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AIBU?

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Stop holding my hand, I'm an adult!

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2017ReasonsToMoan · 02/01/2017 10:22

Text from school to parents:

"Don't forget school reopens Thursday 5th January at 0845"

Is it any wonder adults are behaving more and more like children when responsibilities are not expected of them?

We get the holiday list. The weekly reminders in the newsletter. Now a text in the middle of my holiday.

If I'm so irresponsible to need this, you can bet your ass I'll have forgotten again by Thursday. Why bother?

Ahhh.

That felt good.

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Groovee · 02/01/2017 12:43

You would be amazed at how many people are always asking on Facebook "is school in to,row?" "What time do they finish on the last day of term?" "Is there a Monday Holiday this weekend?"

I find it helpful for parents night as at high school we rarely get an email.

KnittedBlanketHoles · 02/01/2017 12:43

We live within our means and and commit only to the things we have time for. Including the number of children we had.

Smug, much? And do you really live within your means, really? Well, one accident and expensive operation and you don't- you'll be being carried just like others that you're critical of... So are you really so clever to be living within your means or just bloody lucky?

longdiling · 02/01/2017 12:47

Everyone drops a ball sometimes, even the super organised people. I can't honestly imagine that the odd text from the school will turn me into some kind of gibbering idiot who needs to be hand fed information and can't take responsibility for running her own life. I also can't imagine there are many people who have spent this week scratching their heads wondering when the kids are going back but thinking 'i won't bother checking that letter or looking online because that sounds like too much responsibility, I'll wait for the school to text me'

Frusso · 02/01/2017 13:16

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squiz81 · 02/01/2017 13:24

We get newsletters and you can synch your calendar with the schools...yet there are always questions about dates posted to the FB group. The text probably is needed for lots of people.

OrangeSquashTallGlass · 02/01/2017 13:30

This is such a non issue OP.

GertrudeBelle · 02/01/2017 14:29

OP is just trolling. She is tittering away having wound MNers up with obviously ludicrous opinions. She's obviously got nothing better to do but, even so, don't feed her.

EuropeanSwallow · 02/01/2017 14:47

My doctor and dentist call me 24 hours before an appointment to remind me. Airlines text and email me reminders of my itinerary before my flights. Hotels remind me of my booking a day or a couple of days before. I don't call it handholding or me refusing to take responsibility for my own schedule, I call it helpful because I'm human and I don't always remember to check my appointment calendar when life gets in the way of even the most carefully organised and meticulous schedule.

I've had an extra busy few weeks with work, visitors over Christmas, a minor flood in my kitchen because of a broken pipe under the sink, air pressure problem in one of my car tyres - any one of a number of unexpected little or big occurrences that can wipe a carefully, planned schedule right out of my head.

Of course that would never happen to you OP, you are so totally on top of everything, so on the ball all day every day, so superior in every way to us lesser mortals - wish I could be more like you and then I too could get all snotty about nuisance reminder texts and look down on others. Or maybe not.

NewNNfor2017 · 02/01/2017 14:55

I'm with you OP - it frustrates me that the School has to invest in the technology/staff time to accommodate these parental "needs".

Similarly, I resent having to pay more at the acupuncturist/optician/beautician to cover the cost of their "reminder texts".

The standard of service society demands from both public and private providers is ever increasing, yet we all complain when they cost us more.

I know that I have become "lazy" because of these reminders - "oh, it's all right, I'll get a text". this year, I don't even have a wall calendar yet, whereas a few years ago, all the dates for the forthcoming year would have been written in before NYE.

verystressedmum · 02/01/2017 14:56

Well aren't you little miss perfect I need reminders otherwise my dc wouldn't turn up anywhere as one of my dc has cancer and I'm a little bit preoccupied but I still keep everything running as smoothly as possible.

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2017ReasonsToMoan · 02/01/2017 15:05

Im pretty confident that for every pearl clutching reply claiming that the the poster isn't irresponsible but life is just so hard there are 99 people reading this and agreeing with me and the few voices of reason on this thread.

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NavyandWhite · 02/01/2017 15:07

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verystressedmum · 02/01/2017 15:10

Sometimes life is just so hard. Are you this much of a twat in real life too?

longdiling · 02/01/2017 15:13

yes op, everyone agrees with you, they just aren't replying to say so. I admire your self belief if nothing else.

dingdongthewitchishere · 02/01/2017 15:14

agreeing with me and the few voices of reason on this thread.

What makes you think you are right and you are queen of the world?
Judgmental and narrow-minded, you sound charming

It's always people like you who end up with the wrong passport at the airport, or miss on an important medical appointment. Go easy on the judgement, it will end up biting you in the ass. Sadly, you won't come on here to admit that you are no longer Miss Perfect.

Frusso · 02/01/2017 15:14

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SoupDragon · 02/01/2017 15:15

I'm pretty confident that for every person who agreed with you, there are 99 who rolled their eyes at you.

Simonneilsbeard · 02/01/2017 15:16

I'm finding this thread more and more ridiculous.
Being organised isn't really anything to be smug about is it? It's one of those things ..you either are or you aren't. I'm as forgetful as they come and make no excuse for it. My dcs schools send letters home daily! These get lost or thrown out if I don't file them or pin them the day I get them it's that simple. The schools websites are dire..I screen shot the term dates and add them to my phones notes section. It takes 2 seconds to update myself of these every so often.
I appreciate the school texts but I certainly don't rely on them nor do they bother me. If they are helping some children get to school then what's to complain about? If you're lazy then you're lazy ..it's the not the schools reminder texts causing the laziness What a bizarre notion ..just opt out of the text.

NewNNfor2017 · 02/01/2017 15:19

It's always people like you who end up with the wrong passport at the airport, or miss on an important medical appointment.

Well of course, everyone does, no one is perfect.

I'm at a loss to understand why a medical centre, school or dental clinic should be responsible for preventing those mistakes though.

It does appear that society has a lot less tolerance for inconvenience or discomfort than previous generations, and so demand solutions to prevent even the most minor of hiccups in our lives.

NewNNfor2017 · 02/01/2017 15:21

What a bizarre notion ..just opt out of the text

I can't opt out of my opticians texts, or my dentists. And guess what - their fees reflect the fact that they provide a reminder service.
I think it should be an opt in service, with an extra fee - not something that everyone ends up paying for regardless.

ghostspirit · 02/01/2017 15:23

Ds school sent us a text saying they are back on the 9th. School website says the 3rd anday government one says the 2nd

dingdongthewitchishere · 02/01/2017 15:25

Well of course, everyone does, no one is perfect.

haven't you read the thread? The OP IS perfect

Technology allow free and easy reminder. Years ago, someone would have had to send a letter or make a phone call. Nowadays, you can send batch emails or texts. It's easier for everybody. Only the OP gets offended.

I get email from my airline reminding me that I am flying tomorrow. I am aware of that, thanks, I just delete them but don't get all smug and start complaining that I am treated like a child. Some people need to grow up.

LineyReborn · 02/01/2017 15:25

This is fucking surreal.

EuropeanSwallow · 02/01/2017 15:26

longdiling The OP said pretty confident so I'm a bit disappointed rather than admiring. She's admitting to a lamentable susceptibility to self-doubt and that's just not acceptable in a role model. It's like my idol has feet of clay. Very disillusioned.

NewNNfor2017 · 02/01/2017 15:28

dingdong It really isn't free.

Text reminders are a modern addition to appointment making - the technology costs money to buy and maintain and the staff who have to send them have to be paid.

The reminder email from your airline is paid for through the cost of your flight. They wouldn't have phoned you, or send you a letter, in the days before email.

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