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Sleepover DISASTER wwyd

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sunnyshowers · 07/01/2017 04:03

It's my dd birthday sleepover and they're still awake shouting and screaming and laughing....discussing fun the next day..that's ok ish.
My big quandary is that at midnight my 3 kids started vomiting and vomiting and vomiting. The younger ones hadn't mixed but when dd felt funny I removed her immediatly. ..and then she started a half hr later and they're upstairs while the party s downstairs.
Now what do I do??? I m so tired I can't fathom it. At midnight I should have called but didn't have the measure of the sickness. They ate the same thing today so it's a bug or poisoning...pretty sick cramps. ..screaming when pain comes etc.

I'm awful but I m finding myself angry that the girls are running riot downstairs (not all to be fair) I ve gone in several times but I just went in and got "when's breakfast...what are we having again?" Which I get as I'd planned a great one...
But to be honest I need to get them home asap in the morning before I burst into tears.
So at 8 I text parents-phone and say kids sick all night...take your dc asap in case it's a bug or what?
The riot would be fine if dc weren't so sick and the sick would be fine if I didn't gave 8 other 10yr olds ....just together it's a mess

Poor dd was so looking forward to this special party and she's a crabby mum who's prob made her unpopular in one night....

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RebootYourEngine · 07/01/2017 07:57

I would be phoning the parents now. I would also be telling them what little 'darlings' they have been.

ohfourfoxache · 07/01/2017 08:19

Hope your house is being emptied of annoying "guests" by now op

saoirse31 · 07/01/2017 08:23

Surely the whole pt of a sleepover is to stay awake all night, talking, laughing etc... I feel for u with sick kids but think yabu re a party sleepover

OnceMoreIntoTheBleach · 07/01/2017 08:23

Poor you OP. Hope yours are better very soon and you get some rest today.

I'm reading with interest as my DD wants a sleepover for her birthday in a few months and I'm a single parent. Heartened to read that PPs are saying they would insisting on quiet before midnight!

Eevee77 · 07/01/2017 08:25

God OP what a nightmare. Hope you've managed to contact all their parents by now

Eevee77 · 07/01/2017 08:26

Saoirse still being awake and noisy at 4 am when other kids are trying to sleep and some of them are ill? No, not cool.

DollyPlastic · 07/01/2017 08:27

They are going to be wrecked today.

Send them home immediately.

1horatio · 07/01/2017 08:33

How awful...

Still awake and loud whilst the others want to sleep? How rude and bratty.

I hope you send them home immediately. Or call the parents...?

I hope it gets well and you won't get an argument etc. And that your kids will feel better really soon.

KayTee87 · 07/01/2017 08:34

Hope the little angels are on their way home and your kids are a bit better op.

Aeroflotgirl · 07/01/2017 08:37

Oh no op, big hugs , hope everyone gets better soon.

humblesims · 07/01/2017 08:37

What a night you poor thing! i would have phoned in the middle of the night when your dd got sick. When my kids went for sleepovers I always kept my mobile near in case of emergencies and I think what you went through last night would count. I would not have minded being woken and asked to collect. If any of parents had minded then I think that's pretty poor on their part. Hope your kids are a bit better today and the others are all gone now.

LucyFuckingPevensie · 07/01/2017 08:37

Oh no, hope your do are feeling better soon.

Finola1step · 07/01/2017 08:38

Hope they've gone home and your own dc are feeling better.

My ds is nearly 9 and has been in a few sleepovers. If he behaved like your tricky guests, I would be mortified.

I assume the sleepover guests knew that other children in the house were unwell. I would be upset as a parent if, even at that young age, my dc didn't have a bit of empathy for others who are unwell and knock their own nonsense on the head.

I do think you should mention it to their parents. Not all of them but the worst offenders.

Pinkpeanut27 · 07/01/2017 08:38

Hope it's all sorted now.
I was called at 7am to collect my dad as her friend had been sick all night , tbh I'd have rather gone at midnight . The girls weren't playing up and we're looking after there friend who was sharing a bed with them in between throwing up !

diddl · 07/01/2017 08:48

I wouldn't be saying anything about behaviour.

I'd accept a call at any time to fetch my kid from a house of vomiting tbh.

I definitely wouldn't want them kept & served breakfast-just in case!

Hope yours are all better soon.

VladmirsPoutine · 07/01/2017 08:49

Hope they've all gone by now and you can have a rest later. They are all going to be ruined today!

ScarlettDarling · 07/01/2017 09:06

Hope your dc have stopped being sick op ?

MiniCooperLover · 07/01/2017 09:09

diddl, why wouldn't you say anything about behaviour? I'm just curious.

lottieandmia · 07/01/2017 09:16

Oh no - that certainly does sound like a nightmare. I'm afraid the other children probably will catch the bug - it sounds very infectious.

On the point of birthday sleepovers - how many were there? One of my dd's friends mum's has five children and does not allow sleepovers until 10 years old from bitter experience I think! My own dd went to a birthday sleepover when she was 8 and nobody got any sleep at all until 4am. She came home miserable and crying!. I think there were about 8 other girls. But she went to a similar thing at 11 and by then the girls were better at going to sleep at a more reasonable time!

MuseumOfCurry · 07/01/2017 09:17

Poor you. Parents who have children at sleepovers should have their mobiles on their bedside tables for this very reason.

TheTrollinator · 07/01/2017 09:21

What an awful situation. I hope the parents can collect them soon.

Cagliostro · 07/01/2017 09:21

Oh no :( have they gone now?

Foureyesarebetterthantwo · 07/01/2017 09:21

I wouldn't say anything about behaviour as the whole set-up is designed to be fun, but not an environment in which kids can sleep or behave normally. Eight (or even ten?) 10 year olds is just far too many, they can't all have beds, they will be squashed in somewhere, or scattered around the house and a general madness descends which is really not typical of children's normal behaviour. I think the OP has tried to do a lovely thing, have a big fun sleepover, but I could have predicted that with that many girls, there would be no sleep whatsoever.

I have also had the 8am text from such a sleepover, but from my own child, saying 'mum please come and get me, I haven't slept and it's too much'. I've then gone to get them.

I'm not blaming the OP, just I think heaping blame on the girls, when really they've been set up to fail is not the right thing to do, it's not an environment conducive to sleep and now there's vomiting in the house, the best thing to do is to get everyone home and sleeping in their own beds as quickly as possible.

cheekyfunkymonkey · 07/01/2017 09:22

You need to take control and tell them to go to sleep. I would be really pissed off if my dd went for a sleepover and the adult in charge let her stay up until 4 am , I know sleepovers are supposed to be fun but that doesn't mean let them do whatever the hell they want. Sorry. You are having a nightmare, and the sickness must be horrible but you made this bed.

Finola1step · 07/01/2017 09:24

To clarify...general messing about on sleepovers (and playdates) I wouldn't report as that is par for the course. Behaviour that goes beyond that and in to challenging and rudeness, I would mention to parents.

As a rule of thumb, I would only comment to parents if the behaviour is such that if it was my dc, I would want to know.

My home is relaxed and my dc's friends are always welcome. But it is not a free for all.

So diddl, why not say anything?

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