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Being left out or am I being paronid

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Raggydolly3 · 04/01/2017 03:23

First time posting on mumsnet. Just need some advice on something weird that has happened.
I met a girl through a toddler group and got friendly with her, had play dates and went out for the odd meal together.
This girl did not have many friends and seemed a bit isolated so I introduced her to one of my best friends, who also had a child the same age. We all met up a few times and it seemed to go ok.
Recently I have noticed that neither of them is contracting me as much, and the girl who was one of my best friends has been really short with me as if I have done something wrong. I have confronted her but she said I was imagining it.
Today it was all over Facebook that the two of them had met up with the kids but I was not invited. On the comments below they were thanking each other for a good day and it turns out they have planned a spa day together.

I asked why I had not been included in Spa day and got back a message saying we thought your were working (it's a Saturday and I hardly ever work on a Saturday)
There have also been some posts of Facebook from them both with quotes about true friendship and getting rid of "toxic friends".
I have asked them both if there is a problem and they have denied it. I have a horrible feeling the new "friend" has been slagging me off to my old "friend" and my old "friend" has believed whatever she has said.

The only other thing I can think off is about a month ago I was meant to be meeting them, had a huge seizure and could not go (I am epileptic). My old "friend" was fine as she knows about my seizures but the new "friend" sent me a text saying I should not let the seizures rule my life and I should come out anyway, and I am disappointing her son.
If I am being slagged off i can't believe my friend of over 20 years would believe this other girl over me. Not sure what to do from here

OP posts:
ClopySow · 04/01/2017 20:20

Good on you op

ohfourfoxache · 04/01/2017 20:31

You have SO done the right thing. I really hope she finds out about the holiday and what you had planned

SallyGinnamon · 04/01/2017 20:46

Really pleased to hear you're moving on OP. I can't stand the childish behaviour of some adults.

lottieandmia · 04/01/2017 21:15

Good for you Op Flowers

magoria · 04/01/2017 21:22

I know it is easier to say but it is her loss.

You have lost a bitchy shitty friend.

She has lost a diamond and gained a bitchy shitty friend.

TheBadgersMadeMeDoIt · 04/01/2017 22:34

Well played, OP! I do love a tale of justice. I hope your trip to France is fantastic, and I hope your old "friend" just accidentally happens to find out what she missed out on.

JorahsMissus · 04/01/2017 22:53

Well played OP. Old friend will absolutely regret this down the line. So sorry you have lost what was a good friend but I am glad you have other friends aswell.

CaraAspen · 04/01/2017 23:06

I feel sorry for her poor husband. What an embarrassment she must be to him. Lol

Great news about France, OP. Well played indeed!!Smile

KathArtic · 04/01/2017 23:30

Actually, the term Wendy on MN comes from an op who wrote "I have a new friend, lets call her Wendy...." you know the rest.

manandbeast · 04/01/2017 23:42

You sound fantastic.
They sound FUCKING awful and frankly deserve eachother.
Don't give them another thought and bloody enjoy your holiday!
Flowers

RTKangaSANTAMummy · 05/01/2017 00:40

GREAT result there OP

Hope you and your other friend have a fab time in France together

Raggydolly3 · 05/01/2017 02:11

Thanks for the help and advice. My friend that I am now going with says she will accidentally on purpose let her find out.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 05/01/2017 04:21

Mmmm good. Nice to know you have friends on side.

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