My MIL has been staying at ours. I go overboard to make her feel welcome & the kids are on best behaviour.
I have done this for all her visits over the years but I get really upset as everytime I leave a room she 'whispers' to my DH.
I often don't catch what she is saying, and when I ask DH afterwards he says it's about nothing. Travel plans, weather etc. stuff you have no need to whisper over! It's never when I'm in the room, and if I walk in when she is 'midwhisper' she stops abruptly. If I ask, it's all 'you must be hearing things blah blah how funny'.
It makes me feel awful. To my face she is absolutely gushing and hoping that she is a good house guest. So I've nothing to complain about. She is also very childlike and butter wouldn't melt.
To make it worse when we stay at my SIL's (her other sons wife) she does the same to her. Although she doesn't seem to mind doing it in front of me then and often what she says is a bit horrible to my SIL. Cutting remarks, nothing serious but not very nice at all. Her sons just seem to ignore it which I don't like.
When she leaves (gushingly about how wonderful it all was) I feel like shit and wound up enough to barely acknowledge her leaving, I am literally biting my tongue.
AIBU to get so wound up? I nearly cracked this time and I really don't like DH at the mo. I tell him it's upsetting and he looks at me as if I'm nuts and thinks I am making something out of nothing. Am I losing my mind?