For wanting to pee first?

[MadJeffBarn]

Dd 5 has been in our bed last couple nights because she's been unwell. She must have slept deeply last night because she wet our bed. When she told me I stripped it off, and sent her downstairs to her dad to get some spray and kitchen towel. I went to the loo, and dh came upstairs to get our son out of bed. Didn't know what spray I meant, and had a huge go at me. Said I should have got the spray myself, that the bed needed cleaning before going for a wee.
I'm exhausted from dealing with a poorly child, and am on my ninth day of tonsillitus and tbh I'm so not in the mood for his shit, especially when I needed to pee. Aibu?

Your DH was a dick. YANBU.

Your DH is an absolute wanker. YANBU.

YANBU. You are also unwell. Where is the support?

No yanbu! You needed to pee.... I'm sure your DH wouldn't want another accident from the sounds of it!
Also, it's only a bit of wee, it's hardly going to hurt anyone is it.. I think your DH needs to calm down a bit and give you a bit of a break...

Incredibly mean. The only reason to stop someone for peeing is a house fire, really. WTF?

I hope he apologises.

Your DH is

• unsupportive, for having a go at you when you are sick
• incompetent, for not knowing how to sort out an accident
• aggressive, for losing his shit over something unavoidable
• arrogant and possibly sexist, for thinking it's 'your job' to deal with this even though you are ill.

In short, as PPs have said, he's behaving like a wanker. Please tell me he's not normally this bad?

He's weird about cleaning. Always has been, he genuinely thinks cleaning comes before anything else. He's had so many cold dinners because he cant sit down until everything is clean and tidy.
He's been supportive, last week I was passing in and out of consciousness for about 3 days. But then he reaches a point of being fed up of looking after the kids and the house and just stops being supportive, and makes life even more stressful by being stressy. I don't understand his reasoning. He did apologise though.

Is this typical behaviour for your husband? Because he sounds like a prick. What, exactly, does he think is going to happen to the bed to make things worse in the two or three minutes it took you to nip to the toilet? You'd already stripped it before you went for a wee anyway.

I don't understand why he thinks you had to be the one to go and get the spray, or why you are having to do everything when you are also ill yourself.

If this is a one-off, he was a twat and he owes you an apology. If this is typical for him, it's much bigger problem.

I don't get it - he's brilliant at cleaning, but he doesn't know what to do when a child wets the bed? How can that be?

It sounds as though the disorder of your DD's accident really stressed him out, and he snapped. That's not OK, though - why is he so wound up about tidiness in this way - it sounds like he may need help? And nor is it OK to withdraw support just when it's most needed, when times are at their toughest.