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Original poster

Stop holding my hand, I'm an adult!

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2017ReasonsToMoan · 02/01/2017 10:22

Text from school to parents:

"Don't forget school reopens Thursday 5th January at 0845"

Is it any wonder adults are behaving more and more like children when responsibilities are not expected of them?

We get the holiday list. The weekly reminders in the newsletter. Now a text in the middle of my holiday.

If I'm so irresponsible to need this, you can bet your ass I'll have forgotten again by Thursday. Why bother?

Ahhh.
BiscuitBrew

That felt good.

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drivingmisspotty · 02/01/2017 10:41

Our school sent one of these in Friday too. I assumed it was because lots of parents has been ringing in to check and secretary was fed up. Seems the most efficient way for the school to make sure everyone definitely knows. Why on earth does it bother you so much? It's one text message, just ignore it!

GreenTureen · 02/01/2017 10:41
Hmm

Yes YABU op. Your replies are getting ridiculous.

Just ignore the bloody text, hardly harming you is it?

Wellitwouldbenice · 02/01/2017 10:41

Don't give any info at all I say. The smart ones (like the op and me) will use our initiative.

PurpleDaisies · 02/01/2017 10:42

Do you want a badge or something? Hmm

Some children grow up in awful circumstances. Doing well in school is a way out for them. Yes, parents shouldn't need this text but it's the kids that suffer if they're not in school.

Original poster
2017ReasonsToMoan · 02/01/2017 10:42

don't understand at all why it bothers you

BiscuitBrew

I'm not sure how I could've made it clear that it was a little, inconsequential rant?

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BreatheDeep · 02/01/2017 10:42

This reminds me of Eddie in Ab Fab

Stop holding my hand, I'm an adult!
ghostspirit · 02/01/2017 10:43

Does it matter it's just a message. Sometimes people have alot on their mind. It does not make them irresponsible.

3awesomestars · 02/01/2017 10:43

No, not really a job, yes it took a minute. I just don't see the link between the school sending a reminder to help parents and everyone who found that useful being an irresponsible parent who behaves like a child.

Maybe all the irresponsible parents would have checked the website at some point today like myself, whilst all the smug ones used that minute to reflect on how brilliant they were for remembering the school calendar off by heart.

Original poster
2017ReasonsToMoan · 02/01/2017 10:43

BreatheDeep Grin

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Original poster
2017ReasonsToMoan · 02/01/2017 10:44

I am brilliant. So are all of you. Don't ever think you insult someone by reflecting on their brilliance.

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Lorelei76 · 02/01/2017 10:44

Wow
I did not know schools do this
I'm amazed enough about doc appt reminders!

Sirzy · 02/01/2017 10:47

Sadly not all parents can be as perfect as you are reasonstomoan

FucksSakeSusan · 02/01/2017 10:47

This thread is proof that the texts are needed. The stupid walk among us. Seriously, how does anyone hold down a job if they can't even note down what day their kids go back to school in a calendar when they get the newsletter or even gasp look it up themself?

Yes, there is the minority of chaotic parents who need this reminder, but it does appear that it's turning a lot of otherwise sensible people from proactive adults into big babies who expect to be nannied.

PurpleDaisies · 02/01/2017 10:47

We get reminders from the vet, dentist, garage, hairdressers and opticians. I really can't see an issue.

Hulababy · 02/01/2017 10:47

It makes sense for school to sent such a text esp when returning on an 'odd' day. Thursday isn't a usual day of returning to school. School know this and have acknowledged this. They will also know that some parents will take advantage and then just consider not sending them til the Monday.
By sending the text the school has covered their responsibilities. They've reminded parents so parents can't then use that as an excuse.

Fwiw I did go and check for dd's school online last week. I go back tomorrow and I know Dd has longer but couldn't remember if it was Monday or Tuesday next week. It was in the calendar in the hall but I like to make sure, incase I missed any changes to INSET etc.

To be fair our head teacher sends a memo to all staff every weekend reminding staff of any key dates. Had one this weekend and it does mention returning on Tuesday.
Dd's school sends a weekly newsletter and that arrived with the date of return on too.

GertrudeBelle · 02/01/2017 10:48

Gosh you sound pretty smug.

Do you never ever remind anyone about anything? Do you always get offended when people remind you about stuff? How horribly rigid.

PurpleDaisies · 02/01/2017 10:48

Yes, there is the minority of chaotic parents who need this reminder, but it does appear that it's turning a lot of otherwise sensible people from proactive adults into big babies who expect to be nannied.

Is it? Confused

Where's the evidence for that?

Blueemeraldagain · 02/01/2017 10:49

I teach in a school where a small but significant number of students lie to their parents/carers about the term start/end (an SEMH school). They will intercept letters and dispose of them. We are trialing text messages as a way of getting the message across.
You'd think after your child had lied one or twice about the date you'd check the website or call but...

SVJAA · 02/01/2017 10:49

We get lots of texts from school, about kids wearing proper uniform, bringing dinner money/applying for free meals, making sure they have the right equipment with them.
They don't offend me because they don't apply to me, and it's got to be sent to every parent otherwise some poor member of staff would need to identify all the crap ones and send it just to them. Which is a waste of everyone's time.

GertrudeBelle · 02/01/2017 10:49

Of course I can look stuff up for myself and will be doing just that. But if my DCs' school had sent a similar text I would have been saved that job.

anotheronebitthedust · 02/01/2017 10:50

Op balance the extremely minor disadvantage "suffered" by you in having to take 5 seconds out of your day to read something you already know, against the much larger help this test has given to all the parents who weren't sure about the date, children whose parents aren't bothered enough to check and schools trying to lower their truancy levels.

I used to wonder who these people were who managed to moan even about the tiniest things...I then worked with a girl who complained when a conference we were at gave us free lunches to take home...because it was one more thing to carry around with her.think you and she would get on op!

Do you find it annoying when train stations announce the next train arriving at platform x is too? because after all if you were a responsible adult you would already know what time your train left and where from so platform announcements are unnecessary...

Birdsgottafly · 02/01/2017 10:52

I often used to have my DD dressed and ready for the school bus (SEN) a day early, by mistake.

I used to see it as a trial run.

The Website for my DDs College is unreliable and generic.

You can miss the letters sent home, if your child's off ill.

It doesn't mean that it's aimed at irresponsible Parents. Doctor (and NHS) appointments are sent via text, I can screen shot them, or transfer them into my Calendar.

That way I've got a permanent reminder, always with me.

Liiinoo · 02/01/2017 10:53

I wish schools had done this when my DDs were younger. Over Christmas with so many bank holidays it is easy to lose track of the days. A reminder a few days ahead would have been very useful.

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2017ReasonsToMoan · 02/01/2017 10:53

Do you find it annoying when train stations announce the next train arriving at platform x is too? because after all if you were a responsible adult you would already know what time your train left and where from so platform announcements are unnecessary...

I DO find this annoying.

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Sirzy · 02/01/2017 10:54

Somehow I have never forgotten to take ds to school, or forgotten to take him to one of appointments with his 10 or more medical teams. However I am thankful for any reminders sent out even if I don't need them that time!

I hope the op never has to take her child to the big children's hospital we use they send out letters, texts and phone to remind of appointments and still people don't cancel but that's a whole other thread