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AIBU to think my bf daughter is to young to have her dyed?

79 replies

queenbeeee · 06/01/2017 23:03

My friend is allowing her 11 yr old daughter to get her hair dip dyed. AIBU to tell her she is way to young?

OP posts:
Ellisandra · 06/01/2017 23:29

I've got a 7 year old who:

  • would love a dip dye
  • sometimes says "I wish I could still have mimi* mummy, it was so lovely"

(*her old word for breastfeeding)

Does that help? Grin

YetAnotherSpartacus · 06/01/2017 23:31

Why does she want it dyed?

BIgBagofJelly · 06/01/2017 23:32

lol I also read it as breastfed then was thinking surely the issue is that someone's breastfeeding an 11 year old!

I might mention that it could be against school rules but other than that who cares if she dyes her hair? Am I missing something (I've never dyed my hair in my life)? Won't it eventually fade out or get cut off anyway? Not like she's getting her face tattooed!

Lunar1 · 06/01/2017 23:32

It's probably better than the sun in and lemons we used to use!

Liiinoo · 06/01/2017 23:33

Our family policy on this was when they were old enough to pay for the dye/piercing/acrylic nails themselves they could do it. Even when they had the money through gifts or premium bond wins the lure of beanie babies or other treats of the era was always greater than the lure of cosmetic treatments. (Until one turned 18 and got a tattoo.)

11 does sound young to me, but every family is different.

Benedikte2 · 06/01/2017 23:35

I'd worry about health implications for one so young. Hair dye has been found to be in the urine for some time after dyeing. Some suggestion the darker dyes might be carcinogenic

SpareASquare · 06/01/2017 23:35

We dip dyed my 10 yr olds hair for the holidays. Such fun, she loved it. Best thing about dip dyeing is that it can be cut off.
She wanted blue but it didn't work so she got a really nice purply pink :)

wigglesrock · 06/01/2017 23:36

My eldest asked me last year if she could get her hair dip dyed in the summer when she was 11 (summer birthday). I had no issue with it at all but when summer rolled around, I mentioned it to her and she didn't want it done any more - apparently it's died a death as a hair thing (no pun intended).

Confusednotcom · 06/01/2017 23:37

Dip dyeing at 11 is fine IMO

theoldtrout01876 · 06/01/2017 23:40

My 11 year old has a short spiky cut that at the moment is blue. Tomorrow she is having it bleached out and dyed red. Its hair colour, no big deal

SandyY2K · 06/01/2017 23:42

It's too young IMO. I wouldn't let my 14 yo dye her hair. .... Neither would the school.

GarrulousGrimoire · 06/01/2017 23:44

It's a bit of dye for fun, my DDs are 4 and 7 and have played with hair chalks and sprays (nightmare), I might let them dye a strip or dip dye at the beginning of summer so I can lip the ends off for school. I just can't get the angst about it!

TheTrollinator · 07/01/2017 00:02

YABU First day of the summer holiday is traditionally the day the little Trollinators get their hair dip dyed. Then just before school starts the ends get cut off in time for school.

VerbenaGirl · 07/01/2017 00:05

I let my 9 year old DD dip dye her hair blue for the summer hols. It was fab. Pretty much faded out by September and the back to school trim took care of that. I can see absolutely no harm in it.

Huldra · 07/01/2017 00:10

You can think what you like but don't say anything out loud to your friend.

Mrsjudelaw66 · 07/01/2017 00:10

I'm seriously considering dyeing my 7 and 9 year olds hair as a last ditch resort to ridding them of bloody head lice.

furiousatthebullies · 07/01/2017 00:12

I would say you are nosey AF

HalfaFishFingerAndTwoPeas · 07/01/2017 00:12

Mrs it works a treat!

OpalTree · 07/01/2017 00:18

If you would never fall out then you are not like sisters! Grin

Ilovecaindingle · 07/01/2017 00:23

JaniceBattersby I got suspended from school for using that!! It wouldn't wash out!!

notangelinajolie · 07/01/2017 00:34

Probably best to say nothing. I dyed my 11 year olds hair - someone had told her that her hair would look lovely and sun kissed if she squeezed a fresh lemon in her hair every morning while she was on holiday. It didn't. The suns rays turned her lovely ash blond hair a nice shade of pale peach. I had to rush out and buy a colour the moment we got home - she was due to start her first day at secondary school the next day. It worked thank goodness!

Summerisdone · 07/01/2017 00:45

I definitely don't think you should say anything as it really isn't anything to do with you and isn't putting the child in any danger that you should need to speak up.
I know some would personally feel 11 is a little young but TBH I don't see the issue. Then again my mum has allowed myself and all my younger sisters to dye our hair from the age of 11.
I went from brown to red full-head, and I have since had literally every colour going over the past 16 years.
My DM doing it for me prevented me from trying to do it myself and wrecking my hair whilst looking a mess with patchy colouring, which I would have inevitably done by 13 if not earlier.

TheCaptainsMum · 07/01/2017 00:51

My mum bleached my hair blonde when I was a toddler up until I was about 6. That is stupid.

Dip dyeing so that no contact is made with skin, on a much older child? So long as the child is fine with the possibility that the dyed section may need to be cut off if the school doesn't like it, I think it's acceptable.

caringcarer · 07/01/2017 00:51

It is up to you to make comments on your own child's hair but not her BF. That is up to her parents. Some schools will exclude for dip dyed hair. I suspect you are really upset that your DD BF appears to being growing up and want to keep your DD a child a little longer. All kids have to grow up.

CloneClubSestra · 07/01/2017 00:52

YABU. Fun age for unicorn hair. My daughters were in infant school when they first had coloured hair. 11 years old is like being a pensioner before being allowed to experiment with hair Grin