To no expect to receive a text 5mins before a date asking if I am on the pill!

[OopsDearyMe]

Seriously, first date since divorce 5 years ago. Met on POF and both seemed to want the same thing, not just a one night stand or anything like it. So arranged dated tonight, booked babysitter, did all the usual stuff spent money on clothes and hair , make up stuff and hour getting looking really pretty stunning (and its not easy to say that) and then 5 mins before he is due I get a random text asking if I am on the pill!!!!!!!
WFT?
when I said not sure why that's relevant and made it clear its not something he needed to know for tonight anyway, he tells me that we have got our wires crossed and ghosts me!!!
So had to pay and send babysitter away and now embarrassed and feeling like wow crap.

Is this all there is left?

I went on POF once after splitting with my ex. I was sat happily in my pjs one evening having a grnerwl browse and up popped a message

I recognise you from your picture ... I live at number x ( 3 doors away! ) my Mum has just popped to co op, do you fancy a few mins of fun? .. I have protection waiting!

I didn't reply but gave this chap a cold stare every time I saw him in passing. We had never spoken, he was a fair bit older than me and he must have seen my children, what did he think I would leave them alone to pop a few doors down for a shag with a stranger!

I bet you looked great op, you've dodged a manky bullet there. I hope you have more luck in future. 😊

I've heard it all now! 🤢

Classy, not. There must be some nice men on there, finding them is the difficult bit.

In my teen years I went on a first date with a seemingly nice bloke.
We met up in the pub, had a couple of soft drinks, went to the toilets before we walked out to Our respective cars.
There's that awkward bit when you decide a peck on the cheek or a polite hug.
He leaned in and said that I could get in his car and go for a drive, that he was all prepared, as he'd just been and put a condom on. No second date.

Worra i totally agree with your post Same laws should apply online.

ha ha ha, what a stupid loser he is
no doubt he's not had sex for 10 years with idiot one liners like that

Perhaps you should have gone to meet him anyway - armed with the perfect putdown provided by MNers, to be delivered whilst you're looking ultra sexy, preferably in front of an audience

I'd say it was his way of sushi g out whether he was getting a shag or wasting his time. Rude but he saved you hassle in the long run.

I'd have been temped to reply something like "No I dont need to take the pill, I prefer anal"

Lucky escape, he did you a sort of favour in sending that text. What a dick.

Well at least my charmer waited for the second date to ask if I would go on the pill for him. He was rather deflated when I said no.

Mind you I sort of had him pegged as a tosser when he tried to impress me by saying he 'had' to drive a Merc...but turned up in a van for the date...

Oh shit...I didn't think he was a tosser for turning up in the van..I couldn't give a toss. It was the bragging and thinking it would impress me

Eurgh! Lucky escape I'd say. I can imagine a guy debating whether or not to buy condoms and thinking "I know I'll text her!"

I bet he is fucking riddled!

Your well out of that one!

What is POF?

At least you didn't waste anymore money on him such as buying a drink or paying for half your meal. Or your time for that matter. What a dick.

Questioning POF = plenty of fish

Mercedes make vans - did you check the brand?

What a charmer.

Personally I wouldn't try so hard on a first date to wear a knock-out glamorous outfit. I'd just have a shower, wear jeans and a nice top and do my hair and make-up.

How can 'are you on the pill' just before a date be interpretated as anything except 'I'm expecting bareback sex'?

It's a shame there's no feedback on profiles where you can warn about this.

Plenty of FuckingDickheads.

Lucky escape!

I would have replied

"No, but I guess biologically speaking I was born 'male'. So deffo won't get PG!! See you soon sexy!"

Got to hand it to the twat: it's a good way of separating the women who will be happy to have unprotected sex on a first date from those who won't. If you are genuinely only interested in a shag, it is an efficient strategy!

Shocking. Sorry he was an arse.

One bad apple though, remember he is only representing himself, not all the men on the dating site. Please keep looking, just be aware that horrible and very lovely people use dating sites (and the internet) be on your guard.

I recon he changed his mind/bottled out and did to put you off that rather than tell you

Probably 10 years older than his profile picture

cant you chat before you meet?
communicate for a while to help you suss people out?

Don't lose hope with POF - I met me OH on there 4 years ago and we're expecting our first baby now.

I do remember the minefield it was though - I would say out of every 100 messages (and believe me they came through thick and fast) I would respond to 1.