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AIBU?

Being left out or am I being paronid

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Raggydolly3 · 04/01/2017 03:23

First time posting on mumsnet. Just need some advice on something weird that has happened.
I met a girl through a toddler group and got friendly with her, had play dates and went out for the odd meal together.
This girl did not have many friends and seemed a bit isolated so I introduced her to one of my best friends, who also had a child the same age. We all met up a few times and it seemed to go ok.
Recently I have noticed that neither of them is contracting me as much, and the girl who was one of my best friends has been really short with me as if I have done something wrong. I have confronted her but she said I was imagining it.
Today it was all over Facebook that the two of them had met up with the kids but I was not invited. On the comments below they were thanking each other for a good day and it turns out they have planned a spa day together.
I asked why I had not been included in Spa day and got back a message saying we thought your were working (it's a Saturday and I hardly ever work on a Saturday)
There have also been some posts of Facebook from them both with quotes about true friendship and getting rid of "toxic friends".
I have asked them both if there is a problem and they have denied it. I have a horrible feeling the new "friend" has been slagging me off to my old "friend" and my old "friend" has believed whatever she has said.
The only other thing I can think off is about a month ago I was meant to be meeting them, had a huge seizure and could not go (I am epileptic). My old "friend" was fine as she knows about my seizures but the new "friend" sent me a text saying I should not let the seizures rule my life and I should come out anyway, and I am disappointing her son.
If I am being slagged off i can't believe my friend of over 20 years would believe this other girl over me. Not sure what to do from here

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Mummyoflittledragon · 05/01/2017 04:21

Mmmm good. Nice to know you have friends on side.

Raggydolly3 · 05/01/2017 02:11

Thanks for the help and advice. My friend that I am now going with says she will accidentally on purpose let her find out.

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RTKangaSANTAMummy · 05/01/2017 00:40

GREAT result there OP

Hope you and your other friend have a fab time in France together

manandbeast · 04/01/2017 23:42

You sound fantastic.
They sound FUCKING awful and frankly deserve eachother.
Don't give them another thought and bloody enjoy your holiday!

KathArtic · 04/01/2017 23:30

Actually, the term Wendy on MN comes from an op who wrote "I have a new friend, lets call her Wendy...." you know the rest.

CaraAspen · 04/01/2017 23:06

I feel sorry for her poor husband. What an embarrassment she must be to him. Lol

Great news about France, OP. Well played indeed!!

JorahsMissus · 04/01/2017 22:53

Well played OP. Old friend will absolutely regret this down the line. So sorry you have lost what was a good friend but I am glad you have other friends aswell.

TheBadgersMadeMeDoIt · 04/01/2017 22:34

Well played, OP! I do love a tale of justice. I hope your trip to France is fantastic, and I hope your old "friend" just accidentally happens to find out what she missed out on.

magoria · 04/01/2017 21:22

I know it is easier to say but it is her loss.

You have lost a bitchy shitty friend.

She has lost a diamond and gained a bitchy shitty friend.

lottieandmia · 04/01/2017 21:15

Good for you Op

SallyGinnamon · 04/01/2017 20:46

Really pleased to hear you're moving on OP. I can't stand the childish behaviour of some adults.

ohfourfoxache · 04/01/2017 20:31

You have SO done the right thing. I really hope she finds out about the holiday and what you had planned

ClopySow · 04/01/2017 20:20

Good on you op

LeninaCrowne · 04/01/2017 20:09

I'm pleased to hear about your job situation - well done!

Enjoy your trip to France .

AmeliaJack · 04/01/2017 19:52

Good for you. I hope he tells his wife.

Raggydolly3 · 04/01/2017 19:45

I may be getting my own back here though
I have been offered use of a holiday cottage for free in a very nice part of France for a week in July. DH has some important work stuff that week so can't come.
I found this out at the beginning of December and had arranged with friends DH to take friend with me, and between the two DHs they would manage the kids. It was going to be a surprise for my friends birthday (special birthday) and I was going to pay for the flights.
I have messaged my friends DH tonight to say I don't think this will now be possible and he has messaged back straight away that he does not blame me at all and he is sorry for his wives behaviour. He said she is very unhappy in her job but won't do anything about it and new friend has latched on to this.
I have asked my other good friend to join me and she has jumped at it as she is single with no kids.

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Raggydolly3 · 04/01/2017 19:32

Luckily I think my DH and her DH are both level headed adults who will carry on their friendship regardless which is of course what I want. They are not best friends but good friends and part of the same pool team. I know the old friends DH likes me and has obviously has stuck up for me, he really does not like the new friend.
Anyway I have defriended from Facebook and have decided to make a clean break, if she comes crawling back then i think I will tell her to do one. I won't beg for a friendship at my age, been there and done that as a native teenager, never again

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HughLauriesStubble · 04/01/2017 19:11

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EustaceClarenceScrubb · 04/01/2017 18:58

Forgot to say- well done for getting your job!

EustaceClarenceScrubb · 04/01/2017 18:56

new friend has been saying I don't deserve my good job as I have seizures

What a nasty person.

^^ This
It is people like her that make me despair for my my DC's future living with epilepsy. As if having seizures wasn't shit enough, dealing with other people's mean comments is almost as bad. Really cross on your behalf, they both sound horrible OP, leave them too it!

lottieandmia · 04/01/2017 18:21

I agree with TheBadgers. This woman sounds really nasty and jealous.

TheBadgersMadeMeDoIt · 04/01/2017 16:02

This whole situation almost certainly stems from jealousy. Old friend was probably harbouring some envy about your very respectable and rewarding job. New friend picked up on that and started feeding it, to drive a wedge between you.

They deserve each other. Let them wallow together in resentment until they rot. You are better than both of them. I don't blame you for mourning the loss of your old friendship but in time I think you'll find you haven't really lost anything.

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Raggydolly3 · 04/01/2017 15:54

Thanks. The place I work for really supported me when I could not work so I was so made up when I got the job, it feels I am giving something back

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Andylion · 04/01/2017 15:25

new friend has been saying I don't deserve my good job as I have seizures

What a nasty person.

DixieWishbone · 04/01/2017 14:35

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