Unacceptable behaviour of other parents AIBU

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I dont usually post on here but i need to get this off my chest!!!!!

My children go to a rather small private school and today i witnessed something that has made me so angry! And i dont care if i get outed with this one!!!!!!!

There are a few drive ways around school which most people avoid......every now and again people dont. I came out to my car and this lady was outside taking pictures of the car parked across her driveway.....she asked both my friend and i if we knew whos car it was. I know the lady by face but never really spoken to her, my friend drove off and as the parent from school came out i said to the lady, 'i think this is her i'll leave you to it' and went to turn my car around. What i witnessed was awful, the lady (who was elderly) tried to talk to her and she got in her car, drove off and almost hit another car.

Aibu to think this is awful behaviour? I told the lady whos driveway it was to contact the head and if she wants i will tell them what i have witnessed and if she wants me to, to grab me one morning!!!!

Have you ever had anything similar?

I'd go to the head. Actually, if that was my driveway and people were doing it daily I'd be investing in those difficult to remove "Illegally parked" stickers and/or lots of flour and water.

I think you're allowed to shunt cars out of the way if they are parked illegally? I would if some prick parked across my driveway. I assume this is OK?

It's symptomatic of the general selfishness in society and on our roads in particular. The driver could have parked further away and walked but evidently feels that her desire to park close to the school is more important than the local residents' right to have access to and from their own driveways.

If you can be arsed OP, I would report it to the school. This sort of behaviour can damage their relationship with the local community generally and, specifically, could lead to a push for residents-only parking if it becomes a common problem.

I definitely think the head should be informed. the private school that my dd goes to takes its reputation in the community very seriously & haven't hesitated to expel children whose parents repeatedly cause parking offences.

If parking by inconsiderate parents is becoming a problem the householder would be better advised to call the council and request traffic wardens go and ticket the cars.
Which is exactly what happened last year at a school near us.
The Head had sent letters to the parents but it didn't really work, soon after that householders were spotted taking photos of parked cars, a week later the Traffic wardens were out.
No one confronted anyone. I wouldn't confront a parent who thinks the laws are for anyone but themselves. State or Private.

Just a thought, perhaps OP said private, small school because she's hoping people realise which school she's referring to? She did say she didn't mind being outed!

Surely no one who has been on MN for any length of time would mention private school as a BOAST! They must know the spiteful/envious (choose your adjective) would come out spitting.
Those who chose and prefer state schools, and are happy in their choice, usually don't feel the need to attack

Inform the Head/Bursar. Relationships with the local community are important. Maybe a polite reminder to all parents is needed. Happens at out school too (also a rather small private school ) and I suspect happens at a lot of large not so private schools. People gradually slide into bad habits and a periodic reminder gets them in line again!

Unbelievable that the vultures are pouncing on one sentence and are harping on about it, despite having deemed it irrelevant. Utterly ridiculous.

There are rude parents and twattish parkers everywhere.

It was rude. But I would not have pointed the parent out.

It makes a difference that the school is small because it's easier to identify and run into the culprit and it's different in a private school because it affects how the school might deal with bad behaviour as the parents are customers. I see no reason to think it's a stealth boast or snobbery. People are being ridiculous

Absolutely this. At my daughter's small, private school the head/deputy and senior members of staff regularly go out and patrol the parking around the school.

Repeat offenders are told to manage behaviour or they're invited to remove their child. So yes - the type of school is very relevant.

That said we have an unreasonable neighbour who moans (see also comes out and shouts and swears) if people park outside his house on the none drive side (houses are in the middle of two parallel roads, drives are on the lower) because he doesn't like looking at cars when he washes up.

The second comment made me laugh. Why did you only notice the bit about it being private? Haha!! Bell end comment. I agree very MN. You wouldn't get that in RL. Plain weird. The parent was a dick, shop her in.

Soupdragon, that struck me too. Going on about something irrelevant which is also irrelevant. Hey ho hyprocrites!

OP, I think you should tell the school. The lady probably needs some support on this as it will be her word against the other woman's and the other woman should get a bit of a rap on the knuckles.

I live on a road where the majority of traffic is private school (it is SO QUIET) when they are on holiday and these drivers are extremely rude and entitled. My child getting to school is more important than anyone else and even if it is clearly not my right of way it is ALWAYS MY RIGHT OF WAY. It drives me crazy. So maybe I am anti private school drivers as a result - firsthand experience.

Awful behaviour from the mother.

We had a parent like this who actually parked in the middle of a flowerbed that residents had spent time, money and effort planting up. It wasn't a council maintained flower bed, but one outside a row of bungalows for people with disabilities.

There are some really inconsiderate folk about.

I think the head should know.

Why is everybody jumping at OP for mentioning the type of school? She's setting the scene, I would have thought. A headmaster in a smallish private shall might have more time for matters like this one than the headmaster of a huge school.

Private schools aren't afraid to expel. That's the difference and I assume that's why OP mentioned it.

Why is everybody jumping at OP for mentioning the type of school

It is ok. We like to play poster bingo. If certain posters don't post on threads where the words "private" and "school" are mentioned in the same phrase, the game is over

"Absolutely this. At my daughter's small, private school the head/deputy and senior members of staff regularly go out and patrol the parking around the school."

They did that at our large state school too.........

OP- of course you should report her to the Head. I presume you know her name- go for it.

So, a fellow parent is a self entitled twat....

And this is news how?

Maybe OP has led a very sheltered life?

For persistent offenders, has anyone thought about starting a blog about it, listing their car reg numbers? For really unpleasant offenders who are offensive as well as awkward squad, an 'Asshole of the month' mention could be awarded. I'm thinking about doing this for the not-so-occasional shitty treatment I get on the train home late at night after a trip to London for a concert. Usually it's drunks getting off at Reading, but I'm visibly disabled, I walk with a stick, and some people are so disagreeble because e.g. I need my reserved seat that I photograph them, I have a Wordpress blog, but never published anything... yet.

They did that at our large state school too.........

And removed places from repeat offenders?