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Original poster

to shop my exH for tax evasion?

35 replies

tenpence · 05/01/2017 16:08

...just that really. He's been incredibly abusive since I became disabled. Doesn't pay any maintenance for DS. Has another property where the tenants are all paying him cash in hand. He was on 110k when we were together. When we split, he declared he was depressed and couldn't work, although he still is working of course. I just want to get some sort of maintenance for DS but I can't see any other way of doing it apart from shopping him, as the CMA have told me to do. Will they investigate me too? Just not sure I can go through another stressful period, my nerves are so jangled trying to divorce him. Be gentle please!!

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Hissy · 05/01/2017 16:14

Do it. Just do it. It's money for your children. His look out if he's evading tax

The law MUST catch up with these arseholes!

SallyInSweden · 05/01/2017 16:19

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namechangemyaddress123 · 05/01/2017 16:22

I think you should - however, why are you concerned that they will investigate you?

SheldonCRules · 05/01/2017 16:25

Of course if he's evading tax you should report him.

However if he was doing the same when you were together and you didn't shop him then as you benefitted then you are just as culpable as him as being married all assets and businesses share an interest.

Katy07 · 05/01/2017 16:28

You can report him anonymously online. You should report him - tax evasion is illegal.

ohfourfoxache · 05/01/2017 16:30

Do it.

wasonthelist · 05/01/2017 16:33

You can try it - I know someone who is a serial illegal tax dodger - who even brags about it. I know he was reported by his ex, and I also know HMRC took zero interest. Same with his dodgy benefit claims - some people seem to get away with anything.

KnittedBlanketHoles · 05/01/2017 16:35

Yes, do it. He IBU.

Tenshidarkangel · 05/01/2017 16:38

I would but only for the basis that he should be contributing to the upkeep of his child.

Crowdblundering · 05/01/2017 16:58

I did this and sweet FA happened even though he is self employed and reckons he can only pay me £150 maintenance a month but had 5 holidays last year.

Also been waiting on the CSA for over a year Hmm

lovelearning · 05/01/2017 17:13

trying to divorce

tenpence

Forget tax evasion

You need to focus on securing your son's future

Do you have a lawyer?

LittleBooInABox · 05/01/2017 17:45

I did it to my ex, who gave his job up when we split up to claim benefits. yet remained working cash in hand for my uncle.

Shopped them both.

Lostpangolin · 05/01/2017 17:48

Shop him for your children's and all other tax payers sake

JMKid · 05/01/2017 19:07

That sounds exactly like my exwasonthelist. Mr Teflon I call him now.

anotheryearcomesandgoes · 05/01/2017 19:16

Well you need to be sure that he is tax evading. Nothing in your 1st post suggests that conclusively?

anotheryearcomesandgoes · 05/01/2017 19:18

To add, if you are not divorced then you also own the property where rent is being paid in cash (nothing necessarily wrong with that)

Patriciathestripper1 · 05/01/2017 19:19

Did you think about shopping him when you were together?

RaspberryOverloadTheFirst · 05/01/2017 19:21

anotheryearcomesandgoes Thu 05-Jan-17 19:18:20

To add, if you are not divorced then you also own the property where rent is being paid in cash (nothing necessarily wrong with that)

Wouldn't that mean OP would be entitled to half the income?

Isitjustmeorisiteveryoneelse · 05/01/2017 19:24

I can see why you'd want to but if he gets caught out you're still not going to get maintenance if he's paying off what he owes/gets a custodial sentence. Also, you say he owns 'another property' - does that mean you're living in a property owned by him or that was jointly owned by him when you were together (when he could also have been evading tax). If HMRC catch up with him they'll be taking his assets to pay the bill.

Man10 · 05/01/2017 19:40

To add, if you are not divorced then you also own the property where rent is being paid in cash (nothing necessarily wrong with that)

In the UK being married doesn't automatically make you an owner of your spouse's assets.

ForalltheSaints · 05/01/2017 21:01

YANBU. He also ought to be charged with perjury.

Original poster
tenpence · 05/01/2017 21:05

Thanks all, I'm trying to divorce -it's be ongoing on for 4 years, been to court umpteen times, he's dragged his feet at every stage. Unfortunately any stress makes my illness worse which he knows well. But is also why I wonder if I should do it, I have all documentation alright regarding my finances but worried because we were married that they might drill into mine and start harrassing me! I'm concerned about going through anything like that as my health is so fragile. Thanks for advice in anycase. Will hope for some good days healthwise so i get on with it.

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seasidesally · 05/01/2017 22:21

like others have said did he avoid paying tax when you were together ??

lovelearning · 06/01/2017 05:42

If HMRC catch up with him they'll be taking his assets to pay the bill

tenpence

You have a right to his assets

Find a new lawyer

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 06/01/2017 06:04

You have a right to his assets

As does HMRC if he is found to be tax evading.

Was he also tax evading whilst you were together?