Unacceptable behaviour of other parents AIBU

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I dont usually post on here but i need to get this off my chest!!!!!

My children go to a rather small private school and today i witnessed something that has made me so angry! And i dont care if i get outed with this one!!!!!!!

There are a few drive ways around school which most people avoid......every now and again people dont. I came out to my car and this lady was outside taking pictures of the car parked across her driveway.....she asked both my friend and i if we knew whos car it was. I know the lady by face but never really spoken to her, my friend drove off and as the parent from school came out i said to the lady, 'i think this is her i'll leave you to it' and went to turn my car around. What i witnessed was awful, the lady (who was elderly) tried to talk to her and she got in her car, drove off and almost hit another car.

Aibu to think this is awful behaviour? I told the lady whos driveway it was to contact the head and if she wants i will tell them what i have witnessed and if she wants me to, to grab me one morning!!!!

Have you ever had anything similar?

And removed places from repeat offenders?

Our two local small private schools folded last year. I can't imagine heads can afford to remove places lightly.

Our two local small private schools folded last year. I can't imagine heads can afford to remove places lightly

Suspect its different in different areas? Ours has a waiting list for all classes well into double figures, but then it is very much on its own in the area, the next nearest are a good drive away.

I'd report the other parent to the head myself tbh.

I would go and speak to the Head anyway. The very least he/she should do is remind all parents via newsletter/email that blocking neighbours driveways is awful behaviour and very rude.

The private school nearest me has been forced to employ parking wardens in high vis jackets to keep the streets moving and protect their reputation.
No way would a state school have resources to do that.
The school being private is very relevant!

How about just emailing the law-breaker's car registration number to the police?

Surely a state school could put something in the newsletter / on the website "naming and shaming"? Or would that cause grief/breach some rule?

(Not saying that a private school couldn't do that, just thinking of cost effective options.)

I live in a road with a state primary on it. The parents do stuff like this all the time. They are rude and entitled. I don't report them because I can't be arsed. I just give them the derxa glare. I sent my children to private school if that's helpful.

Up to earlier last year i drove a really old banger volvo estate, paid about £200 for it and full of building material and or rubble in the back.
I have had this happen once. No one dared do it again. I stood in the middle of the road and shouted if the car wasn't removed immediately I would back out of my driveway and ram it out of the way. Next time there would be no warning. Car was removed within 30 seconds.

But I look like an ugly, scary, hard faced old cow and look like I man what I say

Our two local small private schools folded last year. I can't imagine heads can afford to remove places lightly. The fact that it's private still makes a difference - they might be under pressure not to tell off parents who could take their "business" elsewhere.

There was a school in the paper where a policeman had to come in and interrupt a nativity play because of bad parking near a GP surgery. www.telegraph.co.uk/topics/christmas/christmas-news/9738870/PC-halts-nativity-play-to-order-parents-to-move-their-cars.html

It could well be the school my DDs attend. There are often thoughtless parents parking on corners, zig-zags and across drive-ways.

I think you should have stayed out of this OP and I cannot believe you are so angry about a situation that has absolutely ZERO to do with you other than you witnessed it and got yourself involved - stay out of things that don't involve you

The woman in he car drove off, yes she knew she was in the wrong + was arrogant, however would you stay to listen to someone you felt was going to give you an ear bashing?

You do not say that the elderly lady was trying to get out of her own driveway at that point, so it sounds like she is trying to stop people parking across her driveway for the principle of it. Fair enough, but dropping a kid off at school takes minutes - really not worth getting upset about and whipping out a camera as it isn't actually illegal for a motorist to park in front of a private driveway, despite what you think the Highway Code is saying

I love the setting up of the story, it's like Catherine Cookson! Is anybody going to gut a fish?

Respectfully, DownWithThatSortofThing,I strongly disagree with you. People like the OP getting involved in something on someone else's behalf for what is really a more general good, is something we need more of. I read a newspaper article recently in (I think) the Guardian about how neolib politics has made society society a lot poorer and much more selfish, and not just in the economic sense. It chimed very loudly with me.

Edit: Ignore the second 'society', bad editing. Sorry.

YANBU. Parents at a private school will be deemed "entitled pricks" whereas at a state school they'd be called "selfish inbred slobs" or similar.

Either way, it is unacceptable to block a driveway, unacceptable to just zoom off and ignore the reasonable complaint, and I'd recommend that the woman whose driveway it is gets herself a video camera and presents the school with the evidence.

Wow DownWithThatSort0fThing are you the driver? Why should us reasonable members of society not stick up for each other in public when someone else is behaving badly. If arseholes were challenged more often they may stop acting like dick heads.

If I had blocked someone's drive (or done some other dickish thing) and came back to see them visibly annoyed I'd apologise and assure them it wouldn't happen again. It makes total sense for the lady to not want her driveway blocked for an hour or two a day when school pick up is going on. Why should she not be able to come and go as she wants because someone is too lazy to walk their child a little further to school.

My 😬 story from school is that one mum drove into another car on the school drive. Then the mum when challenged said oh well there's nothing you can do - this is private property so it's at your own risk. Apparently is true! Happily the school in this situation just added the cost of the other cars repairs to the next invoice and refunded the repair cost to the wronged car owner.