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Sleepover DISASTER wwyd

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sunnyshowers · 07/01/2017 04:03

It's my dd birthday sleepover and they're still awake shouting and screaming and laughing....discussing fun the next day..that's ok ish.
My big quandary is that at midnight my 3 kids started vomiting and vomiting and vomiting. The younger ones hadn't mixed but when dd felt funny I removed her immediatly. ..and then she started a half hr later and they're upstairs while the party s downstairs.
Now what do I do??? I m so tired I can't fathom it. At midnight I should have called but didn't have the measure of the sickness. They ate the same thing today so it's a bug or poisoning...pretty sick cramps. ..screaming when pain comes etc.

I'm awful but I m finding myself angry that the girls are running riot downstairs (not all to be fair) I ve gone in several times but I just went in and got "when's breakfast...what are we having again?" Which I get as I'd planned a great one...
But to be honest I need to get them home asap in the morning before I burst into tears.
So at 8 I text parents-phone and say kids sick all night...take your dc asap in case it's a bug or what?
The riot would be fine if dc weren't so sick and the sick would be fine if I didn't gave 8 other 10yr olds ....just together it's a mess

Poor dd was so looking forward to this special party and she's a crabby mum who's prob made her unpopular in one night....

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IrnBruTortie · 07/01/2017 09:29

Only sympathy for you OP. I hope by now your kids' sickness has stopped, and all the others have gone, and you're getting a bit of sleep yourself.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/01/2017 09:30

I'd want a call to collect.

Starlight2345 · 07/01/2017 09:33

Hope sickness has stopped and all kids gone

3luckystars · 07/01/2017 09:52

I will never allow a sleepover. I would go mad if that was going on. Mad! I have had enough sleep deprivation to sink a battle ship.
Thank you for this thread, I shall refer back to it if my daughter asks for one.

TudorHouse · 07/01/2017 09:57

Sounds a nightmare! Sorry it turned out this way and I hope your kids are feeling better soon...and that all the guests are now gone!

Butteredpars1ps · 07/01/2017 10:05

Poor you. I hope you personally don't get poorly too OP, and that you can all rest and recover today.

VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 07/01/2017 10:07

Hope you're coping OP! Definitely tell the various parents about the behaviour overnight

How old are these kids?!

diddl · 07/01/2017 10:08

"diddl, why wouldn't you say anything about behaviour? I'm just curious."

In this case I'd just be too concerned about getting everyone out so that I could concentrate on my own kids.

Well, I might say something if asked.

How old are the girls?

When my daughter had sleepovers on the one time that someone wasn't settling down, the others told her to shut up or call her parents to take her home.

Foureyesarebetterthantwo · 07/01/2017 10:12

3 I have had sleepovers with one additional child! You don't have to have 9 of them, aged 10, plus three other children in the house. The Op envisaged a big fun party, just didn't envisage that this almost always leads to sleeplessness, as not enough beds, too much excitement, and the one or two that are not asleep keep the others from falling asleep too.

Op, I hope you have your house back and you are not all struck down.

Backingvocals · 07/01/2017 10:14

I was shocked at the behaviour at DD's sleepover too. Half the girls wanted to sleep but two of them were on their phones at 3am and keeping everyone awake. . They were all 9/10. They'd been very firmly told multiple times and I am quite strict. If another parent told me off that firmly in someone else's house at 3am I'd have been sobbing. They really didn't care. Won't be doing that again. I didn't bother mentioning the behaviour but just made mental notes re their parents!

And with the vomiting too - awful. Poor you.

dowhatnow · 07/01/2017 10:16

I still have bad memories of a sleepover with 6 friends for my dd's 9th birthday. They were limited to 3 max from then on.

I also found that with non birthday regular sleepoverees/my DC, I would say that if they were settled at 11pm/midnight, depending on age, then I would be happy for as many sleepovers as they wanted, but if I didn't get any sleep because of them, it would be a long time till the next one. That usually worked and I honoured my promises by allowing regular sleepovers.

TheBogQueen · 07/01/2017 10:17

I had a mass sleepover when Dd was 10, boys and girls.

I was pretty firm with hem - working nightshifts made me very grumpy - so I enforced lights out at midnight.

Also split them up into party animals and sleepers. The sleepers got peace and quiet in one room, the party animals stayed up in another room.

It worked ok. Never again though.

No parent will thank you for bringing their child back having had no keep. They are children and need to be told. I appreciate this is a difficult situation if you have a couple who won't listen though.

sunnyshowers · 07/01/2017 10:23

All except 2 have gone. The w left are cousins and brilliant girls...helping me no end. All parents were great and kids headed off no problems. Gutted they didn't all get tge super brekkie but that was the situation.
If it was just the sleepover I wouldn't mind them awake all night..it was the combination and to be honest I was strested. Didn't say anything they're only kids and bless in someone else's house.. not easy but they'd fun.
We re 99 % sure it's salmonella poisoning. I ve been onto doc and they ve agreed that s most likely the cause. Because the reactions are too close together for it yo be a bug...you d normally have hrs or a day between victims not minutes...
Roll on the tidy up. I ve 2 great heloers

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CurlsandCurves · 07/01/2017 10:25

Oh blimey what a night, op!
DS 2 (7) is after a sleepover for his birthday but I'm holding off. I certainly won't let him invite anyone that hasn't been to a sleepover, or stayed at relatives without parents or been away to beaver camp. I need to know they will be fine here without parents.
DS 1 (11) had his first sleepover party at 10. Fortunately they are all a good bunch of lads. I was strict and laid down the rules upfront. 10pm pjs on. 11pm electronics off and find a place to sleep (they all bedded down in the living room). Midnight, sleep, or talk quietly do not make me come down there!

Hope your poorly kids are doing ok and you can all get some sleep today xx

Foureyesarebetterthantwo · 07/01/2017 10:26

sunny you have survived!

I once had a house party for about 12 7 year olds and I said never again, and that was only for a few hours. There's something about the numbers and the general over-excitement, that sends them all crazy. One was crying, one was shrieking and even normally nice kids were behaving badly.

You live and learn.

TSSDNCOP · 07/01/2017 10:26

Hope they've all gone now OP and you can declare today an official day of rest.

I just don't get sleepovers at all. The actual word makes me irrationally irritated. But I honestly don't get the attraction at all, and have been firmly rejecting the notion since the DC were about 4. They have friends parents that are insistent, but we are like this chez TSS about the appeal.

1horatio · 07/01/2017 10:29

sunny well, that's something at least...
Are your DC feeling better?

Bless the two cousins! Maybe you could let them take home something of the awesome breakfast? Idk what you planned, but I for exampe would have baked Zopf (not-sweat challah bread) and might make them take that as a thank you? Unless it's salmonella contaminated, of course...

diddl · 07/01/2017 10:30

Hope you all get the rest you need, Op.

I think that I've been very lucky.

My daughter's first sleepover party was so easy that we did 3 more!

The year it was decided to be a PJ party was a great hit!

No mobiles back then though!-well, not for kids.

hmcAsWas · 07/01/2017 10:32

I had this with dd and her peers from Y5 through to Y7; its a novelty at that age to stay up all night. Despite being threatened with sanctions etc they steadfastly refused to sleep (not with open defiance but by appearing to settle down and 10 minutes later the noise would restart) Now if dd has sleepovers (she's in Y10) - its just a couple of friends, they stay up until around midnight then fall asleep and then don't surface until late morning. They've outgrown the 'lets stay up all night' mentality

I hope your dc are feeling a bit better today

sunnyshowers · 07/01/2017 10:36

The last 3 got pancakes berries Nutella etc and had a lovely brekkie . Goodie bags and brownies going home.
They're lovely kids and to be honest I wasn't cross with them just worried...I d my 3 upstairs in my room and couldn't empty the vomit bowls quick enough. One twin was vomiting into the showers one into toilet and dd into a basin...it was relentless...
They ll be fine. Just need to sterilise and keep fluids in. Its better for sleepover kids to go home, they're exhausted and the parents were fantastic...when I talked it through they all though food poisoning....just based on times etc. Thankfully it wasn't my cooking lol.

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MotherofA · 07/01/2017 10:40

I can't believe you had to deal with this op , I really feel for you ! This is why I haven't done sleepovers for a couple of years , they were up till 4 at the last one I did despite me going quite mad ?! I find it ridiculous people have tried to blame you or criticise you for "allowing" them to stay up . Let's be clear at sleepovers the other people's children do not listen to you !
As for talking about boys if they are only ten this scares me as my DD is 10 very soon . Hope you get a good nights rest tonight .

sunnyshowers · 07/01/2017 10:43

The boys thing scared me...one girl was texting one all night....I was like wtf? 3 were into thst the others went into their own group to tell stories. The dynamics were different. Depends on the child...hope mine isn't into them for ahe's. .years

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irie · 07/01/2017 10:44

Hope the kids get better soon! What did they eat?

sunnyshowers · 07/01/2017 10:57

Chicken goujons...dd got them and shared with twins. They started vomiting 8-10 hrs later. I did look and this they look juicy and different but we were mad planning the shopping for the party.
They ve ticked all the boxes for poisoning and dd ate out of date ham in my mum's years ago and it's the same kinda thing (I swear to god I don't want to finish them off)
It s just such a pity. .I would have loved her to be up giggling at 5am with her friends...that's why I had it last night...so all kids got 2 sleeps at home before school starts back. Sure best laid plans...I d even set a pish table for brekkie...kids said best sleepover ever...pity birthday girl didn't see it all

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Sara107 · 07/01/2017 11:05

What a shame, for all involved. Tbh, in a situation like that I would not mind at all being phoned in the middle of the night to take my child home. Hope they're all feeling better!

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