there, well taxi 15 miles, couldnt afford that, rang Police, who said "tough its a public piece of road nothing we can do". Agrre though woman who parked over drive was just plain ill mannered, but you see it so much on the school run.

Daisyfrumps · 09/01/2017 09:57

Driver sounds like arrogant cow-bag. Either that or (thinking the very best of her) she's completely socially awkward and was too embarrassed to engage and apologise. More likely to be the first, though.

BIgBagofJelly · 09/01/2017 09:58

It makes a difference that the school is small because it's easier to identify and run into the culprit and it's different in a private school because it affects how the school might deal with bad behaviour as the parents are customers. I see no reason to think it's a stealth boast or snobbery. People are being ridiculous.